Why I joined this group and what I’m learning about myself

Ellyn

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I joined this group recently because I was growing dissatisfied with another support group of which I belonged. So far I’m thrilled by the shear quantity of very nice, helpful, and outgoing people here! I have been on this site probably longer than I should be over the last few days and somewhat neglecting some work and home related obligations, but the vast amount of information on this site is overwhelming and intrigues me!
About me…
I’m nearly completely urinary incontinent now, which has progressed from lite (but constant) leakage as a young girl to where I am now.
I’ve worn diapers nearly all my life though there were a few years when I was in my late teens, I was able to use pads only. Then the incontinence returned with a vengeance, just as I was entering college. Many blame the stress of leaving home and all but I couldn’t wait to leave behind my life there.
I’m not an AB, nor am I a DL. I’ve learned however that I am diaper dependent physically, due to my birth defects and nerve damage, and well as emotionally. As a young girl, I absolutely despised wearing a diaper. I felt overwhelming shame and hatred for my life for years. I was diapered by my mom at first as punishment and beatings that didn’t affect my leakage but left behind many emotional scars. I was teased by my family, peers, and others for most of my childhood because of wearing diapers where pads would likely sufficed. I was the laughing stock of our rural community. I had suicidal thoughts often but never acted on them, which I credit God’s grace and support.
Fast forward to my early college days where I knew no one and no one knew me. That’s when the wall around me gradually started to weaken. I gradually came out of my shell and began to laugh and enjoy company of people around me!
I’m straight and happily married to a wonderful man. We started a business together shortly after college and marriage. Soon after that we had the first of our two amazing boys. Our business continues to grow and thrive. I’m 1/2 owner, sales manage, lead HR, and wash cups and bottles on demand…. I LOVE recruiting and being around customers and our crews. I’m a good hostess at our numerous get togethers and event parties. HUGE TURNAROUND from the reclusive shy personality I used to be.
With all of that said, I love exploring the numerous posts, especially in the incontinence section. I have made a few suggestions and have learned a lot!
Personally, I’m 4’ 11-1/2” but I claim 5’ tall. I have a slender build with an especially small butt but make up for it with wide hips. For that reason, I’m able to wear cloth diapers without others noticing. I rounds out my butt nicely under a full dress.
I look forward to a long relationship with all of you here!!!
 
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Welcome here I’m also incontinent from ms
 
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Welcome! I have only been on the site for a short amount of time and had the same experience. The first few days I was just glued to it reading and engaging in others stories and experiences!
Also, glad you turned your life around!
 
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Welcome. Looking forward to read more posts
 
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Ellyn said:
I joined this group recently because I was growing dissatisfied with another support group of which I belonged. So far I’m thrilled by the shear quantity of very nice, helpful, and outgoing people here! I have been on this site probably longer than I should be over the last few days and somewhat neglecting some work and home related obligations, but the vast amount of information on this site is overwhelming and intrigues me!
About me…
I’m nearly completely urinary incontinent now, which has progressed from lite (but constant) leakage as a young girl to where I am now.
I’ve worn diapers nearly all my life though there were a few years when I was in my late teens, I was able to use pads only. Then the incontinence returned with a vengeance, just as I was entering college. Many blame the stress of leaving home and all but I couldn’t wait to leave behind my life there.
I’m not an AB, nor am I a DL. I’ve learned however that I am diaper dependent physically, due to my birth defects and nerve damage, and well as emotionally. As a young girl, I absolutely despised wearing a diaper. I felt overwhelming shame and hatred for my life for years. I was diapered by my mom at first as punishment and beatings that didn’t affect my leakage but left behind many emotional scars. I was teased by my family, peers, and others for most of my childhood because of wearing diapers where pads would likely sufficed. I was the laughing stock of our rural community. I had suicidal thoughts often but never acted on them, which I credit God’s grace and support.
Fast forward to my early college days where I knew no one and no one knew me. That’s when the wall around me gradually started to weaken. I gradually came out of my shell and began to laugh and enjoy company of people around me!
I’m straight and happily married to a wonderful man. We started a business together shortly after college and marriage. Soon after that we had the first of our two amazing boys. Our business continues to grow and thrive. I’m 1/2 owner, sales manage, lead HR, and wash cups and bottles on demand…. I LOVE recruiting and being around customers and our crews. I’m a good hostess at our numerous get togethers and event parties. HUGE TURNAROUND from the reclusive shy personality I used to be.
With all of that said, I love exploring the numerous posts, especially in the incontinence section. I have made a few suggestions and have learned a lot!
Personally, I’m 4’ 11-1/2” but I claim 5’ tall. I have a slender build with an especially small butt but make up for it with wide hips. For that reason, I’m able to wear cloth diapers without others noticing. I rounds out my butt nicely under a full dress.
I look forward to a long relationship with all of you here!!!
Hello and welcome Ellyn. I enjoyed reading your intro. People can be so cruel, I’m pleased things have turned out fine for you, hope you have fun here with us 😁👍🏻
 
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wellcome Ellyn
 
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Hi Ellyn. Good to hear from you again. (alias Wayne from another site).
 
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Hi Ellyn, Incontinent for 30 years myself; I had a wife and two young children when it started. Widowed and a grandfather now.

I was a guest here for many years, finding the Incontinence Forum was the friendliest, and provided the best info and support of all the incontinence support groups out there. And though I needed to tread carefully through the Adult Diapers Forum, it provided great info about manufacturing changes to current diapers and the release of new diapers.

After my wife passed away 12 years ago, I joined ADISC to give back the support I got for so many years. I've made some good friends as a result.

Though you may be repeating yourself at times, I hope you continue to share your journey here. Many newer participants don't take the time to read through old posts; they want answers now. So, your story bears repeating for that individual and the rest of us understand. Your story is both courageous and moving. I'm happy for your success, but more importantly that you found contentment in life and a beautiful family of your own. Welcome.
 
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Ellyn said:
I joined this group recently because I was growing dissatisfied with another support group of which I belonged. So far I’m thrilled by the shear quantity of very nice, helpful, and outgoing people here! I have been on this site probably longer than I should be over the last few days and somewhat neglecting some work and home related obligations, but the vast amount of information on this site is overwhelming and intrigues me!
About me…
I’m nearly completely urinary incontinent now, which has progressed from lite (but constant) leakage as a young girl to where I am now.
I’ve worn diapers nearly all my life though there were a few years when I was in my late teens, I was able to use pads only. Then the incontinence returned with a vengeance, just as I was entering college. Many blame the stress of leaving home and all but I couldn’t wait to leave behind my life there.
I’m not an AB, nor am I a DL. I’ve learned however that I am diaper dependent physically, due to my birth defects and nerve damage, and well as emotionally. As a young girl, I absolutely despised wearing a diaper. I felt overwhelming shame and hatred for my life for years. I was diapered by my mom at first as punishment and beatings that didn’t affect my leakage but left behind many emotional scars. I was teased by my family, peers, and others for most of my childhood because of wearing diapers where pads would likely sufficed. I was the laughing stock of our rural community. I had suicidal thoughts often but never acted on them, which I credit God’s grace and support.
Fast forward to my early college days where I knew no one and no one knew me. That’s when the wall around me gradually started to weaken. I gradually came out of my shell and began to laugh and enjoy company of people around me!
I’m straight and happily married to a wonderful man. We started a business together shortly after college and marriage. Soon after that we had the first of our two amazing boys. Our business continues to grow and thrive. I’m 1/2 owner, sales manage, lead HR, and wash cups and bottles on demand…. I LOVE recruiting and being around customers and our crews. I’m a good hostess at our numerous get togethers and event parties. HUGE TURNAROUND from the reclusive shy personality I used to be.
With all of that said, I love exploring the numerous posts, especially in the incontinence section. I have made a few suggestions and have learned a lot!
Personally, I’m 4’ 11-1/2” but I claim 5’ tall. I have a slender build with an especially small butt but make up for it with wide hips. For that reason, I’m able to wear cloth diapers without others noticing. I rounds out my butt nicely under a full dress.
I look forward to a long relationship with all of you here!!!
Welcome!!! I have been so relieved to be a part of this great group. It’s been so supportive as I’ve recently come to need diapers regularly. Getting older isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. Lol but I’ve totally felt accepted even being new to incontinence.
 
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i join this group for sharing idea and learn
 
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Hi Ellyn
What a great introduction you wrote !!
Would like to send you an very warm welcome !!
Many are just like you, myself included .
Hope you enjoy !!
 
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It is interesting so many incontinent people come to this forum, like myself, to get really good advice. I was surprised myself a lot, it is much better than my German Inco-Only forum by far.
 
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Welcome to the club! having a good support network is key!
 
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Welcome to Adisc, Oh my!, I know what you mean about people being so judgemental, My family was like that and we had to get far away from them as possible.
Here you will meet a lot of friendly, helpful people.
 
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Ellyn said:
I joined this group recently because I was growing dissatisfied with another support group of which I belonged. So far I’m thrilled by the shear quantity of very nice, helpful, and outgoing people here! I have been on this site probably longer than I should be over the last few days and somewhat neglecting some work and home related obligations, but the vast amount of information on this site is overwhelming and intrigues me!
About me…
I’m nearly completely urinary incontinent now, which has progressed from lite (but constant) leakage as a young girl to where I am now.
I’ve worn diapers nearly all my life though there were a few years when I was in my late teens, I was able to use pads only. Then the incontinence returned with a vengeance, just as I was entering college. Many blame the stress of leaving home and all but I couldn’t wait to leave behind my life there.
I’m not an AB, nor am I a DL. I’ve learned however that I am diaper dependent physically, due to my birth defects and nerve damage, and well as emotionally. As a young girl, I absolutely despised wearing a diaper. I felt overwhelming shame and hatred for my life for years. I was diapered by my mom at first as punishment and beatings that didn’t affect my leakage but left behind many emotional scars. I was teased by my family, peers, and others for most of my childhood because of wearing diapers where pads would likely sufficed. I was the laughing stock of our rural community. I had suicidal thoughts often but never acted on them, which I credit God’s grace and support.
Fast forward to my early college days where I knew no one and no one knew me. That’s when the wall around me gradually started to weaken. I gradually came out of my shell and began to laugh and enjoy company of people around me!
I’m straight and happily married to a wonderful man. We started a business together shortly after college and marriage. Soon after that we had the first of our two amazing boys. Our business continues to grow and thrive. I’m 1/2 owner, sales manage, lead HR, and wash cups and bottles on demand…. I LOVE recruiting and being around customers and our crews. I’m a good hostess at our numerous get togethers and event parties. HUGE TURNAROUND from the reclusive shy personality I used to be.
With all of that said, I love exploring the numerous posts, especially in the incontinence section. I have made a few suggestions and have learned a lot!
Personally, I’m 4’ 11-1/2” but I claim 5’ tall. I have a slender build with an especially small butt but make up for it with wide hips. For that reason, I’m able to wear cloth diapers without others noticing. I rounds out my butt nicely under a full dress.
I look forward to a long relationship with all of you here!!!
That is a fantastic introduction. I’m sorry you had it So tough in those first years. It really sounds like you have turned it around and are doing well. Congratulations. It looks like you’ll fit in very nicely here.
 
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Ellyn said:
I joined this group recently because I was growing dissatisfied with another support group of which I belonged. So far I’m thrilled by the shear quantity of very nice, helpful, and outgoing people here! I have been on this site probably longer than I should be over the last few days and somewhat neglecting some work and home related obligations, but the vast amount of information on this site is overwhelming and intrigues me!
About me…
I’m nearly completely urinary incontinent now, which has progressed from lite (but constant) leakage as a young girl to where I am now.
I’ve worn diapers nearly all my life though there were a few years when I was in my late teens, I was able to use pads only. Then the incontinence returned with a vengeance, just as I was entering college. Many blame the stress of leaving home and all but I couldn’t wait to leave behind my life there.
I’m not an AB, nor am I a DL. I’ve learned however that I am diaper dependent physically, due to my birth defects and nerve damage, and well as emotionally. As a young girl, I absolutely despised wearing a diaper. I felt overwhelming shame and hatred for my life for years. I was diapered by my mom at first as punishment and beatings that didn’t affect my leakage but left behind many emotional scars. I was teased by my family, peers, and others for most of my childhood because of wearing diapers where pads would likely sufficed. I was the laughing stock of our rural community. I had suicidal thoughts often but never acted on them, which I credit God’s grace and support.
Fast forward to my early college days where I knew no one and no one knew me. That’s when the wall around me gradually started to weaken. I gradually came out of my shell and began to laugh and enjoy company of people around me!
I’m straight and happily married to a wonderful man. We started a business together shortly after college and marriage. Soon after that we had the first of our two amazing boys. Our business continues to grow and thrive. I’m 1/2 owner, sales manage, lead HR, and wash cups and bottles on demand…. I LOVE recruiting and being around customers and our crews. I’m a good hostess at our numerous get togethers and event parties. HUGE TURNAROUND from the reclusive shy personality I used to be.
With all of that said, I love exploring the numerous posts, especially in the incontinence section. I have made a few suggestions and have learned a lot!
Personally, I’m 4’ 11-1/2” but I claim 5’ tall. I have a slender build with an especially small butt but make up for it with wide hips. For that reason, I’m able to wear cloth diapers without others noticing. I rounds out my butt nicely under a full dress.
I look forward to a long relationship with all of you here!!!
Welcome, I am not IC, but I saw your post on "What's New".

I just wanted to say that I am so sorry about your childhood... many of us have had childhood trauma here.
 
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welcome, Ellyn! I’m glad you found us here, there’s lots of great advice. The IC forum is what keeps me coming back.
 
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I think some of the other forums might also give info too. My go-to forum is IC but I also look at the other ones. Some are amusing, some weird but always informing. It's nice to see the different answers from one particular question. And it's fun to interact with other members. Enjoy.
 
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Ellyn said:
I joined this group recently because I was growing dissatisfied with another support group of which I belonged. So far I’m thrilled by the shear quantity of very nice, helpful, and outgoing people here! I have been on this site probably longer than I should be over the last few days and somewhat neglecting some work and home related obligations, but the vast amount of information on this site is overwhelming and intrigues me!
About me…
I’m nearly completely urinary incontinent now, which has progressed from lite (but constant) leakage as a young girl to where I am now.
I’ve worn diapers nearly all my life though there were a few years when I was in my late teens, I was able to use pads only. Then the incontinence returned with a vengeance, just as I was entering college. Many blame the stress of leaving home and all but I couldn’t wait to leave behind my life there.
I’m not an AB, nor am I a DL. I’ve learned however that I am diaper dependent physically, due to my birth defects and nerve damage, and well as emotionally. As a young girl, I absolutely despised wearing a diaper. I felt overwhelming shame and hatred for my life for years. I was diapered by my mom at first as punishment and beatings that didn’t affect my leakage but left behind many emotional scars. I was teased by my family, peers, and others for most of my childhood because of wearing diapers where pads would likely sufficed. I was the laughing stock of our rural community. I had suicidal thoughts often but never acted on them, which I credit God’s grace and support.
Fast forward to my early college days where I knew no one and no one knew me. That’s when the wall around me gradually started to weaken. I gradually came out of my shell and began to laugh and enjoy company of people around me!
I’m straight and happily married to a wonderful man. We started a business together shortly after college and marriage. Soon after that we had the first of our two amazing boys. Our business continues to grow and thrive. I’m 1/2 owner, sales manage, lead HR, and wash cups and bottles on demand…. I LOVE recruiting and being around customers and our crews. I’m a good hostess at our numerous get togethers and event parties. HUGE TURNAROUND from the reclusive shy personality I used to be.
With all of that said, I love exploring the numerous posts, especially in the incontinence section. I have made a few suggestions and have learned a lot!
Personally, I’m 4’ 11-1/2” but I claim 5’ tall. I have a slender build with an especially small butt but make up for it with wide hips. For that reason, I’m able to wear cloth diapers without others noticing. I rounds out my butt nicely under a full dress.
I look forward to a long relationship with all of you here!!!
Thank you Ellyn for that wonderful intro to your world. I am so glad you found a wonderful partner to start your new life and business together. I am incontinent now due to nerve damage from back injuries and although I have been a life long lover of plastic pants due to an incident in my youth, I was not a diaper lover and I am still not a diaper lover but it is a solution to my problem which is getting worse. I remember getting teased about one or two wetting accidents when I was younger. I was not punished for it but it was embarrassing and I was teased by my father. Reading posts here has helped me to know there are others in the same boat. I know you are married but I must say it is a wonderful photo of you, and thanks for the post. P.S. I am not flirting with you LOL.
 
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Many of us have had childhood trauma here.
I don't remember most of my childhood for which I am very sad. I am unable to relate to what I read in many posts because of having no memory of the corresponding events in my life.
 
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