Why I feel the urge to be an AB

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Ebabyboy12

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I'm not new to being an ab I just don't understand why my desires are so strong to wear a diaper and use it as a baby does. It's not like I can turn it off and on and it gets stronger the more I wear. Help me understand. I have had these feeling starting in elementary school when I was in the hospital for a stomach virus and was made to wear diapers as I could not control my bowels. Just looking for thoughts from other adult babies as to why I feel so strongly. Thanks for any thoughts.
 

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This is probably the story for most of us on this site. I've had these feelings since I was four years old, and by the time I was six, I was acting on them. Even if I don't have a burning desire, once I put a diaper on, the intense feelings start all over again. I think it's just who we are. For whatever contributing reason which causes the desire to wear diapers and feel babyish, those feelings are well established and aren't going to dissipate.
 

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I doubt you're going to get a satisfactory answer as to why; I know I never have. Really, you appear to be more concerned with your behavior and that's something that can reasonably be addressed, even without knowing why. Can you explain a little more about how you're acting on this and why it is so troublesome?

I found that once I had ready access to diapers, a lot of the obsessive preoccupation dissipated. That's not to say that I stopped wanting to wear them but it wasn't such a consuming desire and as my self-acceptance increased, it got better and better. It may not be universally applicable but it has made a world of difference for me.
 
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When it comes to the nature of ABDL'ism, it is something that I would never wish upon another - let alone advise someone to start taking an interest in. There is enough social stigma surrounding it already - and it is a hard enough lifestyle to live out as it is.

But for some where wearing baby attire is not just a sexually driven thing, may consider it to be an inborn drive, a maternal instinct if you may.

Generally two things can come of this:

1)You continue to satisfy your urges, that will probably lead to a binge/purge cycle and may never be a need/want again.
2)You satisfy your urges and it eventually becomes the norm. If in your case AB/DL is more of an inborn drive, then you may see that being the case.

What I have stated thus far are from some of the areas of the AB/DL world I have learned about so far, and speculations from my own experiences too.
 
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well over ten years ago. I know these feelings will never go away and I'm okay with them. I just catch my self wondering why me?
 

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well over ten years ago. I know these feelings will never go away and I'm okay with them. I just catch my self wondering why me?

Why are you the height you are? Why do you like the foods you do? Why are we passionate about one kind of music but not another? I don't think it hurts to give consideration to origins of things but don't expect it's going to explain much or even help if you could magically know just how it happened. The point is, it has and you're here now, and diapers can be great. Maybe find someone to share that with.
 

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Why are you the height you are? Why do you like the foods you do? Why are we passionate about one kind of music but not another? I don't think it hurts to give consideration to origins of things but don't expect it's going to explain much or even help if you could magically know just how it happened. The point is, it has and you're here now, and diapers can be great. Maybe find someone to share that with.

That's where I'm at. I love wearing a diaper, and I'm becoming more confident in being an AB. Thanks everyone for your insight. More thoughts are always welcome as I'm open and willing to listen to others opinions.
 
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Hi

i can relate to what your saying. i too have had those feelings i could never exactly place it. but for me the best i can explain to myself as to hy im an AB and a FURRY is simply because i am. i dont really have an answer for it. i guess it was just predetermined i guess.


im at the stage no tho that i really dont care if its not the norm and that it keeps me appy and helps me to destress. it may be a bad thing that i if i dont wear i cant fntion properly.


i wear practically 24/7 and yeah i kno to most people its not normal but for me its as normal as someone getting up and putting there pants/boxers on, except for me its my diaper/nappy.


i have aso come to understand that all the problems people have in regards to people noticeing them weaaring and the like, its all in the head. its a mental thing.

one thing i do say to people tho, is that if people have a problem with it, its their problem not mine. im not gunna change so you either accept me or not. this is who i am and thats all there is to it.
 

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For me, I have had the desire to wear and use diapers since grade school.

For myself, my theory is, since I'm the eldest of 10 siblings I subconsiously felt that the younger children always got the most attention. My subconsious associated this with diaper changes and therefore I craved that.

That is just my theory of my self annalysis.
 

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Ok you spent your early years in diapers they feel good to be changed feels good also and being taken care feels good.
But you dont have a long memory at that age your try so much at a time so once your pottie trained for some of us we forgotten how good it feels.
Now lets say your put back into diapers but your older or you have to wear then at nite.
It feel good then all those feelings from your early years the body rembers how it feels good mabey not a full memory but under the serface kinda like instinctive part of you.
But know you know it feel good and now you rember it you wish to feel the good feeling over and over it fills a need with in you .

That is in some cases guys like ladies underwear they were held by mommie in her silky nite gown it felt good when they were babies same thing
So you just fall into the same class guys like to feel good .
All that is needed is to not feel the guilty about how we turned out .
We cant change it most of us are hooked or there would not so many of us and others getting into every day as kids and teens. It feels good to guys we have a lot of nerves down there .
 

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Well... that's the million dollar question as they say right? I've seen many threads and topics about the reason(s) to be abdl over the years but for every similar experiences and life situations between a few people there are others that don't share them.

For me I just know that around 4/5 years old I started to have a few urges to feel like a baby again, to regress, I didn't knew why and quite frankly I didn't even questioned it, I knew however that it was something I didn't want my parents or anyone else to know which is curious being so young and thinking that already. I remember being in the living room crawling like a baby one time, trying to fit a very small cloth diaper another time and finally finding a old pacifier, mine or my brother's, and sucking it one night and accidently fall asleep and being found by my parents who weren't bothered by it but I never found that pacifier again. Then shortly after I left kindergarden it kind of faded to only resurface stronger than before during puberty.

I don't know why I feel this urge as well, I had a great childhood, I have a younger brother close in age, we're 17 months apart.

So the why is still pretty much a mistery yet and will probably remain for a long time, maybe ever. Which is a shame because I would really like to know xD
 
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