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im a adult baby becouse of my past i was abused in a certain way and now i guess im trying to go back before what happned to me. what about everyone else?
 

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That seems to be a common theme. The deeper ABs tend to have had traumatic childhoods.

I am an ABDL who is predominantly DL. The AB side is an occasional thing for me. Though I cannot really say I was abused, my ADHD side made it difficult for me to be socially accepted by my peers until high school.

My DL was present since I was 3, but my AB manifested itself as a teenager.
 
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I know some might oppose this or find it ridiculous, but I have a firm belief that I was pretty much born an adult baby. That being said, I don't really think Adult Baby is the right term, I prefer the term Little, because (in my mind, not saying everyone feels this way) the term Adult Baby implies a more ageplay tone to it, whereas for me its not "ageplay" its just part of my personality and what I would call my "inner child".

I've enjoyed wearing diapers and being taken care of and feeling little since maybe the age of 3 or 4 (which is usually as far back as most humans can remember), and seeing as thats pretty far back and its as far back as most people remember, i retain the idea that I was born an immortally child-like soul. Mind you, i didn't have an abusive childhood, my parents were very kind and caring, and I never wanted for anything except maybe a better social life. I was bullied throughout elementary, middle and early highschool, but I was ABDL and Little way before even being bullied for the first time, so I don't believe it has anything to do with that.

However, if I were to put a definite purpose or reason as to why I remain with such a quirk (despite having felt lonely many times and not really having found what im looking for after so many years), many (vanilla) friends of mine have told me that if it causes me so much pain, why don't I just let go of that part of myself; I firmly believe that my ABDL side/Little/Inner child is a very important fusion to my personality that contributes to a lot of the things that many of my friends love about my adult personality, and without that admirable side to my life I would undoubtedly be a very bitter, very untrusting, very unforgiving, merciless, and probably an all-around total bitch without it. My adult mind is very corrupt by the way society is, and I like to believe that its my child-like mind that allows me to "keep hope alive", respectively. I remember one time i tried to give it all up because I simply felt TOO alone, and it turned me into something fiercely irritable, and caused me to lose a lot of friends because of the new monster i had become; it was this moment that i learned that being a Little for me is like sharing a soul with a child-like version of myself, and therefor very important to the overall development and stability of my mind.
 

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I think it's because I was small as a child and the fact I used Nappies for bedwetting made me look even smaller, I always remember having long cuddles with my mum at the age of what most kids grow out of wanting cuddles ,but in all honesty I would say I played on the fact I was small, I loved the attention I would get from my cousins, they are both girls and older than me so when they used to come over they would treat me like I was much younger then, I actually was ,but it was not all fun being the smallest especially at school that was a nightmare. I still love having long cuddles with my gf ,but there again who doesn't enjoy a good cuddle.
 

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I think it's about as pressing a question as "Why do I like pizza so much?" and about as easy to reasonably answer. I'm this way because it seems like there's no other way I could be. It's because as far back as there was a me to remember, I had some kind of interest in diapers and baby things. It wasn't totally consuming but a lurking thread of interest. I would not be at all surprised to learn that lots of "normal" people had this come up from time to time as well but perhaps there weren't quite sufficient threads to fully make the connection.

In any event, I think what I do with it now is a much more important matter than where it came from. I think I'm doing okay with that most of the time these days. It's much better than it was when I was younger.
 

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im a adult baby becouse of my past i was abused in a certain way and now i guess im trying to go back before what happned to me. what about everyone else?

I am a developmentally disabled older adult with Autism and Cerebral Palsy who was profoundly neglected and abused by an untreated mentally-ill psychotic mother. I mentally regress to being like a totally helpless infant with no control whatsoever over my body.

Severe early childhood abuse and neglect seems to be a very common underlying cause for regression back to the helplessness of infancy.

After all, infants are supposed to be given unconditional love and caring 24/7.
 
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Severe early childhood abuse and neglect seems to be a very common underlying cause for regression back to the helplessness of infancy.

After all, infants are supposed to be given unconditional love and caring 24/7.

I wouldnt go that far, i would say that maybe on THIS site it seems to be an underlying cause, but all the ABDL/Littles ive met on other sites (fetlife for example) don't suffer from developmental disabilities or have history of abuse, and believe me, i've met/gotten to know a great deal of people both on here and on other sites.

Not that this is a bad thing in any way, but i've noticed that ADISC is somewhat a sanctuary for ABDL's who are in fact either developmentally disabled, or have had some kind of childhood trauma that connects with their ABDL-ism. It peaks my curiosity to figure out why a large portion of the ADISC community happens to be this way - quite fascinating really.
 

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I honestly had a pretty good childhood as far as parenting goes what I think pushed me into infantilism was the bullying I received from other children while in school, but what I wonder is am I better off for having this fetish? I mean lots of people are bullied or have abusive parents, but not all of them are AB/DLs. Everyone has ways to deal with problems like that some are harmless like ours, but some like drinking can be dangerous and sometimes people with a past like that can become abusive as well, but alot of us also grew up with those problems, but all we do is act like babies which comparatively is much weirder, but also healthier. So do any guys think we like won the weird habit lottery?
 

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I don't know if it's one event that caused it because I've had the desire as long as I can remember. If I had to pick a cause I would say it was actually my early potty training. As I've said before I was completly out of diapers by age three which I've always thought was really early, early enough that I don't have any memories of wearing diapers. So I guess in a way you could say I've just wanted to know how it felt. That being said I'm of the opinion that I was just born with it the story is just what I would pin it on if I believed it's triggered by an event.
 

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I really haven't quite found that out yet,

in an other thread I suspect that constant verbal bullying and being called baby in daycare could of had some influence as I explained in that thread that I was very insulted by that same insult years later and I do have a bit of a double standard when it come to childish things

though overall I had a good childhood, granted I could have socialized more and my parents were divorced (but on very good terms) and all of the potential causes are more or less nitpicks and have probably happened to a lot of people
 
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I'unno. My childhood was bad and all, though I was into it way before childhood experiences became increasingly more stressful.

I'm into it and I don't know why. I can't put it behind me and I've tried. So, I'm just here, but perhaps comfort plays the key role. It's comforting and a tiny bit of security in an otherwise very cray world.
 

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They were all out of pool toy fetish so I went for the next best thing.
 

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I'm not exactly sure. I remember being 2-3 and still in diapers and secretly kind of liking them then even though I knew i should be learning to use the potty. I also grew up very fast and was very mature mentally for a small child. I always enjoyed conversation and would hang out with adults rather than my peers. Also with my disabilities (95% blind and now 40% deaf in one ear) I was always an outcast, a weirdo, picked on and shunned by the other children. But all my life I've never lost touch with my inner-child (he's two btw.) In my adult life I'm very skeptical and not too trusting of others and still not to social because of being avoided by the other children but like someone else pointed out the things that my friends like about me probably stems from the innocence and big heart of my two-year old inner-child.
 
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I'm not sure what triggered it, but I have a few guesses..... I know as early as 5 years old I wanted to be a baby, and even at age 8 I just wanted to be treated lke a baby . I would pretend to not know how to talk. My mother was neglectful from what I've heard from other family members,

I was abused by both my parents as well as other adults I came into contact with, I have a fear of adults sometimes, and even though "I am one" that concept really doesn't register for me.... I am more AB than DL, and one of my main issues is my AB becomes almost like an attack mental state, where I regress and don't always remember what I did, I regress really far and sometimes in front of people without meaning to, some psychologists have told me I "Dissociate"

I think perhaps.... my ABness is something that was triggered by neglect/abuse. I can behave like an adult , but I have a permanent 2 year old child inside.
 

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Don't really know 100 percent for myself but it goes back as long as I can remember. My family left one house when I was in grade five and I had been into this many years before that. Remember wearing a baby bib I found in our house to bed. Did this for some time until it 'went missing'. Also remember wearing diapers and plastic pants and running around the house and jumping on my parents bed when I was very young. Those, also from around the house, sadly went 'missing' too. Still remember digging through cupboards as a child thinking they must be there somewhere.

Had a younger sister, by two years and that could have been a factor. Perhaps wanting the love and attention I saw given to the baby. Don't remember any of that but it is a possibility.

Was born with some disability issues back in a time where there was not much understanding or compassion around this.

Had a therapist say once, about my a/b side, that I was 'wanting to get back to the time when there was unconditional love'.

Was not a bed wetter beyond what is typical, so that does not fit in my case. There is not one really clear incident that explains my interests. As long as I can remember I always had them. Well before adolescence and any type of sexual thoughts. It is something much deeper than a 'fetish' to me. Have heard male cross-dressers talk about having 'their female side' and I have always had my 'baby side'. It's part of me and may very well have always been.
 

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There are a lot of possible causes in my life, and none of them are concrete. I was adopted at the age of 2, I think having spent some time in an adoptive agency orphanage, though I'm not positive as to the orphanage. At two I was adopted by parents who genuinely loved me. My mom was very strict in the way I was brought up, and I think some of that caused emotional pain.

I remember when I was four, running though the house saying, dah dah over and over again. My mom kept telling me to stop, which for some strange reason, I didn't. Finally she told me that if I didn't stop acting like a baby, she was going to put me back into diapers, and if I thought she was kidding, she still had my diapers. It was a light bulb moment, and I realized I really wanted to be wearing those diapers. They were having company that night, so I stopped, but the idea never left me.

By the age of six, I was wanting to wet my pants, and did on one occasion. By puberty, age 13, I had my stash of underwear which I used for wetting. This went on until I got "found out" by my mom, when I was in college. I came home for dinner, company again invited, and I had a psychotic break during dinner. I started crying and couldn't stop. When I went back to school, my mom searched my room and found both my make shift diapers, and gay porn. She sent me to see a psychiatrist at a residential mental facility.

As to why I have these desires, I don't know. Like Trevor said, the trick has been learning to live with me; who I am. That journey has taken a long time. I too was bullied when I was young, age six. By the time I was 11, I was sexually hit upon by other neighborhood boys, as well as a best friend. I suppose they knew me better than I did.

Now, I have found a sense of peace, being comfortable in my own skin. We all have our own unique stories, and even though they are all different, here we are with this one thing in common. I'm not sure there is a common cause, but if there is, it wears a very good disguise.
 

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I've never been abused/bullied in any way, nor by my parents nor my family was abusive and I've never had a bedwetting accident that I can recall, so that didn't trigger my AB side.

I guess I want to be a little kid again (I don't see myself as a baby AB, more like a kid), I still have sudden memories of my childhood, about things that I loved, video games, footed pajamas, Legos, play grounds even a baby bottle and so much more but were taken away from me (not literally). So I enjoy nostalgic things, those things make me happy :eek:, a state of mind which I can't describe but I enjoy.
 

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I believe my ab side was triggered by emotional trauma and lack of physical affection during my adolescence. I never was a bedwetter or suffered ''diaper discipline.'' However, my dl side, the part of me that finds diapers sexual, has been with me since I was about four. My best guess is that it had something to do with being around an infant cousin. I remember one occasion where I was watching her mom change her diaper, and the baby started peeing in it. My young mind was fascinated.
 

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I have been an AB for as long as I can remember. I have a vague memory of when I was very young (maybe 2 or 3) I never had a dummy as a baby and I always wanted one. I was round at another kid's house playing and he had his dummy in. I took one of his dummies and put it in my mouth and loved the feeling of having it in. When my mum saw me just just took it off me without saying a word, and I remember not kicking up a fuss about it because I knew I shouldn't.
I also have memories of being told by my mum if I kept acting like a baby I would be treated like one, but I never had the nerve to keep on.
I then have another memory of when I was around 7, my mum, dad, brother and me were on holiday in Tenerife. I was day on the lap of someone we had met on holiday, while my parents were talking to her. I remember her suddenly messing around, saying "oh my baby, you need your nappy changing and to have your bottle". In hindsight that was a bit weird, and it must have triggered something because after that I started having dreams and fantasizing about wearing nappies and being treated like a baby. I have pretty much been obsessing about nappies and being a baby ever since, and as I got older it got to be a sexual thing for me as well as a comforting thing.
 
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