What would you do if you found out your son/daughter was ABDL?

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PaddedInEastvale

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This is for those who have or plan to have kids. What would you do if you came across a pack of ABU diapers while cleaning up your kids room? Would you confront him about it? Would you let him know he isn't alone and divulge your secret? Would you simply ask why and tell him to keep it a secret?

Personally, I wouldn't tell him that I'm into it, but I would let him know that it is okay to have this desire. He could feel free to wear around the house, but covered up and no baby attire unless he was alone. I would let him know that there are others who exist just like him and he shouldn't feel ashamed as long as it doesn't interfere with his real life. Also, he would need to buy his own supplies and make sure he keeps it sanitary. Lastly, he should probably keep it a secret to the outside world because people are cruel and don't understand.

What do you guys think? How would you respond?
 

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I would probably do the same thing. I mean, I'm not gonna tell him or her that it's wrong, especially with how happy it makes me. But maybe I would tell them my secret, but only if that was our relationship. I mean, I hope my kids and I are close, but a secret like that needs really close.

Woo-hoo!
 

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I'd wait until they were 18 before even CONSIDERING telling them; even then it'd be HEAVY CONSIDERATION.

Anymore than that, I'd make sure they were safe, and share bitter greys den about ABDL with them. Finally I'd help them budget in their allowance, and make sure they could get ABU diapers easily. No shame here.
 

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If I had a child and found out they were DL, I'd probably turn a blind eye in the beginning. Maybe I'd leave a non verbal note that I've found out about their "little secret" but let them engage in it in private. If it gets to an optimal point maybe even provide. But this is all theoretical.
 
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It's interesting for me. I know what I'd have wanted as a young person, if my parents had found out, and I've seen what a lot of people here have said when they worried that their parents might have discovered them. Yet when we try to picture ourselves as the parent, we all seem to draw different conclusions than what we would have wanted for ourselves. I'm not sure why that is exactly, maybe an understanding as we get older that we're all dumb as kids, but also a certain difference in perspective when you imagine that your'e responsible for raising someone else.

At any rate, when I was young, if I'd thought that my parents knew, I'd have been really anxious and stressed. It would have helped me a lot to know that they knew and were okay with things. I certainly would not have wanted them to participate, and while I might have fantasized about wearing a diaper around the house, in reality that would have been so awkward and I'd never have done it. So with that in mind, if I were cleaning my future kid's room and found a package of ABDL diapers, I'd straighten it up and the next time we were alone together, I'd say something pretty brief. "Found your diapers the other day. Don't worry about it as long as you're okay, but tell me if you're not. Make sure you keep things clean and hygienic, let me know if you want to talk about it." And then wave it off and change the subject. I'm sure the kid would be incredibly embarrassed about it, but I think that's the kind of thing that would be pretty reassuring in the long run.

Also, I note that the above does assume a somewhat older kid who can buy things for themselves and has at least a general sense of their interests and burgeoning sexuality. If they were a bit younger, there might be more medical worry, or it could be indicative of needing to have a conversation about their sexuality if that had never happened yet (and yes, god that's awkward, but better imo than not having it at all).
 

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My mom seems okay with me doing it, and she isn't one at all. So what I'm saying is that even if I wasn't one myself, I would be supportive and understanding toward my child.
 

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Be completely freaked out... but only because as far as I know I have no children
 

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I guess what I would do would depend on their age and maturity. Regardless I would likely take them out to do something they like to do and then on the way home just bring up what I found. I am not sure if I would give them a chance to respond before I just going over “it’s cool”, “no big deal”, “it’s ok to experiment” with greater elaboration of course. I would talk to them about privacy, cleaning up with an emphasis on not trying to stash or hide anything dirty/used.

Beyond that my reaction would depend on how they reacted to our conversation. If they are embarrassed I would just reassure them not to be and leave it alone till they wanted to engage. If they were more open I wouldn’t press them on why or what is going on in their head. Just let them guide the conversation. Then we would see where their interests would go
 

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If the child was below 18 (none of mine are) I would tell them to write on the shopping list any nappies needed but we are a waste not family.

Now if I found them (and I actually have a no snooping policy since they are all over 18 though I do run a collection of used cups plates and cuttlery from their rooms when they are not home so assuming I spotted them) I certainly wouldn't be talking to them about it but sure I would text them to tell me what ABU products they wanted to include in my next order.

If it was ABU products I would be really proud of their ability to pick quality.
 

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I love my child unconditionally. That said I would be supportive and make sure that it's known that I can be trusted and will be there when no one else is.
 

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Completely stay out of it. Unless there's dirty diapers leaking all over my floors or predators stalking my house there's no need for me to be involved.
 

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I'd simply tell them there's no shame in having a fetish. I wouldn't reveal my own diaper fetish because that's extremely wrong in my opinion.
 

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My parents found out a couple years ago but never confronted me about it. I assume its just on a "don't want to know" kind of basis. That's pretty much how I'd handle it if I inadvertently found out. If I directly found out- walked in on them, etc.- I'd probably handle it the same way. I can't say I'd be outwardly supportive, since to me, it seems kinda... incestuous. Just pretend its not a thing.
 

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I am, for the most part, an open-minded individual. In this day in age, I think you have to be open-minded to some degree when it comes to parenting.

That being said, if I choose to have kids in the future and the subject was ever brought up, I'd treat it with the same mindset. It would probably be a tough thing for me to swallow at first, and I'd really have to ask if they were sure about it, but if they were sure, I'd be supportive. I wouldn't fully encourage it, but I would allow it. I don't want my kids to have to go through the same sort of thing I did with my parents.
 

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This is for those who have or plan to have kids. What would you do if you came across a pack of ABU diapers while cleaning up your kids room? Would you confront him about it? Would you let him know he isn't alone and divulge your secret? Would you simply ask why and tell him to keep it a secret?
What do you guys think? How would you respond?

This is not a hypothetical situation for me.


From time to time here on ADISC this same question seems to come up. I think it is partly a question from the growing up point of view and wondering from the perspective of being ABDL how we might deal with our own children, but in some cases, also young people wondering what how their parents might react if they were discovered.

Sooo... I have shared this in other threads, but as far as I have seen, I am the only one here on ADISC that has identified this as an actual reality, not some hypothetical question.

Here is a a response that I have shared elsewhere, but it is my own explanation of my very real situation of being a parent with a son who I have discovered also has ABDL interests.

I'm now a parent of my own children, who the youngest is a mid-teenager. A while back I discovered that he was wearing or at least exploring wearing diapers. I found some used pull ups that had been left over from my children's younger years.

In any case, I took the opportunity after thinking about it carefully, to discuss this with my son. I did not share with him that I have this desire (as my gut feelings told me this was not the time), but rather I shared with him what I had found. He clammed up at first, even as I or most people would have done. But I talked with him, showing no judgement, but rather sharing that this was something that others also did and that I understood how it could be such a strong desire and that it wasn't that "abnormal" for someone to do this. When I shared this observation, he relaxed a bit and we had a good discussion about it.

I shared with him that I loved him and that if he ever needed to talk about it, that I am there and will be willing and open to discuss it. It was actually a very good discussion. Since that time, I know he still has these interests and hasn't talked with me any more about it, but I truly think it brought us closer as a father and son. Especially because I did not give him any reason to fear I was upset about it and that I was open in discussing it --not making it out to be something bigger than it really is.


While this may be a rather rare occurrence for a parent and child to both have this interest, it isn't an impossible reality. But, I would hope that because of my own knowledge and experience of being ABDL, I am better able to provide the support and advice for my own son who also has demonstrated an interest in these things.

Update: A few weeks ago, my son and I were sharing a close talk, and he shared that he was no longer doing this. This kind of came out of the blue, and I had not inquired about it. But the fact of whether or not he is still having the interests of wearing diapers was actually kind of surpassed to me with the reality that he was willing to talk to me about it. It is something that I wish that when I was his age I could have been able to talk with my own father, or anyone really, about something that I really didn't understand at that point why I had this interest or that I wasn't alone in doing so.

My recommendation for anyone who might be in this situation is to go with your feelings out of love for your child and share with them the things that you feel would have most helped you when you were their age and helping to answer the questions that you may have had. Not in judgement, but truly giving your own self and perspective to them.

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Basically what TeddyBearCowboy said. Let them know it's okay to feel this way and offer support and advice. Depending on the situation I would or wouldn't reveal myself.
 

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I guess I would let them get on with it and wait and see if it developed. It wouldn't bother me at all.
 

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A while back I came close to having a kid (but thankfully didn't). That got me thinking about this too though. I'd be a complete hypocrite if I didn't let my own kid wear a diaper. Of course I'd try and make sure it's really what they want first.

This is a part of who I am so I wouldn't hide my diapers, but I wouldn't involve them In my diapers either. I'd let them know they aren't alone, and that it's complete false to believe being a DL is some dirty fetish that should be kept hidden. I simply isn't.

I'd give an allowance big enough so they can manage getting their own diapers, but would expect equal work for the equal pay (good grades, lawn upkeep, the usual). Beyond that, they'd be pretty much on their own.
 

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If I found out I'd let them know that I knew about it and tell them about the risks and what to do and what not to do in terms of keeping it hidden. I'd be supportive as well.
 
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