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My intention for this post is to provide the type of answers I was looking for when my boyfriend told me he liked diapers. I hope this can help someone who is nervous to tell their SO, or give advise to someone just finding out.
My boyfriend first told me he had a diaper fetish about three months after we started dating. He started the conversation out by saying "I have something to tell you." Hearing that, I immediately asked if it was good or bad? His response was, "I think its really fun, and it has the potential to be a good thing depending on how you perceive it." He then told me he had a fetish and wanted me to guess what it was. I threw a couple ideas out there but eventually after getting a few wrong ones, he just came out and told me. "I have a diaper fetish."
I had never heard about this fetish and if I'm being honest, I thought he was joking at first. Not only that, but my first assumption of what that meant was far different from what it actually is. I didn't know how to feel at first. I started asking questions so I could have a better understanding. I also started doing my own research to see what this fetish might look like. I wanted to know that other people had been in the same situation that I was, and see how that turned out. I found some posts about fetishes in general, but not many specific to diapers. I will say that looking at what other fetishes are out there, this one can actually be quite tame in comparison. It doesn't harm anyone, and it only involves consenting adults.
The best answers I got were from having honest conversations with my SO. He told me what he likes specifically and how he fits into the abdl community. He told me that I could be as little or as much involved as I wanted, and that he wasn't going to push me into trying anything I wasn't comfortable with. Even stating that I didn't have to participate at all, and that he would understand that. But he did make it clear that this was something that was a part of himself that he can't change, and that he would continue to do on his own. I respected that, and knew that it took a lot of courage and trust for him to share this with me.
I consider myself a fairly open minded person, as well as very nosy. So naturally I was curious what this would look like with our relationship going forward. I wanted to at least give it a try and see how I felt after that. We started out very slow and before trying anything, had a conversation about what I believed I would and would not be comfortable with doing. (This list has changed significantly for me since that first comversation). At first, I was only interested in trying to wear a diaper (pull-ups actually). If this is your first time introducing a SO to diapers, I would highly recommend starting with goodnights or something similar if possible since they are fairly thin, discreet, and easy to put on! Then trying actual diapers at a later time if the pull ups go well.
At first, I told him that I didn't feel comfortable trying to wet the pull up, but after a couple times just wearing one, I decided to give it a try! Wetting is not as easy as it sounds. There is a big mental block to get around if it's your first time trying. Eventually, I was able to do it, but I was very embarrassed! My SO was very supportive and reassured me how special it was to him that I even gave it a try and told me that I looked very cute. Aside from that, we've had a lot of fun with me just wearing a pull up under high-waisted jeans in public. I promise you, you can't see them under your jeans, and like I said before, they are very discreet. (Plus, it's fun and exciting knowing that you have a secret that only you and your SO know about).
There's a lot more to that I could say but I think I'll just make separate posts for that. I'll finish this one by saying that even though I don't have this same fetish, I have found multiple aspects of it that I really enjoy and that have made our relationship stronger and more intimate. Even though I was hesitant at first, I now love this secret part of our relationship that I never knew I wanted!
If anyone else has any other advice to share let me know! Maybe someone new to this situation will stumble across all this in the future.
My boyfriend first told me he had a diaper fetish about three months after we started dating. He started the conversation out by saying "I have something to tell you." Hearing that, I immediately asked if it was good or bad? His response was, "I think its really fun, and it has the potential to be a good thing depending on how you perceive it." He then told me he had a fetish and wanted me to guess what it was. I threw a couple ideas out there but eventually after getting a few wrong ones, he just came out and told me. "I have a diaper fetish."
I had never heard about this fetish and if I'm being honest, I thought he was joking at first. Not only that, but my first assumption of what that meant was far different from what it actually is. I didn't know how to feel at first. I started asking questions so I could have a better understanding. I also started doing my own research to see what this fetish might look like. I wanted to know that other people had been in the same situation that I was, and see how that turned out. I found some posts about fetishes in general, but not many specific to diapers. I will say that looking at what other fetishes are out there, this one can actually be quite tame in comparison. It doesn't harm anyone, and it only involves consenting adults.
The best answers I got were from having honest conversations with my SO. He told me what he likes specifically and how he fits into the abdl community. He told me that I could be as little or as much involved as I wanted, and that he wasn't going to push me into trying anything I wasn't comfortable with. Even stating that I didn't have to participate at all, and that he would understand that. But he did make it clear that this was something that was a part of himself that he can't change, and that he would continue to do on his own. I respected that, and knew that it took a lot of courage and trust for him to share this with me.
I consider myself a fairly open minded person, as well as very nosy. So naturally I was curious what this would look like with our relationship going forward. I wanted to at least give it a try and see how I felt after that. We started out very slow and before trying anything, had a conversation about what I believed I would and would not be comfortable with doing. (This list has changed significantly for me since that first comversation). At first, I was only interested in trying to wear a diaper (pull-ups actually). If this is your first time introducing a SO to diapers, I would highly recommend starting with goodnights or something similar if possible since they are fairly thin, discreet, and easy to put on! Then trying actual diapers at a later time if the pull ups go well.
At first, I told him that I didn't feel comfortable trying to wet the pull up, but after a couple times just wearing one, I decided to give it a try! Wetting is not as easy as it sounds. There is a big mental block to get around if it's your first time trying. Eventually, I was able to do it, but I was very embarrassed! My SO was very supportive and reassured me how special it was to him that I even gave it a try and told me that I looked very cute. Aside from that, we've had a lot of fun with me just wearing a pull up under high-waisted jeans in public. I promise you, you can't see them under your jeans, and like I said before, they are very discreet. (Plus, it's fun and exciting knowing that you have a secret that only you and your SO know about).
There's a lot more to that I could say but I think I'll just make separate posts for that. I'll finish this one by saying that even though I don't have this same fetish, I have found multiple aspects of it that I really enjoy and that have made our relationship stronger and more intimate. Even though I was hesitant at first, I now love this secret part of our relationship that I never knew I wanted!
If anyone else has any other advice to share let me know! Maybe someone new to this situation will stumble across all this in the future.
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