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Cayde

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What should i do , i told my boyfriend about my diaper thing and he said that is slightly disturbing .

I like him and care for him , i want him to understand me liking diapers

What should i do ?
 
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Give him a little time to think and then talk to him again and explain everything fully.
 

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Another possibility: You could explain to him that it is a medical need, having to do with sensory integration issues. Then, if he truly cared for you, he would accept you as you are with your "disability". If he doesn't, then I don't think he would make a very good husband anyway.

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Can you give us a little more detail please about what you told him and how he reacted. However, based on what you have said, this is what I think:

Well for one, don't give up hope. I imagine it is disturbing even to open minded people, he hasn't just shunned you. I know you want immediate understanding, but you are unlikely to get that. Be happy that it wasn't nearly as bad as it could have been.

Be ready to talk to him in more detail. Make it clear that this doesn't replace him, and you don't expect him to take part in it if he doesn't want to. However, also make him realise that this is part of you and it won't go away. If he does indeed care for you as much as you care for him, he should be able to get over this and still love you, even if he is uncomfortable about this.

To get understanding of how you feel, you will have to go over what this means for you in detail. How it affects you and what you get out of doing it. He has no chance of understanding how you feel, unless he understands what you feel. Acceptance and understanding will be more difficult, but if you are open about it and he does love you, you will be able to slowly move towards that sort of position. If he can't learn to deal with it, I know you care about him now, but is that really the sort of person you want to be going out with?

Prepare for the worst, hope for the best. Good luck!

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Be happy for what you got. We are diaper wearing freaks after all. :p Just give it time.
 

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Another possibility: You could explain to him that it is a medical need, having to do with sensory integration issues. Then, if he truly cared for you, he would accept you as you are with your "disability". If he doesn't, then I don't think he would make a very good husband anyway.

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I'd be careful saying it's a medical need if it's not, that could come back to backfire. You might consider showing him some of the resources online that explain us a little better. I'm sure there's something good in the wiki, and there's other sites as well, you might want to both read together the "When Kids Love Diapers" site. I haven't read it in years, but I remember that it was a pretty good resource. There's a link to it in the links section here.
 

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Just give him time to think about it, and wait and see what happens, if he turly loves you for you, he will come round, or you may have to at least slow down your diaper use for the time being, untill things smooth over.
 

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thanks guys i just need to talk to him the next time i am over at his house
 

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Well, best of luck, but just remember...Teenagers are jackasses, we will not accept you because you are different, so don't expect him to be like "OH! IT MAKES SENSE NOW!"

Keep your hopes high, but don't expect anything great. One more time: I wish you luck.
 

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Well, he has every right to be disturbed....
Wanting to wear diapers IS disturbing. It's awfully disgusting to most people, and not much good comes of telling folks, unless they really need to know.
Now, I would sit down with your boyfriend, and explain in further detail what this is all about, more so show him our site... prove to him it's just a "kink" and nothing more.
 

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To be honest, if someone doesn't want to be around you for any one thing at all, they're probably not good to be getting involved with in the first place...

But yeah, just explain it to him further if you can, try and get him to understand if you want to stay w/ him
 

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hmmm, yeah it will take a little time for him to get use to it. Don't talk to him about it too much though. little by little tell him why you like them and tell him a little more about what a dl is and what infantilism is, so that way he can understand you more better for being a tb. Remember take your time to talk to him
 

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give him time and allow him to digest it slowly if he truly cares he should at least get to the point where he is ok with it but it is such a strange concept to most people that it takes awhile to digest
 

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As many others have said, give him time. This isn't an easy thing for a loved one to take in. In general, people have a tough time understanding and accepting things they're not familiar with. Hopefully he'll respect you and accept your desire. Keep us updated and good luck. :)
 

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In all aspects of a relationship, partners must be acceptant of anything that is out of the ordinary. Give it some time for it to settle and maybe he will then realize that it is just a part of life.
 
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