GemmysHubby said:
Thanks for the direct suggestions ParkABDL.
The last couple of evenings I have cuddled with Gemmy and watched cartoons, given them their pacifier, set out stickers papers and crayons for playtime, spoonfed princess-shape spaghettios, given a bubble bath and diapered/changed Gemmy before tucking them in with a warm bottle of milk and a bedtime story.
I was looking for ideas for other little (or big) things to try to enhance the experience for Gemmy. I don't share the same mindset so I'm not sure what things really make the experience of regressing with a caregiver most rewarding.
I'm open to any suggestions, and I'm also still interested to hear what all the other little ones have to say about the question in general. Thanks!
Well you heard my personal favorites already... didnt realize it was Gemmyshubby at first bc I was so excited to read everyones posts
My boyfriend currently isn't my big. It's hard for him to understand bc of his upbringing. He too, isnt sure what he would do with me if we ever had little time together. It's always good to start with things that any child might like & you'll find each Little has their own interests just like everyone else. As with anyone, those interest are ever changing. My current "Big" and I have been very active & hes always coming up with stuff for us to do. Going out is fun. He took me to a pet expo (like an adoption event) a couple weeks ago & we got to have some subtle little time petting all the animals. Of course in this scenario its always good to have an understanding that you're both going as adults & that your Little One can express themselves but it needs to be done in a private (between you two) manner. It makes the experience fun bc you two can be on a whole nother level & experience an outing differently than you would have before.
Little gestures are some of the most cherished: the way Daddy always makes my bottle perfectly, or that look he gives me when I need to be good, or holding my hand like a childs when were in the supermarket. All those small gestures go a long way & even though we cant always have little time, the holding of hands the right way or telling me to "be good" when im in my adult space makes me feel like he is really looking out for me.
As far as activities, every Little is different. Ive read that asking that person while they are in their Little Space can lead to some honest answers. Daddy's always bringing up suggestions to me of what we can do, and as any 3 year old, I jump with excitment at pretty much anything
We might try something and find out we dont like it but its always fun trying it out. Going to the zoo, park, sidewalk chalk, legos, puzzles, coloring (one of my faves). Even adult things like cooking, or chores can be fun when your Little One is allowed to be a "big person" and help stir the brownie mix
The sky's the limit when it comes to what you can do. One of my favorite parts about having a big is watching them learn what I like and dont. At first Daddy would make my bottles of formula very strong.. by about the third it was perfect. Just being involved in that process of him learning my preferences is something to not take for granted. I hope this helps... had to jump on my computer to write all this bc my mind is so full of what I wanna say
Ill leave you with a post I found about things you can do for Littles. Graphics/posts come out all the time like this one on places like tumblr & other sites. Maybe something you can start doing with Gemmy is going on the computer and finding cool stuff like this or other memes/posts... Make sure theyre supervised tho
http://bigspace-littlespace-outerspace.tumblr.com/post/86453734570/50-things-a-caregiver-could-do-for-their-little
Oh yeah, one thing that made me VERY happy recently: I bought some used toys on craigslist... just random baby toys. Didnt think I would like many of them (being in my scared/tarnished adult space) but when I brought them home & showed Daddy I experienced on of my happiest Little Times ever. Just getting to show him all my new toys & simultaneusly learning what they do with him made me so happy. It was unexpected but worth the $15. I had a good nap after that :blush:
