What do you consider adult baby?

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I had an ex who was lazy, he didn't want to do anything for himself; didn't want to work, didn't want to get his lisence, didn't want to do anything to help himself and he was full of excuses. All he did was play on the computer and never got off except for when he showered, ate, sleep, and went to the bathroom. He was like a big kid trapped in a 20 year old body. My husband sees him as an adult baby even though he didn't wear diapers, didn't use any baby items but he still sees him as an adult baby. I don't see him as an adult baby, I see him as a big kid.

My definition of adult baby is, using baby items and wearing diapers. Wearing diapers alone without the baby items doesn't make someone an AB. Being mentally challenged and having a mind of a baby and using baby items doesn't make them AB. If Brooke Greenberg makes it to adulthood, I won't consider her an AB because she did not choose that life style and choose to be treated like a baby. I don't see handicapped people as AB if they are in diapers and use bottles or sleeping in a special crib or eating baby food because they also didn't choose that life style and they can't help it, same as Brooke. If those people want to see themselves as AB, then they can go right ahead because it's their body, their decision so they can only speak for themselves. Some people with minds of children consider themselves AB and post in the AB/DL community like someone here does but he hasn't posted here in a while.

Some people consider Michael Jackson as an AB because he was child like and he played with kids and liked being a kid. I consider him a big kid.

So what does everyone here consider adult baby and what do you not consider adult baby?
 

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What you said. It really amounts to being a choice. Rather than calling it a fetish or a kink I think a true AB either picks it as a lifestyle or a large percentage of their normal life.

Basically what WIKI says or infantilism.org.
 

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I'am guessing what ya mean is do we think people who just act childish are ABs?

If it is then I say I don't being a AB or TB is a desistion to ware baby clothes and use diapers. Your ex was just lazy

(hope I got the meaning of this thread right)
 

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I had an ex who was lazy

That seems to sum up your EX. I think for most AB its the mental regression. For me anyways. I like to get diapered, then laydown and watch a movie. Maybe play woth my Paci, or toss ad trun allot on my blankets :) An of course theres my teddy bear :)
 

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Basically anyone who likes wearing baby apparel and acting like a baby, not necessarily wearing diapers although that is usually a part of it.
 

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Well when i think AB. I think footy pajamas,onsies,pacis and diapers and them ejoying every last bit of it. Not being lazy and not providing as with your ex's case. Allso yeah MJ did'nt have much of a childhood he got swept in to stardom to quickly.:/.
 

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Hmm, the image that comes to mind of your ex is just a lazy brat - Far from the idea of an adult baby. I think the posters here have it the nail on the head quite well. It is a life style (I would say choice but really, how many of us actually chose to want diapers?) It is a way to bring us comfort and to relieve stress. Acting like a spoiled brat and well, pretending to be a spoiled brat (in many Adult Babies cases - role playing can be quite fun!) are two very different things.
 

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I'am guessing what ya mean is do we think people who just act childish are ABs?

If it is then I say I don't being a AB or TB is a desistion to ware baby clothes and use diapers. Your ex was just lazy

(hope I got the meaning of this thread right)




I wanted to hear other peoples definition of what would make someone an adult baby. Some people who are child like, some people consider them AB's. If someone watches kid shows and they are an adult, some people might see them as an AB.
 

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Some people consider Michael Jackson as an AB because he was child like and he played with kids and liked being a kid. I consider him a big kid.

I wouldn't be surprised if they discover MJ had a diaper stash, or some other AB paraphernalia.
 

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There is a difference between an "Adult Baby" that regresses for fun... and a "Lazy Ass Good-For-Nothing" that won't take any kind of responcibility.
 

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There is a difference between an "Adult Baby" that regresses for fun... and a "Lazy Ass Good-For-Nothing" that won't take any kind of responcibility.

Well said Dark Finn. I have to agree with you 100%
 

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I wanted to hear other peoples definition of what would make someone an adult baby. Some people who are child like, some people consider them AB's. If someone watches kid shows and they are an adult, some people might see them as an AB.


Well, it depends on who you're asking. Someone outside of the *B/DL community might view someone who watches kids shows in the same light as someone who likes to wear diapers and suck pacifiers and other babyish things like that.


As has been mentioned before, this is where things get tricky when labels are used and you have to start defining exactly what the labels mean. There's such a gray area and everyone is unique so you can't really pin down all of the details.


As others have said, there's a big difference between being childish/lazy and being an AB. I mean, a lot of times people will use the phrase "You're just being a big baby" or "You're just a big baby." They usually just mean the person is being immature or over sensitive. To me, those things have nothing to do with ABism.


I also think doing childish things doesn't constitute someone as being an AB. I would imagine there are lots of females who have stuffed animals and even sleep with them...especially teenage girls. And there are lots of people who like kids shows. While these people may be more open to the idea of *Bism than someone else, I wouldn't say that they're *B's.


To me, being an AB means that you get emotional and/or sexual pleasure from doing "babyish" things...or acting as or being treated as a "baby". To me this is different than things a small child would do. This of course includes things like diapers, pacifiers, bottles, cribs, being fed, etc. Actual "babyish" things.

And as others have said...for most of us, this is just a part of who we are, almost like a side hobby. It doesn't define who we are...we don't go into work acting like a baby. Whereas in the situation you described, those childish aspects make up who the guy basically is.

(I know there are some exceptions in AB's to what I jus said...but I like to think that they're the exception and not the rule).


What's interesting to me is that there are qualities in me that I don't really think are ABish...but may be connected to my ABism. For example, I've developed the habit of not only sleeping with my teddy bear, but often holding, hugging or snuggling him when I'm doing things by myself at home. While I think this kind of stemmed from my ABism...in itself I don't know if it's really an AB thing.

I also have a lot of childish things about my personality...I like kids movies, I'm shy in groups, I can be very sensitive, and I'm sheltered in a lot of ways. Again, none of these things are ABish...but I've really started to think that in some way they're connected to my ABism.



But anyway...I'm basically backing up what people have already said. There's a big difference between the person you described and what an adult baby is.
 
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Her ex sounds like my sister's freeloader boyfriend who sits around playing video games and doing nothing and expects the world to hand him everything to him. He's even tried several times to have me get him a job and I say NO. I don't want him working with me.

As for the topic at hand for me, I am not sure what I think really, I think AB is more if you are wearing baby clothes, and stuff. That seems to be my thought on it... I don't think a freeloader is an adult baby to be honest, just someone who thinks the world should hand him or her everything they desire.

That's my two cents there...

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Whenever I have thought of an "adult baby", I have always gotten one of two images in my head:

A lazy slob who does not want anything to do with life out of diapers and other infantile paraphanillia.

Or...

People like us, who are simply over the age of 18 years (or whatever constitutes legal adulthood).

In it's simplest terms, and adult baby is an adult who acts like a baby. Not to be confused, however, is the degree to which the adult acts like a baby...such as when he/she becomes a freak who shows his diapers to public and ends up registered as a sex offender, or should he/she be a responsible and mature adult that balances a life between the two.

I would like to think that most adult babies fit into the second--more healthy--option, but there are many who do not.

I wonder what it would take to convince those who are offensive to change their ways--to find balance?

Hopefully, such things can come peacefully from introspection (and maybe a psychiatrist).
 
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