What do you consider a healthy balance

[ItsTimmyTime]

Just wondering what everyone else considers a healthy balance to be in terms of how often you feel the need/want to get padded each week?

Personally I can push myself to wear just once a week although I think twice a week would be very beneficial for me.

 

[Elmo]

My boundary is inconvenience. If wearing a diaper becomes inconvenient in some way, that's when I stop. That can range from "I don't want to wear right now" to "This is costing too much/I'm using too many diapers". I know that if wearing diapers starts becoming an inconvenience for me, I won't want to wear anymore.

 

[Subtlerustle]

Just wondering what everyone else considers a healthy balance to be in terms of how often you feel the need/want to get padded each week?

Personally I can push myself to wear just once a week although I think twice a week would be very beneficial for me.

I’m probably four times a week as an ideal. I was recently on holidays for a week and didn’t wear at all. The first night home I was dying to wear and I can truly say that once a week wouldn’t be enough for me. Luckily budget isn’t an issue as much as opportunity and the other self imposed boundaries that I have erected.

 

[littledub1955]

Just wondering what everyone else considers a healthy balance to be in terms of how often you feel the need/want to get padded each week?

Personally I can push myself to wear just once a week although I think twice a week would be very beneficial for me.

I'm padded 24/7 in cotton diapers and that is a healthy balance for me. That keeps me happy.

 

[TheGazelle]

I could go as much as 24/7 but don’t currently. Everyone is different in this aspect and I think part of it has to do with household situations

 

[BenNevis]

Like @Elmo says, inconvenience is a big one for me. Wearing is something that helps me relax but if it isn’t convenient to wear, it usually just introduces stress that negates the whole point of it.

I don’t find there’s a set frequency of wearing, it’s much more dynamic. As long as it doesn’t interfere with my life outside ABDL and allows me enough of a chance to recharge and relax, then that’s what I try to aim for.

 

[Neroforte]

I'm 247 padded IC also but yeah my healthy part that I also wear pads so give me freedom

 

[Cottontail]

My wife's not into it (though she's accepting) and I have teenage kids at home, so there are certainly forces at work here that limit how much time I spend in diapers. That said, I want a family, and I accept that having one comes with limits. I'm ok. Since the onset of the pandemic, I've been working from home. Wife and kids resumed commuting to work and school a couple of years ago, so diapers and onesies and bottles became my workday tradition. That falls apart somewhat when summer arrives and the kids are home on vacation, and then perhaps I feel a bit starved for little-time (although it sure feels special when it happens).

I think I have a pretty healthy balance, all things considered. I don't feel like wearing diapers is preventing me from doing anything that I want or need to do. When I'm not wearing, I'm seldom distracted by the desire to wear. The people around me are variously unaware of or not bothered by my wearing. As circumstances change, I'll reevaluate and adjust.

 

[fleckothefennec]

I try for once a week at the most, but often I have trouble controlling my urge to over indulge 😕

 

[TheMat]

I’m wearing about one per week as well. The main thing for me is making sure I’m not letting them get in the way of a healthy life. Not avoiding exercise or hanging out with friends because I want to stay home and wear.

 

[happy89]

I think the ideal for me is about once every four days, but it does naturally ebb and flow. Sometimes I want to wear daily/nightly, and sometimes I don't really want anything to do with it for even a couple weeks. For me it's both a relaxation/comfort thing and a way of connecting with my husband. And both components weigh into it.

Generally speaking I want to wear more often when I feel low level stress and really want to be taken care of, for him to take care of me and help my stress go away. Or if we have a short window that's just really conducive for it (some vacations, kids away at Grandma's, etc.) then it's good to seize the opportunity.

On the flip side if something seems out of balance in marriage dynamics such as tension between us, him not seeming as interested, or on the flip side a feeling that we're relying too much on diapers, it makes me want to pull back and refocus elsewhere for a little while. A fear I had for a while was that he'd only see me as pleasing when I was diapered. I know it's not true and that's mostly gone away now, but sometimes if that fear arises I can't get diapered up until it's resolved.

So basically in February I had a ten day streak of every day. And around the beginning of December went over two weeks in between. So it does and will vary, but right now I think wearing every 4-ish days (from about 8pm to the next morning) is my preference.

 

[Nowididit]

The balance is knowing when to turn it off and be an adult. You control it, it doesn't control you.
My balance is this. In no way does this kink interfere with family, friends or work.
I don't wear at work or work functions, for either my job or my wife's job.
I don't wear during family get togethers anytime.
I don't wear around friends or when there are get togethers.
There is a time and a place for my kink and time with family, friends and work is neither the time nor place.

 

[littledub1955]

I could go as much as 24/7 but don’t currently. Everyone is different in this aspect and I think part of it has to do with household situations

I understand you there. I'm just lucky to be sharing a house with a few people who are totally unrelated to each other. I'm also retired, and because everyone else has a job, it's just me here most of the time. Just a pinned on diaper and my pacifier for hours on end.

 

[Serendiapity]

Balance is important in all things, and indulging in diapers is no exception. I guess what specifically constitutes a healthy balance when it comes to this is highly subjective, though; personally, I wear maybe ~2 full days a week, give or take. I generally consider this to be an appropriate balance, because while I’m indulging what for me is an important need, I don’t allow it to take over my life. I don’t wear around friends, or to work, and although diapers are easily my primary sexual interest, I make an effort to give my wife plenty of sexual attention that has nothing to do with them.

 

[K00paTr00pa]

I think 2-3 times a week is what I aim for and only during times where I'm not working. I like diapers, but I wont let it interfere with the workings of my life.

I use to wear all the time when I would go out, but over time it lost its thrill and I only feel really comftable when Im home.

 

[blaincorrous]

Healthy for a non-IC diaper wearer is really just a function of how it affects the rest of your life.

• If you don’t want to do something in diapers, do you force yourself to wear anyway to keep thoughts away for even a moment?
• Do you avoid doing certain things because you can’t do it in diapers?
• Do you wear diapers even when discretion is hard to maintain? Have you conditioned yourself not to care about discretion when maybe you should?
• Does having a constant stream of diapers available cause a financial hardship?
• Do you notice a diminished lack of functional control over your bladder or bowels?
• Can you function socially without diapers and talk about other things?
• Can you work at a job without having to wear diapers? Can you keep them off your mind long enough to focus on work?
• Have you ever said YOLO unironically?

These are the questions I’d start asking. I don’t see an objective psychological health risk, and I don’t see some objective line where everyone is going to agree that “that’s a bit too much diaper wearing”. Hell, we have 24/7 wearers here, and while I have biological and functional misgivings about that, we have to assume they found balance enough to do that for any reasonable stretch of time and not have their lives crumble to dust. To me it’s not a matter of wearing too much, but asking is your diaper frequency compatible with your life? My life might be compatible with 24/7 if I didn’t have a family and a non-remote job, but I’m not about to turn my life upside down to achieve that.

 

[Newbaby110521]

For me two main things dictate how often I wear nappies and that’s want and circumstances. I live at home with my mother this may change in the not too distant future or it might not (depends on getting a job) but if she’s home I don’t wear she doesn’t know I wear and I want to keep it that way so I only wear when’s she’s away or is going to be out for most of the day. On want I can find it hard to do adult tasks while in a nappy so if I have to adult I don’t wear and sometimes I just don’t feel like wearing like at the moment my want to wear is rather low but it might pick up again (maybe I need to wear to remember how much I enjoy it) so I wear as and when I need and can do. Balance for me doesn’t really come into it.

 

[TheGazelle]

The way I look at it is if you can function in your job and in your home while wearing than there really is no limit to how often to wear. I wear to work every day and pretty much anywhere else. It actually improves my productivity and reduces anxiety for me. The only reason I don’t wear 24/7 is I respect my wife’s current acceptance. My child will no doubt find out that I wear diapers and will be told that some people need them and it will be left at that. No I’m not incon but a mental need is just as legitimate as a physical need and there is nothing wrong with that.


Basically to add on to my first answer, do what works best for you and what you are comfortable with.

 

[ItsTimmyTime]

I’m probably four times a week as an ideal. I was recently on holidays for a week and didn’t wear at all. The first night home I was dying to wear and I can truly say that once a week wouldn’t be enough for me. Luckily budget isn’t an issue as much as opportunity and the other self imposed boundaries that I have erected.

I can understand how you feel. When I push myself a week, I am so so ready to be padded again. I'd like to try twice a week, hopefully that'll come in time as my wife realises that would be a good thing for me.

I'm padded 24/7 in cotton diapers and that is a healthy balance for me. That keeps me happy.

I can imagine that does keep you happy. If love to give it a go sometime, just to see for myself 😀

My wife's not into it (though she's accepting) and I have teenage kids at home, so there are certainly forces at work here that limit how much time I spend in diapers. That said, I want a family, and I accept that having one comes with limits. I'm ok. Since the onset of the pandemic, I've been working from home. Wife and kids resumed commuting to work and school a couple of years ago, so diapers and onesies and bottles became my workday tradition. That falls apart somewhat when summer arrives and the kids are home on vacation, and then perhaps I feel a bit starved for little-time (although it sure feels special when it happens).

I think I have a pretty healthy balance, all things considered. I don't feel like wearing diapers is preventing me from doing anything that I want or need to do. When I'm not wearing, I'm seldom distracted by the desire to wear. The people around me are variously unaware of or not bothered by my wearing. As circumstances change, I'll reevaluate and adjust.

That sounds like a nice little routine you've got going on there! I bet it's a killer when everyone is around more in the holidays! I bet it does feel much more special/NEEDED! once your able to do it freely again though! 😉

I think the ideal for me is about once every four days, but it does naturally ebb and flow. Sometimes I want to wear daily/nightly, and sometimes I don't really want anything to do with it for even a couple weeks. For me it's both a relaxation/comfort thing and a way of connecting with my husband. And both components weigh into it.

Generally speaking I want to wear more often when I feel low level stress and really want to be taken care of, for him to take care of me and help my stress go away. Or if we have a short window that's just really conducive for it (some vacations, kids away at Grandma's, etc.) then it's good to seize the opportunity.

On the flip side if something seems out of balance in marriage dynamics such as tension between us, him not seeming as interested, or on the flip side a feeling that we're relying too much on diapers, it makes me want to pull back and refocus elsewhere for a little while. A fear I had for a while was that he'd only see me as pleasing when I was diapered. I know it's not true and that's mostly gone away now, but sometimes if that fear arises I can't get diapered up until it's resolved.

So basically in February I had a ten day streak of every day. And around the beginning of December went over two weeks in between. So it does and will vary, but right now I think wearing every 4-ish days (from about 8pm to the next morning) is my preference.

That makes a lot of sense! Every four days roughly, depending on life circumstances is where I think I'd feel most happy myself. Sounds like you have found the perfect balance 😍

 

[Neroforte]

I can understand how you feel. When I push myself a week, I am so so ready to be padded again. I'd like to try twice a week, hopefully that'll come in time as my wife realises that would be a good thing for me.

I can imagine that does keep you happy. If love to give it a go sometime, just to see for myself 😀

That sounds like a nice little routine you've got going on there! I bet it's a killer when everyone is around more in the holidays! I bet it does feel much more special/NEEDED! once your able to do it freely again though! 😉

That makes a lot of sense! Every four days roughly, depending on life circumstances is where I think I'd feel most happy myself. Sounds like you have found the perfect balance 😍

Yes to be honest I do like my confort both in d

I can understand how you feel. When I push myself a week, I am so so ready to be padded again. I'd like to try twice a week, hopefully that'll come in time as my wife realises that would be a good thing for me.

I can imagine that does keep you happy. If love to give it a go sometime, just to see for myself 😀

That sounds like a nice little routine you've got going on there! I bet it's a killer when everyone is around more in the holidays! I bet it does feel much more special/NEEDED! once your able to do it freely again though! 😉

That makes a lot of sense! Every four days roughly, depending on life circumstances is where I think I'd feel most happy myself. Sounds like you have found the perfect balance 😍

Yes to be honest I do like my confort both in Diapers and pads