I have seen some similar posts here but I think the differentiation I'm about to make is worth making.
Some have said that they feel like their adult side is "an act" that they are merely "playing adult" let me say I know that feeling and while it is accurate I can also see how it might give some people the wrong idea reluctant partners of ABDL for one.
IMHO it's important to note that we are not merely babies trapped in an adult body, that freaks people out and when I was first explaining to Mommy about what ABDL was it caused her some distress. Who wants to deal with the lack of maturity and inability to understand the feelings and needs of others that one would deal with in a relationship with a baby? Not many people. So I think it's more accurate to describe us as Adults, possessing all the intellect, empathy, and maturity hitherto implied, but that we are not comfortable outside the role of a baby or toddler because the outside world is big and scary when you're all alone and even vanilla people can sympathize with wanting someone else to take charge and love and protect us once in awhile. I don't identify as an adult or a child, I'm just me and I do what makes me feel right as long as I do not hurt or infringe upon the rights of others.
That's just my perception.
With regard to what the OP posted, I guess what I'm trying to say is I always feel that I'm in ABDL mode. Though I can't always show it, I always want to defer to Mommy, I always want kisses and hugs, and that safe feeling I get when our arms are around each other. I'm always looking for that feeling of rightness when she is with me and looks at me as the toddler I feel like. It's not as if the Adult and the Baby are two different people inside one body. I'm just Jayk. All the time no matter what :/