Wearing while potty training kids

[wolfpup2008]

I find myself confused and would like to hear from other parents. My confusion comes from my working on potty training my 3.5 year old while at the same time enjoying wearing diapers myself.

Thanks for your perspectives!

 

[Calico]

Sorry I'm not a parent but I feel I have to say this:

Why potty train your child?

I would keep my kid in diapers if I were you unless he or she wanted to quit on their own. I just don't think its fair to make your kid quit wearing if you get to wear yourself out of joy or fun pleasure, etc. not for need. I just find it ironic.

 

[floydrox88]

yeah, let them do it themselves. talk to him/her about it.

 

[Goose]

I disagree with the other two statements. Unfortunately, society frowns on those who are "not normal". Especially when your child begins schooling, they will get picked on if the other kids find out they're still diapered.

Many older teens and adults can deal with criticism from our peers, but most 6 year olds don't. I'd recommend potty training them, but giving them a choice later once you feel they're old enough and mature enough to handle the pressure.

 

[Gil]

i disagree with the other two statements. Unfortunately, society frowns on those who are "not normal". Especially when your child begins schooling, they will get picked on if the other kids find out they're still diapered.

Many older teens and adults can deal with criticism from our peers, but most 6 year olds don't. I'd recommend potty training them, but giving them a choice later once you feel they're old enough and mature enough to handle the pressure.

yes!

 

[Asher]

I am not a parent, but I watch/raise my little sister most of the time, so I'm the one who has to deal with these issues. Here it goes:

I never pushed her to go use the potty; I told her to go on her own will and "when she was ready." She didn't go for 6 months (yes, she is late) but then she was interested.

Also, don't punish your child if they have an accident; just tell them that everyone has accidents and that they will get it next time.

There is a bunch of different factors in potty-training; I can't list them all in a post. These websites did help me out a bit though:

Potty Training Information and Advice

Potty training: How to get the job done - MayoClinic.com

If you have an questions, let me know. I hope this helped!

- Asher

 

[floydrox88]

kinda wish my parents would have given me a choice later in life. they dont accept me for the way i am which sucks and emotionally hurts.

 

[BabyWolf]

Sorry I'm not a parent but I feel I have to say this:

Why potty train your child?

I would keep my kid in diapers if I were you unless he or she wanted to quit on their own. I just don't think its fair to make your kid quit wearing if you get to wear yourself out of joy or fun pleasure, etc. not for need. I just find it ironic.

If you don't attempt to potty train your child by a reasonable age, you can be charged with neglect. There ARE statutes in place for parents who don't take care of a child's needs and fail to help them reach critical milestones. It still happens, and some older kids haven't been trained, but if authorities found out those kids would wind up in foster homes.

 

[harris]

You choose to wear diapers. You made an informed decision to do so. You child cannot make that decision. Whether or not he wants to wear diapers, he has a right to be toilet trained and later, when he has the power of reason, he can decide whether he wants to wear diapers. If your child is resistant, that's to be expected. Toilet training is dificult, wearing diapers is work-free. That's not a decision that they enjoy diapers; it's a decision to not do any work.

Being a parent means, among many other things, making decisions for your child. You're the parent, and you know what is best. You wearing and he wearing are not the same thing. Once your child has control of their bodily functions, and IF they decide they want to wear diapers once they are older, which is extremely unlikely, even then you get to decide if they can do so and under what conditions. If right now you decide to leave him in diapers because you feel hypocritical, then you are making a decision that is unfair to him and that will have negative consequences for your child for a long time to come, in effect forcing your sexual fetish on your child, and you will have done all that for selfish reasons. I don't think you are that kind of person.

 

[Calico]

Okay I guess I was wrong then. I mean I think my child would be confused if I tried to potty train him or her and I don't know if my child is going to notice me in them or notice I have them in my room so if I decided to potty train him or her, he or she might refuse because "Mommy wears them too." So I didn't see the point and decided I would just let my own child decide when he or she wants to use the bathroom like the other kids and his or her dad too. And I'd go "okay, lets get started" so I go and buy my child pull ups and a potty chair."

It's not me pushing my fetish on my child.

 

[Nicky]

Sorry I'm not a parent but I feel I have to say this:

Why potty train your child?

I would keep my kid in diapers if I were you unless he or she wanted to quit on their own. I just don't think its fair to make your kid quit wearing if you get to wear yourself out of joy or fun pleasure, etc. not for need. I just find it ironic.

I'm going to have to disagree 100% with this actually. Just because I wear diapers, does mean I'm going to make my child wear them as well. Most kids are potty trained between 2-2.5 years old I believe, so that's when I'll probably do it.
It really wouldn't be fair to the child. It could really be seen as child negligence I believe.

 

[Calico]

I'm going to have to disagree 100% with this actually. Just because I wear diapers, does mean I'm going to make my child wear them as well. Most kids are potty trained between 2-2.5 years old I believe, so that's when I'll probably do it.
It really wouldn't be fair to the child. It could really be seen as child negligence I believe.

Oh man, don't people ever read my posts right? I said in there:

Sorry I'm not a parent but I feel I have to say this:

Why potty train your child?

I would keep my kid in diapers if I were you unless he or she wanted to quit on their own. I just don't think its fair to make your kid quit wearing if you get to wear yourself out of joy or fun pleasure, etc. not for need. I just find it ironic.

See where bolded?

What did that mean to you?

 

[wolfpup2008]

Thanks for all your responses.

So far I am seeing a discussion mostly centered around the question of whether a child should be potty trained. With this thread I was really looking to hear from parents who have experienced the same confusion that I am currently experiencing. Are there any here? I should probably give it a bit more time, since most parents in the US are only just now (6pm PT) finished with the day's share of parenting and their kids are in bed... ;-)

Thanks!

 

[angelabauer]

With all due respect to the several non-parents who expressed their opinions, the reality is having an incontinent parents does not confuse the child. My own Mom, Granny and Aunt were diapered 24/7 when I was born and I was toilet-trained by 33 months. My younger sister Missy is as incontinent as myself and had no trouble with her daughter's toilet learning at 32 months.

Someone who mentioned 24-30 months in the USA should read more current parenting information.

Good toilet learning does not harm children and goes at a pace each child can handle.

The consequences of not starting appropriate toilet learning can be severe. Very few pre-schools will accept kids who are not at least day dry. Only special needs kindergarten classes will deal with diaper changing. Unless a kid has other developmental problems Special Ed should be avoided.

Sure there will always be set back wetting episodes. Prudent parents do not remove the waterproof sheet so wetting does no damage. A return to diapers might not even be necessary.

 

[bebehuey]

i remember one of my friends kids, 5 years old, refused to be toilet trained, until she told him that he couldn't start kindergarten with all his friends until he was toilet trained. he was out of diapers completely inside a week, havent heard about any accidents either.

 

[Calico]

That's a great idea. If I ever have kids, I should tell my child, "When you go to school, kids will tease you and make fun of you because you're still in diapers" because they all be out of diapers by then. Bam he or she quits.

 

[thewiseguy7]

Thanks for all your responses.

So far I am seeing a discussion mostly centered around the question of whether a child should be potty trained. With this thread I was really looking to hear from parents who have experienced the same confusion that I am currently experiencing. Are there any here? I should probably give it a bit more time, since most parents in the US are only just now (6pm PT) finished with the day's share of parenting and their kids are in bed... ;-)

Thanks!

Jw, but are you a single parent?

 

[wolfpup2008]

Jw, but are you a single parent?

No, we are regular folks: married, raising the kids together etc.

I am not sure what you are really asking. Do you want to know what my wife thinks about my wearing diapers? Or are you asking about the logistics of getting kids to bed at a reasonable hour?

WP

 

[thewiseguy7]

No, we are regular folks: married, raising the kids together etc.

I am not sure what you are really asking. Do you want to know what my wife thinks about my wearing diapers? Or are you asking about the logistics of getting kids to bed at a reasonable hour?

WP

Yes i meant about what your wife thinks of your diapers.

 

[Harano]

I was toilet-trained by 33 months. My younger sister Missy is as incontinent as myself

From my understanding, toilet trained and incontinent are mutually exclusive.