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Hey guys! Recently told my gf about my dl side, and she wasn't too thrilled. On the other hand she isn't running away :) it's been about a month, we've talked about diapers a bit, and she does not have any interest in them. She did say she does not mind me wearing in front of her, despite the fact she does not want me wearing at all. should I just go for it and wear in front of her, or wait till she asks? Is there maybe a better way to break that ice?

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Women SAY they don't mind a lot of things. That doesn't mean you won't pay for it a million other ways from now through eternity. If she sticks around.

If feel you must, at least wear them under clothing. Prancing around the house in a diaper and a t-shirt is bound to end badly for you.
 

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Yeah, I'd recommend proceeding with caution. Just because it's something you like doesn't mean it's even something she is able to tolerate. How long have you guys been together?
 

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Women SAY they don't mind a lot of things. That doesn't mean you won't pay for it a million other ways from now through eternity. If she sticks around.

If feel you must, at least wear them under clothing. Prancing around the house in a diaper and a t-shirt is bound to end badly for you.

Lol! I forgot about that! She has been so open with her feelings about everything elselately, that I forgot about what "I don't mind" can really mean :p

I think I will wait a little while, then ease into it slowly when she is more adjusted to the idea.
 

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Steady and slow. And when the time seems right then proceed to lay her down and give her the best back massage you can muster. That way she will begin to associate you being in diapers with something pleasing to her. Win / Win.
 

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If my bf told me about wearing diapers, I would not mind him running around in just a diaper and t-shirt ;)

I think that if she was not thrilled about about it then out of respect, you should not flaunt in her face. There are still 2 positives to take away though. 1. She was accepting about it which shows she does care about you. 2. At least if she ever catches you waring diapers unexpectedly, it won't be a massive surprise and be a massive thing.
 

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I wouldn't suggest doing anything to make it obvious you're wearing. No super-tight pants or ultra thick diapers or anything. As long as you are discreet about it, there shouldn't be too much problem.

If she does start to give you a hard time, and you think it is related to you wearing, then you both need to sit down and have an honest conversation about it. Let her know that you want to wear, and if she isn't actually okay with you wearing around her, you need to know so you don't make things uncomfortable.
 
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Proceed with caution, wear ocassionally and under your clothes. This lets her get accustomed to you being in diapers and will hopefully stop seeing it as weird. Just start wearing them more often and treat it as someting normal and above all, dont be embarassed. :)

Im still working on my husband, but hes come to accept that i like spending time padded. Its important to me and i introduced them slowly into my daily wear. its working so good, so far.

Best of luck.
 

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Start slow. Don't rush this. It's likely that someone might get more used to it over time, but this sort of situation isn't the best time for the 'just rip it off all at once' approach. :)

Over time, talking and dealing with the fact that she doesn't want you to wear them will have to be something that will be talked about some more.. especially if you are going to keep on trying to get her involved. :(
 

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So true!......it's the same as when they say everything is fine. Calm before the storm.:) how long have you two been dating?




Women SAY they don't mind a lot of things. That doesn't mean you won't pay for it a million other ways from now through eternity. If she sticks around.

If feel you must, at least wear them under clothing. Prancing around the house in a diaper and a t-shirt is bound to end badly for you.
 
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I lived this very same experience over 25 years ago...and we're now a shade over 2 months away from celebrating our 18th wedding anniversary. I found bringing the topic up to be among the hardest things I've ever had to do. We were going out for awhile, and I could sense a strong connection on most every front. When I brought up that I wanted to wear, she thought it was funny. I proceeded very slowly, and one day asked if she would go with me to a store to buy a package. She did, and laughed real hard as I put one on in my car. We grew together a lot as a couple, and my fetish wasn't really a part of that growth.
eventually wearing in front of her, and even getting her to wear was a special occasional present for me. She continued to participate until we had kids. Since that point in time I've suffered numerous health issues and developed a bedwetting problem that no Dr. or medication has been able to help. Now I have no choice but to wear at night.
While she no longer "participates", they are a part of our lives. We have a very healthy relationship and still very much love each other.
The one piece of advice I'd offer is to not make diapers the centerpiece of your relationship, unless that is what the both of you desire...which doesn't sound like the case.
Best of luck!
 

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We've been dating for a little over 2 years. I only brought up diapers about a month and a half ago because I hadn't really accepted myself as a dl until about 2-3 months before that. Even after she wonders out loud why I would want to wear them, we plan her moving in with me.

I know its kinda sneaky, but what is everyone's opinion. If you were in her shoes, would you react better if i asked if I can wear a diaper (and then wear under clothes) or just be "caught" wearing under clothes?

I think I may just go with the later since she already knows, and just act like my normal sweet self :).
 

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You could compromise, wear a diaper and tell her you're wearing one, thus asking her, "What do you think?"
 

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I actually tried to get caught yesterday by taking a padded nap and forgetting to set an alarm, but she didn't even notice! Lol!

What did get us talking is when I asked if she minded if I wore one while taking another nap (have a nasty cold)... I got the "its your house, do what you want" I took the hint to not wear it then, and to continue the conversation later. The after nap conversation went really well. She is still not a big fan, but she is ok (for real) with me wearing. I shared that I am just learning to not hate myself for this kink, (she really identified with that one), and I also learned why she isn't a big fan of my diapers. It was a great talk, with plenty more to keep talking about :)
 

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Funny enough, for the same reason done of our members ARE ab, :p bad childhood :-( she does not really want to revisit it.
 
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hmm, not nice to hear, but , by talking about it and giving her enough time, she'll learn not to relate your diapers to her childhood, but will see it as two separate things.
 

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Wore an abena l4 while watching TV and to bed last night (under chonies of course). She was uncomfortable when I asked if it was okay (before I put them on) but once they were on, She didn't seem to mind. Even poked my but with her toe once or twice. She is still sleeping, so I'll update her reaction when she wakes up!
 

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I would just wear one and not tell her about it. Not make it her business and if she notices, she notices, if she doesn't notice, she doesn't notice.
 

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This is a really sticky situation. I told my wife (partner at the time) nearly five years ago whilst we were on holiday in Turkey. At first she was ok with it even coming with me to buy a pack of pull-ups. We have since married and her attitude towards me wearing nappies has changed , she won't even talk about them now. She knows I still wear nappies but she says she blanks it out, she is not happy with it. As a result I am very discrete about it and unfortunately don't wear as often as I did, I don't think I will ever stop though.
 
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