I'm going with Lukie on this one. I really don't care now when I lose my virginity. As long as I'm with the right person and at the right time.
I agree with this wholeheartedly. Sex can be a big deal for people for a number of reasons, as it is often more than just a physical thing for a lot of people. But it CAN go the other way, too, since some people are able to have sex with no emotional attachments. I knew a guy who had a girlfriend who wanted to save her virginity for marriage - she had a lot of emotions and religious malarky attached, and then he also had a friend with benefits and they had sex with no strings attached. I knew about but he told me his girlfriend already knew....I wonder....Take it from an old dog that life is way too short. I grew up in a rough neighborhood, and so other boys would always want to "mess around" with each other. It was also a power thing, who had dominance over who. Sex is complicated. It's important to remember that virginity is different for a girl than it is for a guy. We are usually pretty anxious to lose it, and they are not.
I had a long affair with a girl during my Jr. and Sr. year in high school. When I went to college, she suddenly ended it. Emotionally it was tough. The thing about having sex is that there is so much more involved than just the sex, and it seldom is a free ride. It was a first experience for both of us. We were committing so much more than just our bodies. In addition, we had all the pains of growing up, thinking about careers, and thinking about our futures together. When it suddenly ended, I went to the other side, so to speak. If that doesn't exemplify consequences, what does?
With that being said, time moves much quicker than you can imagine. Soon you will lose the androgenous quality of youthful beauty. You will become just like all the other adults. If I had to do it over again, I would be an even bigger whore than the one I apparently became, Pogo! hahaha..... It is a man's world I guess. Ultimately you must respect her wishes. Because we life in the U.S., we live with the specters of the Puritans. We still associate sex with sin. But the wise also know that there are emotional complications that come with it. Like I said, it's not a free ride.
LOL after reading all this and after some chat with friens I noticed I'm an old fashioned 16 year old guy.
I'm with the idea of waiting until marriage, because it isn't worth to do something with someone who isn't going to spend the life with me. It would be a waste that I spend one night of my life with a woman that the next day is with another guy, and isn't really fulfilling.
This is true. And sometimes plans do change, bad things can happen, and sometimes people can die or be forced to move, etc etc. I think it's possible to truly sexually love someone and not necessarily want to spend the rest of your life with said person.But most people who don't wait until marriage don't just go have one night stands and do it with some random person from a bar/ club.
So many times people think on the far sides of the spectrum, when, in reality, most people have their first time with someone they care about.