Urges, panicks, and exams

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Hi. I've recently been getting panick attacks, in which I feel a sudden desperate urge to pee. Whilst in this state, I need to get to the toilet as quickly as possible, and cant think of anything else. This could be anxiety setting off this physical symptom..or a physical health issue creating the urge, and the panic following as just a side effect. The problem I have is that Im about to have exams, during which I am likely to be full of nerves. Some exams are 3 hours long, and I dont want to have this problem mid way through, which would be dissibilitating and akward. So, Im wondering if I should wear some protection, more for confidence then necessarily out of necessity ( I hope). Im looking for something that would absorb 1 average wetting, and thats very discrete. As discrete as possible. I dont want to be worried about people being able to see what I am wearing as well as my exams, that just wont help the situation. I dont know whether to go the re-usable or disposable route, or what products would do the job. Any help would be much appreciated, thanks. :)
 

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It's probably just a physical manifestation of the stress...a psychosomatic reaction to what you're experiencing. Like much back pain.
 

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It sounds to me like the stress could be causing you issues.

Do you feel better when you are diapered?
 

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Generally, no, being diapered does not relief stressunfortunately, even though the idea of it does. This could though just be becuase I dont wear them much, so each time is an experimentation. But for this purpose, I would assume that it would reduce the stress of this worry, even though it would add the stress of 'can people see what I am wearing' etc.
 
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If you feel you're probably going to be nervous about your exams, in my experience doing something before I take a big test like exercising, relaxing, watching a funny movie, etc. the night before to take my mind off of it seems to help a lot. If it would make you more confident, study hard the night before. Do something that helps you relax, make you feel more assured, or just to take your mind off of whatever is eating at you. This way, you don't have to worry about worrying and just concentrate on what's most important: passing with the desired grade you want to achieve!

About the diapered issue: if you're able to fit into them, Goodnites are very discreet. If you want something that's more absorbent, try looking into a thin adult diaper with tapes.
 

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Some time ago i have read something similar on an incontinence forum, there was a teen who suffered from panic attacks accompanied with wetting/messing accidents. From what I remember the guy was under pschycological treatment which had a positive impact on his wetting, so maybe an idea for you ?
Also it's more common to experience wetting during exams, the human body can be "strange" sometimes. From my own experience i can tell my wetting is worse during stressfull events like exams etc...

Coming to product choice, it's a bit trial and error...but you could try the molicare premium plus or super / abriform super if you want to go for an all-in-one, they are one of the most discreet diapers that i've tried. Or if you want to go for a pant, you could try the abena flex range (the abri-flex special is the most discreet pant existing)/ depend pants. But pants are more prone to leaking, so i'll advise to get samples first and try them out so you can go confident (and not have to worry during..) to you exams.

Good luck!
 

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Sounds like you have already gotten some good advise here. It's going to be up to you how you want to deal with your stress. Since I am incontinent and either wear 24/7 or use Foley catheter and leg bag, I can honestly say that no one has ever noticed or said anything. When I am diapered, I wear the same diaper at night that I do during the day. I wear my pants a size or two larger and for the most part keep my shirt untucked to help hide it. For your current need, you might be able to get buy with using some of the cloth backed diapers from Walgreen's or CVS. Cloth back for one wetting should be fine. They won't have any noise and are cheap since you mainly want it for just test time. You can buy a pack and test it at home to make sure you will be o.k. with it.

Just relax and don't worry about it, you will be fine.

Changing a wet diaper is easier than wet pants
 

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Some time ago i have read something similar on an incontinence forum, there was a teen who suffered from panic attacks accompanied with wetting/messing accidents. From what I remember the guy was under pschycological treatment which had a positive impact on his wetting, so maybe an idea for you ?
Also it's more common to experience wetting during exams, the human body can be "strange" sometimes. From my own experience i can tell my wetting is worse during stressfull events like exams etc...

Im not so sure, ive never wet as such, just had a strong urge and need to go asap. Im not even sure if I did leave it long enough I would wet. Its just a stress thing I expect. Unfortunately I think worrying a lot is just something I have to live with, I do see a therapist, for semi-related issues,and I have raised it, but they didnt seem to be too concerned.

Would anybody recommend the tena pants discrete /tena pants discrete extra, or molicare air?

Thanks everyone for your advice. :)
 
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I've experienced something kinda similar. I tend to get nervous if I know I won't be able to use the bathroom for more than a couple hours (long exams or car rides, for example). I have a rather small bladder, and just the knowledge that I may not be able to get to a bathroom seems to make the urge to pee stronger--I've never actually wet because of it... (okay, once).

My freshman year of college, I was concerned about 2-3 hour long finals where I could've gotten up to go to the bathroom (but would be short on time for the exam if I did), so I just wore Goodnites. It made me less stressed. As for covering it up, Goodnites aren't that bulky to begin with (not sure about the diapers you asked about), and wearing baggy pants with a belt, tucking in a T-shirt so it doesn't ride up, and a long hoodie covers things up quite well. And I will say that I am completely comfortable with wearing these clothes over an Abena X-Plus as well; the extra bulk still isn't that noticeable.

Whatever diaper you choose, you might want to test its ability to not leak while wetting sitting down before going to the exam... I personally have more trouble with leaks when sitting down (even with an Abena X-plus); large floodings are a definite no-go.
 

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I've experienced something kinda similar. I tend to get nervous if I know I won't be able to use the bathroom for more than a couple hours (long exams or car rides, for example). I have a rather small bladder, and just the knowledge that I may not be able to get to a bathroom seems to make the urge to pee stronger--I've never actually wet because of it... (okay, once).
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Thats exactly it, its the knoweldge that it will be difficult to use the bathroom that makes me want to use it more.
 

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Thats exactly it, its the knoweldge that it will be difficult to use the bathroom that makes me want to use it more.

*nod* Seems largely psychological to me, then. I will say that I have had some success in mitigating my psychological reaction by doing the following:

I realized that somewhere along the line (I'm thinking 11 or so; a wetting accident at that time actually may have spurred it) I developed a fear of wetting myself. I started to visit the restroom more frequently, even if I only had to go a little bit--preventative measure, if you will. It didn't take too long before even just a small amount of urine would trigger a strong urge to use the restroom. I imagine that I had unwittingly made my situation worse--by frequently using the restroom to avoid accidents, I actually decreased my bladder capacity (it being a muscle that stretches--and I wasn't stretching it, ever). It got to the point that I was needing--not just wanting, but really *needing*--to go to the restroom every hour or so. Anyways, highly disruptive to my life.

So flash forward to my junior year of college, where I am out of the dorms and finally able to order some decent diapers for myself. One day I diaper up and think: gee, I wonder how much I actually can hold? So I try it and am shocked by how little my bladder can hold. I start to realize that I probably unwittingly did that to myself, and I'm rather tired of the consequences (seriously, too much of my life is spent worrying about where the restroom is). So I began trying to hold more for longer periods of time (in private of course--trying this in public could end badly) than I'm used to and do kegel exercises to help with control.

I'm not sure if you also have a small bladder to contend with, but I will say that in addition to helping bladder capacity this has really helped with my control & confidence (the psychological component of this). I am finding myself less paranoid that I will have an accident if I find myself in a situation where I must 'hold it' for a while--because I am now more confident of my ability to do so. It has helped with that psychological insistence that I use the bathroom even though I don't *really* have to. I have stopped feeling the need to diaper up for 2-3 hour exams. There are still some situations I'd rather be diapered for (amusement parks, road trips, 8 hour exams--blech), but I'm more functional in my day-to-day life now. If you do try this, just be sure not to hold on *too* long. Your body should tell you when it's had enough; obviously, if it hurts, STOP (preferably, do so before it starts hurting).

*above advice given from personal experience only, I am no M.D. I would say bringing this up to a doc may be a good idea (you said you already mentioned it to your therapist), just to be sure everything physical is OK.
 

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I've had an overactive bladder and IBS all my life. However, it got progressively worse when I was diagnosed with generalized anxiety disease when I was 22. It didn't have anything to do with stress even though, at the time, I was a senior in college. My anxiety disease was tripped by years of smoking pot. I began having panic attacks regularly and without provocation. Anyhow, I was on imipramine for about a year to control the panic attacks. Interestingly, the same drug has been prescribed for overactive bladder and enuresis. There appears to be a connection and some researchers have even pointed to a syndrome of nervous system disorders that may be genetically linked (on the same area of a chromosome). This was NOT psychosomatic. My neurotransmitters were completely out of whack and probably still are. I believe severe stress can trigger anxiety disease just like the pot did for me. However, your body has to be susceptible to it to begin with.
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Tygon, I think I am in a similar situation. Recently Ive been very nervous about wetting myself, or more like nervous about getting nervous and then needing to go to the toilet. So, I use the bathroom very often, as a precuationary measure like you say. Ive been thinking perhaps this isnt the best idea. I will try and take your adivce. :) Thanks everyone.
 

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Actually, if you have some loose-fitting pants, my guess is that you could wear a thicker diaper to exams. Folks there taking exams with you have their minds on things other than your butt! As was said above, leave your shirt tail out. If wearing a diaper isn't distracting, that is, if you can go about your exams without thinking about being diapered, then it could be a positive coping tactic for this application. If you get all fetish about it, then it might become a distraction. That being said, if you're going to wear a diaper, wear a good one, one that absorbs well, and a lot. Leaking diapers shouldn't be a distraction, either. Good luck on your exams.
 

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I experience the same thing when I'm under lots of stress - increased urge for urination. It has little to do with how much I have been drinking before the stress hits me - my body can somehow find enough liquids in me to produce all that pee. It also applies to driving a car, as driving is inherently a stressful situation (if you consider it a 'piece of cake', you're in the wrong mindset for driving carefully).
I don't think there's really anything you can do about that human condition. The best would, indeed, be taking precautions and either reducing stress (proper preparation for the exams), inquiring about toilet breaks or wearing protection as the last resort.

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I'm much in the same boat, but I have a history of actual bladder problems, so my experiences may differ from yours.

For me, its not so much exams(unless I'm bad at the particular exam, of course) as it is situations that give that anxiety that leads to the "gotta go!" feeling. There are times when I get uncomfortable, scared, nervous, etc and I get the same feelings as you do. But, having lived with it for all my life so far, I've learned how to cope with it, so accidents are very rare. I just try to calm down... the urge always gets worse as you panic about it. The more you think "gotta pee.... gotta pee....", the worse the urge is going to get. I've learned this because i have overactive bladder, and this mindset has helped me a lot. Your doing a good thing by taking preventive measures, like using the bathroom more often, etc. I always go before i take any long car rides, go to interviews(the worst nerve creator!), or any situation where I might find myself unable to get to a bathroom easily. But don't do it to the point where people start asking questions. Not drinking fluids before said events helps too, but my body seems to be the same as Peachy's, as it seems to suck moisture from my fat tissue or something and filters it to my bladder somehow. So if your body is anything similar, this only helps so much. But every little thing you can do helps.

Almost forgot about your main question! I nearly pushed "Submit"! :laugh:

You can wear pretty much any diaper you want. Just pick something that you find comfortable, and if its a thicker one, just wear some loose pants over it. i seriously doubt anyone will notice; if they do, then they must have a crush on you. But I don't think you'll need a thicker diaper... just go with a Tena, maybe an Attends, or something else along those lines. Those are good for a wetting, plus maybe one more. You can still wear the loose pants over them if you want to though, if you think it will help you to not think about it.
 
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Hi Tom also if this continues to be a problem for you after the exam you might want to check with a doctor to make sure you don't have an infection (UTI) as this can cause problems holding ones pee. Good luck on your exams.
 

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Thanks everyone, I really appreciate the advice. I have checked for an infection, nothing there...just nerves I guess.
 
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