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CrinkleScarf

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First off, it's been quite a while since I've even visited this site, let alone posted here, so hey there.

I have to say, it's kind of surreal posting here again. A lot's happened since I used to be a regular here, for the better mostly. Although now that I think about it, most of the friends that I'd made through this site and used to talk to on an almost daily basis have dispersed, which I guess is natural with internet friends in general. That being said, there's something about the absence of those people in my life, the people that get this fetish and the kind of lifestyle it implies, that's eaten away at me after a while. I don't have that outlet anymore where I could just talk about diapers and the lifestyle that goes with them. I have friends outside the circle who know about that side of me, but it's still difficult to talk to them, since they understand but they don't really GET it, if that makes any sense. I was curious if anyone else has felt this way before, that urge to talk out loud about the taboo side of yourself to people who understand so you can confirm you're not crazy every once in a while. It doesn't have to be about anything in particular, just something as simple as "This Molicare sampler is awesome!" or "Could really use some crinkles and cuddles right about now".

It may feel a bit weird to be here, but glad to be back. For the moment at least.
 

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I kinda hard the opposite experience at one point. I had an online friend who wasn't ab/dl but knew I was. I liked talking to him about this kind of stuff even though he wasn't into it. I dunno, it was almost like I got a certain satisfaction out of it.
 

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I kinda hard the opposite experience at one point. I had an online friend who wasn't ab/dl but knew I was. I liked talking to him about this kind of stuff even though he wasn't into it. I dunno, it was almost like I got a certain satisfaction out of it.

I can understand that, it sounds like a kind of freeing experience actually. I'm always worried that I'm making things weird for the other person in that rare situation, though. It comforts my conscience knowing that the person I'm talking to about it can understand and sometimes empathize without feeling super awkward.
 

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What we have here is a Failure to Communicate !
Now now it is not all that bad !
Adult Babies have to realize that communication skills are varying with the age portrayal.
First thing that has to be done is get the pacifier out of the mouth to make verbal noise.
Then as the age goes up-scale from the regression stage more vocal sounds making speech
will progress to more intelligent communication.
Bear in mind that the talk of sex should not occur before the age of puberty.
Yeah that should dampen someone's diaper wet dream.
As the Adult Baby's circle of friends expands more detailed conversation can be entertained
resulting in lively thought producing activities be they fetish or other.

This is going on way over the level of Baby Talk 101-
That is what happens when you fill the baby's bottle with Baileys -
the intoxicating speech syndrome.

Hope your friends are still friends after you are sorting out your AB life !
 

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What we have here is a Failure to Communicate !
Now now it is not all that bad !
Adult Babies have to realize that communication skills are varying with the age portrayal.
First thing that has to be done is get the pacifier out of the mouth to make verbal noise.
Then as the age goes up-scale from the regression stage more vocal sounds making speech
will progress to more intelligent communication.
Bear in mind that the talk of sex should not occur before the age of puberty.
Yeah that should dampen someone's diaper wet dream.
As the Adult Baby's circle of friends expands more detailed conversation can be entertained
resulting in lively thought producing activities be they fetish or other.

This is going on way over the level of Baby Talk 101-
That is what happens when you fill the baby's bottle with Baileys -
the intoxicating speech syndrome.

Hope your friends are still friends after you are sorting out your AB life !
Some of us carpet creepers can talkies with binkie in .
Takes a certain skill .
 

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There are a lot of "old" members who haven't been here in years, and I miss them. I think that a lot of the younger members find better things to do like having to study, once they go to college, or start new jobs. Sometimes they get married and life happens. Still, I miss them.
 

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There are a lot of "old" members who haven't been here in years, and I miss them. I think that a lot of the younger members find better things to do like having to study, once they go to college, or start new jobs. Sometimes they get married and life happens. Still, I miss them.

What I've found with the friends of mine that used to post here is that they left because there wasn't much left to do. A lot of us were roleplayers, but the community went south fast when we started to lose interest. Aside from that, we would all post on the forums like everyone else, but after a while things start to get repetitive. There will always be new people starting the same conversations and asking the same questions. Not that there's anything wrong with that; everyone has to learn simple things at some point. It's just that when there's almost no originality or interesting discussing going on, what's the point of coming to a forum? Which I guess ties in to what I mentioned earlier. Even if the conversation topics can be mundane and repetitive, they still provide an outlet to people like me seeking some kind of involvement with the community again. The same old questions get answered, yeah, but the fact that they can be freely asked and answered here relieves the secret side of ourselves that exists, for most of us, without a voice or expression in our daily lives. I dunno, I may be babbling at this point, but what I'm trying to say is that people leave for understandable reasons, but maybe they'll come back, because there's a reason forums like these exist.
 

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You're absolutely right. There are a lot of threads I no longer respond to. I've seen them many times, again and again, and it seems to make sense to let the new members respond. There still are interesting things that come up and to those I respond.
 

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I have noticed that a lot of the littles forums around the world have gone silent, actually... maybe we have covered all the topics everywhere? I mod a forum on fetlife (Adult Babies), and not much happens there, though there are 1000 members. The main board there, which has over 9k, has the occasional question about "which type of diaper, blah blah" but not much worth discussing. I am very deep and philosophical about this in my life, and I always strive to understand, but I find few who want to do that on a regular basis. There are a few hot topics which blow up the threads, like ABDL comparisons with LGBT, ABDL's on TV, and the ever popular "Fetish or no?" I sometimes suspect that all the conflict has exhausted the discussion-- people have drawn their line in the sand on the issues, and that's that.

At the same time, we are all experiencing amazing things, I'm sure. Some of us are sinking into purging and splurging, others are soaring in ecstasy, and these issues seem to rent a LOT of space in our lives, so why are the social networks moving so slowly? Is this my imagination, and is it just our groups, or have ALL social networks started to slow down?
 

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I have noticed that a lot of the littles forums around the world have gone silent, actually... maybe we have covered all the topics everywhere? I mod a forum on fetlife (Adult Babies), and not much happens there, though there are 1000 members. The main board there, which has over 9k, has the occasional question about "which type of diaper, blah blah" but not much worth discussing. I am very deep and philosophical about this in my life, and I always strive to understand, but I find few who want to do that on a regular basis. There are a few hot topics which blow up the threads, like ABDL comparisons with LGBT, ABDL's on TV, and the ever popular "Fetish or no?" I sometimes suspect that all the conflict has exhausted the discussion-- people have drawn their line in the sand on the issues, and that's that.

At the same time, we are all experiencing amazing things, I'm sure. Some of us are sinking into purging and splurging, others are soaring in ecstasy, and these issues seem to rent a LOT of space in our lives, so why are the social networks moving so slowly? Is this my imagination, and is it just our groups, or have ALL social networks started to slow down?

The inconsistent members-to-conversations ratio makes sense to me actually, since at it's core diapers for most people in the community are a fetish. People will more likely go on certain sites to meet caretakers, look at a photo gallery, or in some cases roleplay. I know I've done it a few times. Still, that's pretty upsetting if what you're saying is true. It's difficult to find other sites where people can find a balance between intelligent conversation and raving about the size of their stash. I think the reason I keep coming back, aside from the reason stated above, is because I know that every now and then there'll be one or two interesting conversations going on and contributing to them is a really satisfying, enjoyable experience.
 

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I think its a little daunting to deal with the diversity as well. Some people are non-sexual littles who slip into little mode without choice, others are sexualized diaper fetish people, and within those categories, so many differences!

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I think its very easy for us to isolate, whether its because we find a partner, or we baby out for hours, or because we are in stealth mode-- not to mention binge and purge cycles... it's hard to keep consistent communication with all that going on.
 

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I feel like allot of people come to forums to find friends then go there separate ways on other chats like skype. If you can keep up with them you can find some cool skype groups, but it's really easy to lose track of friends. Like I use to have a few friends from this site that are no longer on this site, but I stopped using skype after microsoft bought it, and only recently started using it again with security walls around it. I forgot my old password tho and email so no way to talk to them anytime soon till I find the password.

Also I've had a few that just randomly vanished. One said they would be gone for like 3 months mean while like 7 months later still MIA.

But yeah I definitely understand the wanting to talk to others who know how you feel, not just let you talk about how you feel.
 

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Sorry about bumping (it's only been a day, please don't kill me? 8)).

Forums and message boards seem to be changing lately. The world of social media and internet communication is changing pretty rapidly... There's quite a lot of roleplaying going on over at tumblr, for instance. Some communities consist of just a couple people writing forth and back, while others are bigger, relate to fandom/don't relate to fandom, are graphic in their ABDL interests, while others focus on the ageplay aspect. It's a lot less neat and ordered than a message board, and sometimes you only find people by accident. They're there, more than I thought possible, just different? ^^

It's nice. I talk about this side of me a lot more now than I used to, because it's not always as intense as (some) ABDL-forums/sites or message boards can get. Casual friendships like these sometimes do fade out for no reason, but they're nice while they last!
 

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{...}that urge to talk out loud about the taboo side of yourself to people who understand{...}

I know where you come from hon. Lately I have this overwhelming urge to tell my whole family, since if there is someone out there who knows and understands you, wouldn't it be your parents, brothers and sisters?
I desperately fight back that urge because of the possible drawbacks of being an outcast afterwards. Its an inner fight. The side that wants it out there makes me use tons of baby powder before I meet my mom (in case I know beforehand) in hope she would notice something fishy about me. On the other hand I am glad about every time we part without her saying anything. When home again I sit there for 30 minutes being sad about it. So stupid...
 

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Acceptance and validation is important to everyone, regardless of our personality or interests. It helps us to be secure people. The trouble with our unique desires is that it is seen as unacceptable in adult society. I have a desperate need to discuss this out loud with people close to me....after all it's such an integral part of my whole being. Fortunately, I have a partner who knows and accepts to a point, but I still have great difficulty properly discussing this with her....and as you've already suggested, that's partly because she can never properly appreciate what's going on in my head. That's why it's important to have forums like this where we can talk openly about our stuff 'albeit over text'
 

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I have noticed that a lot of the littles forums around the world have gone silent, actually... maybe we have covered all the topics everywhere?

Forums and message boards seem to be changing lately. The world of social media and internet communication is changing pretty rapidly... There's quite a lot of roleplaying going on over at tumblr, for instance. Some communities consist of just a couple people writing forth and back, while others are bigger, relate to fandom/don't relate to fandom, are graphic in their ABDL interests, while others focus on the ageplay aspect. It's a lot less neat and ordered than a message board, and sometimes you only find people by accident. They're there, more than I thought possible, just different? ^^

I thought of this a couple months actually about how internet forums are starting to become empty or disappear after I couldn't no longer find a forum I used to visit in the past. I used to frequent other forums, mostly bands and music forums, and I don't do it anymore, not many people do it anymore either and some of them have even been deleted. And I agree with Dreamincolour on the reason why it has happened.

The reality is that things change, people on the internet and outside of it move to newer more contemporary places or social platforms. It has happened before and it will continue to.

Adisc is really the only one I visit on a regular basis. But I don't think we should worry about Adisc disappearing just yet because what Adisc offers I don't see any other forum or social media platform do, it feels like a home.
 
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What I've found with the friends of mine that used to post here is that they left because there wasn't much left to do. A lot of us were roleplayers, but the community went south fast when we started to lose interest. Aside from that, we would all post on the forums like everyone else, but after a while things start to get repetitive. There will always be new people starting the same conversations and asking the same questions. Not that there's anything wrong with that; everyone has to learn simple things at some point. It's just that when there's almost no originality or interesting discussing going on, what's the point of coming to a forum? Which I guess ties in to what I mentioned earlier. Even if the conversation topics can be mundane and repetitive, they still provide an outlet to people like me seeking some kind of involvement with the community again. The same old questions get answered, yeah, but the fact that they can be freely asked and answered here relieves the secret side of ourselves that exists, for most of us, without a voice or expression in our daily lives. I dunno, I may be babbling at this point, but what I'm trying to say is that people leave for understandable reasons, but maybe they'll come back, because there's a reason forums like these exist.

I think that makes a lot of sense, but the interesting thing about community is that it seems to go in waves. You're not the only one that feels the way you do and sometimes needs to reach out to talk about things. Sometimes the conversations are already there, and sometimes threads get old and fall down a forum and then there's a chance to raise a new version of the topic. Sometimes it's worth telling the same story over and over again to get a point across and because it's interesting. I think I've told the story about telling my parents five or six times now because I feel like it's helpful to people.

Also, there's nothing wrong with new people. Sometimes old friends drift off and we make new ones. Other times they come back later and the circle simply grows instead of shifting. Sigh, I wish I were half as confident as sound about all this, but I'm saying it as much for myself as I am for you. :sweatdrop:

I thought of this a couple months actually about how internet forums are starting to become empty or disappear after I couldn't no longer find a forum I used to visit in the past. I used to frequent other forums, mostly bands and music forums, and I don't do it anymore, not many people do it anymore either and some of them have even been deleted. And I agree with Dreamincolour on the reason why it has happened.

The reality is that things change, people on the internet and outside of it move to newer more contemporary places or social platforms. It has happened before and it will continue to.

Adisc is really the only one I visit on a regular basis. But I don't think we should worry about Adisc disappearing just yet because what Adisc offers I don't see any other forum or social media platform do, it feels like a home.

Well, as Mark Twain once said "rumors of my death are greatly exaggerated." Forums may not be the hot new thing in a world where rich multimedia and phones are everywhere, but people still need to talk, and when it comes to diapers, people still need a place to talk safely and pseudonymously. So, there's some value here that isn't going away quite so soon.
 

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I was a lurker on here for a long time before I signed up, and I noticed the same topics being repeated frequently. I realise that as new people join, they feel the need to ask questions that have been covered before, but how many times can we cover:

:favourite diaper, pacifier, plushy, cartoon, sippy cup
:how to wet/mess properly
:how to tell my partner, parents, friends
:why do I like/love/hate this part of my personality

Now I'm not being condescending, and I realise that people have these feelings and/or questions that they need answers to, especially younger members who are probably still living at home and are trying to work things out for themselves, but for the rest of us it does get a touch repetitive and is harder to formulate a response to after the question has been answered multiple times before.

Also, I know full well that this is a support site, and not a hook up or porn forum, but there is a lack of discussion somewhere between people who don't require support.

What I mean by this, is its getting so geared towards just offering support that people seem to post less and less about the enjoyable sexual side to it. I can only speak for myself of course, but I am here because I am a little, I'm also a DL, and I enjoy wetting my pants.

It relaxes me, calms me, centres me, and turns me on as well. But we become so "vanilla" about it, that it almost seems wrong to admit that there is a certain sexual side to it. Most posts seem to be the aforementioned topics discussing the pretty accessories that go with it, or the angst that accompanies it for a lot of people, but rarely do you get the fun discussions about the good side.

There used to be people posting stories about wetting their pants, or tales about embarrassing childhood stories, or funny drunken mishaps or sightings. These seem to be fewer on the ground here these days.

It appears that a lot of people are just happy being AB/DL in the most innocent way only, and nobody wants to talk about engaging in age regression or diaper play within an adult context and admit that they also enjoy it because they get arousal from it.

I do. I don't need help or guidance, and I'm at peace with my fetish. I just want to talk about the joys of it sometimes, and not the problems only!
 

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I was a lurker on here for a long time before I signed up, and I noticed the same topics being repeated frequently. I realise that as new people join, they feel the need to ask questions that have been covered before, but how many times can we cover:

:favourite diaper, pacifier, plushy, cartoon, sippy cup
:how to wet/mess properly
:how to tell my partner, parents, friends
:why do I like/love/hate this part of my personality

Now I'm not being condescending, and I realise that people have these feelings and/or questions that they need answers to, especially younger members who are probably still living at home and are trying to work things out for themselves, but for the rest of us it does get a touch repetitive and is harder to formulate a response to after the question has been answered multiple times before.

Also, I know full well that this is a support site, and not a hook up or porn forum, but there is a lack of discussion somewhere between people who don't require support.

What I mean by this, is its getting so geared towards just offering support that people seem to post less and less about the enjoyable sexual side to it. I can only speak for myself of course, but I am here because I am a little, I'm also a DL, and I enjoy wetting my pants.

It relaxes me, calms me, centres me, and turns me on as well. But we become so "vanilla" about it, that it almost seems wrong to admit that there is a certain sexual side to it. Most posts seem to be the aforementioned topics discussing the pretty accessories that go with it, or the angst that accompanies it for a lot of people, but rarely do you get the fun discussions about the good side.

There used to be people posting stories about wetting their pants, or tales about embarrassing childhood stories, or funny drunken mishaps or sightings. These seem to be fewer on the ground here these days.

It appears that a lot of people are just happy being AB/DL in the most innocent way only, and nobody wants to talk about engaging in age regression or diaper play within an adult context and admit that they also enjoy it because they get arousal from it.

I do. I don't need help or guidance, and I'm at peace with my fetish. I just want to talk about the joys of it sometimes, and not the problems only!

As a fairly private guy, I find that many of the topics you mentioned, while perfectly worthy, don't appeal to me for mass sharing. I have a number of individual friends in the community, both online and local, and they're often my preferred go-to at this point for things of that nature. Occasionally, I do have something tickle my brain that I'm interested in a larger response for. At this point, while I'm not crying about it, there are better places than here to get those answers.

ADISC does support pretty well but we've decided, both by rules and general will that sexual topics aren't a big part of that, regardless of how high-minded the discussion might be. When those questions arise, we inevitably spend as much or more time debating whether we should be discussing such things as addressing the actual question raised. There is still some good content that way but it leads to a high ratio of noise to the signal, so I will often seek those answers elsewhere.
 

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since they understand but they don't really GET it, if that makes any sense.

Welcome back! This makes perfect sense to me. I have friends like that along with others that don't get it at all but we are able to stay friends since I don't do anything crazy like wear in front of them or force them to talk about it. It's one of those things that doesn't really need to be talked about with everyone anyways. I got friends just for talking about video games etc. I got friends for talking abdl too. =) It all balances out if you keep searching!
 
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