FunSizeJake said:
I'll repeat what basically everyone in this thread has summarized, as it is not very difficult for anyone to wrap their head around. If both parties are not legal adults or both parties are not minors, there should be no discussion whether it be online, in person, suggestive, coercive, or subliminal about adult activities, pornographic activities, fetish-ized activities, or any topics synonymous with what was just listed. It does not matter whatsoever what the fetish is. It could be simple BDSM, DDLG, scat, blood, feet, etc. The point is that the content of the conversation doesn't matter, the premise is what is important, and the premise in this situation is that both parties need to be legal adults. I hope you don't take exception to anything I've said, my intent was not to start a fight or argument.
Exactly! Don't worry. I don't disagree with anything you said.
That, "I'm 5. Why are diapers still in me," or, "I'm 13, and thank God I'm boy crazy as hell, because if I was gay, the family would flip, but why the hell is my response to a really hot guy I know a lot about, to want to love him though an accident!? He's older than me. He probably doesn't have those. What is this," or any other the other feelings related to this thing of ours, were hard for me.
I don't care how hard they were on me. I didn't belong in an adult community, until I turned 18.
BDL can be in
us before 18 all
it wants. Most white coats think fetishes start in early childhood You were 7 or 8? I was 5ish.
We can't be in
it, until we're
legally grown, because it's a fetish. That's what the white coats call it, not necessarily a fetish disorder.
The whole, "How, if it's not sexual," thing?
I get it. I feel it. When I'm in Littlespace, the last thing I want is to boink. After Little time is over, things might be a different story, because my Little side isn't starved for attention, anymore. Don't know. Never boinked right after Littling. My personal experience doesn't make one bit of difference as to rather or not white coats consider it a fetish! They can think what they like, and maybe they have some grasp of it most don't.
Maybe their take is, "It's been in there so long, no wonder it's a love language for you, and you don't want to boink in Littespace, and no wonder when you did hit puberty, you wanted to be the Big. Those feelings you felt for that hot guy, we're not little kid feelings, although they didn't involve boinking either"?
Infantile sexuality is a genuine white coat term, but they're saying humans don't develop in vacuums, that It's not like a light switch. You don't just hit puberty, or turn legal, and everything is in place. The groundwork for what humans will one day like, is laid before then,
NOT, "Sexual discussions pictures or anything else sexual with children is justified."
I heard someone mention a CAPCon class about where ABs came from, and the class title was something like, "infantile sexuality and the origins of ABDL," or something, and being shocked, I looked up what these crazy white coats were talking about. Sigmund was a little nutty. He also didn't want angry parents coming after him saying he was accusing them of being low lifes. Regardless of if its a love map issue, an imprinting issue, or Siggy was right, the looneytoon, most of the time, it's in there in childhood. Not talking about the "parts responses," just the desire for diapers and childish objects.