I've been trying to kickflip lately but every time i try to, I end up varial kickflipping instead. any suggestions? help?
Are you regular or goofy man? Are you trying to just do a kickflip or are we talking about a kickflip with a 360 shove it? I read your headline... I presume you are trying to do a 360 popshove it with a kickflip in it right? Let me know please.
I'm not goofy (though I'm a lefty, hah) but what I tend to do is give my rear placing more thrust as I'm coming out of an ollie or from a transfer or something, but push down on my front placing to keep the board from flying out of control.
Sounds like you're having your feet too far spread apart, too. Try having your front placement a very tiny tad under the midpoint of your deck then have your rear placement off the edge more.
G'luck -- and btw, the kickflip is the hardest trick to learn, it took me 2 years to finally nail it without busting my lip or ear (don't ask)!