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he should also think about WHY and a possible reason before posting such a fucking dig.

i no u are not blaming it, but it is the cause isnt it? ur seizures as a kid? just trying to help u man

He did think about why, in fact it's one of his most thought out posts in my view. People have got on his back about producing one lined "no thought" comments, which you just did.
 
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its seemed like a dig to me, right im off to bed anyway

Please use proper Words. Your And you.

And just so you know I'd edit out the name calling before someone less nice them me decides to negative rep you for it. Also it helps not to be a hypocrite.


Thank you.

Big fucking deal.... oooooo bad rep, piss off
 

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Stand down, it is bad enough starting an arguement with a regular member but do not start one with one who obviously struggles with grammer, it is ridiculous. He has a LD DO NOT start saying that just because u have one form a disability u no evrything about it, because u will be wrong that is all there is to it. as for his signature, i thankj him for it, it gives me a reason for why he is doing it. and again, back off

and feel free to pick this apart for spelling errors i do not care.

Stand down. It is bad enough starting an argument with a regular member, but do not start one with one who obviously struggles with grammar, it is ridiculous. He has a LD; do not start saying that just because you have one form [of] a disability, you know everything about it, because you will be wrong. That is all there is to it. As for his signature, I thank him for it; it gives me a reason for why he is doing it. And again, back off.

I also changed some of the grammar around. :)

There we go! Got it done before some asshole did it. :)

Well someone saying they have a form of autism when they talk about their poor spelling and grammar gives me the impression they are blaming it on their autism. It just bugs me to see people blaming something on their disability that has nothing to do with it. People don't see me blaming everything on my AS and all my problems because some of them might not have had anything to do with it and I would just make myself look stupid and someone who uses it as an excuse. That's not the impression I want to give other people.

I understand how you could get that impression; it is the same impression that I got when I first heard him explain himself. I've been quietly reading everything that he's typing, and while I was doing that, I managed to develop my new impression of what he meant. Which could still be wrong. It would bug me too, but sometimes there are people who just can't accept the fact that it's their own fault, and they escape by blaming it on one disability or another.


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My bf has brain damage so it gave him several learning disabilities. I don't know if they cause dyslexia too but he also has that so he also spells poorly but it's not as bad as babylife's. People have gotten on his back too about his spelling and grammar but he just ignores it and doesn't complain. After being bullied throughout his childhood and being isolated, he doesn't care about meanness anymore from other people. Sometimes he asks me how to spell a word and I help him.

I'm glad that your boyfriend has stopped caring about people being mean to him. I'm also sorry that he had to develop that personality trait in such an negative way. My only other point would have to be that some people are still in that isolated stage of their lives, and they don't have someone like you to help them.
 

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He did think about why, in fact it's one of his most thought out posts in my view. People have got on his back about producing one lined "no thought" comments, which you just did.
Eh, close I had a Holy shit!!! he made this post a few months back(God long time ago) If I remember clearly.


King of Clubs truly In my opinion of you you are a dick(A person, especially a man, regarded as mean). The way you are acting is very rude and Idiotic.(The way you are acting not you.) You tell me to think about why I am posting that. Maybe you should take some of your own advice. Before acting in such a rude and demeaning(To your personality.) manor. It shows that you jumped to conclusions.

babylife247 I got no beef with you. I could still be a friend. But I'm honest. I speak things that make some people mad.
King of Clubs Same.
 

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Sorry I got to this so late, Val. First I missed it when you posted it, then the dang thing got deleted right before pressing "Send', and then I had to go eat dinner...

Complain
com·plained, com·plain·ing, com·plains
1. To express feelings of pain, dissatisfaction, or resentment.

I'm very literal. He was dissatisfied with how some people handled it.

Using that definition, I agree with you. I see what you mean. :)

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I never said he was lying.

I apologize for this. I should have differentiated between the points that were meant to be directed for you, and the points that were meant for the thread as a whole. I wasn't accusing you of calling him a liar in any way. I'm sorry.

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If that person had the capability to learn to speak better by hearing how something is said and chose to say "Don't Tell me that this is said this why" Then yes I would. I've learned a great deal about spelling with people telling me what I spelled wrong. Saying I have dyslexia So I spell wrong will give the people the impression that you do not want to learn to spell the right way. r

I don't have any experience with learning disabilities first-hand, so I'll take from what you've told me and agree that it would be a good idea for him to learn from other members. This also gets into the "Does he want to learn or not?" issue, so I'll leave it at that.

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Again I never said I do not believe Him I had a friend that had problems like this.(Seriously! Where do people get this?)

Again, I apologize.

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That is making a comparison that has nothing to do with this. I get that some disibilities are more severe then others. But you should not use your disibility as a thing to hid behind because you do not want some one to tell you something EX. Dyslexias and Spelling. You should atleast make an attempt and allow people to help. Ex. typing on a forum and people pointing out mistakes.
That was a bit extremist, I'll admit, but it got the point across, didn't it?

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Thats what he made it sound like. HE made it sound like he wanted to hide behind the disabilities to avoid people telling him anything.

Once again, getting into what your impression of it was, so yeah... :)



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Also I was calm I addressed some of the things that needed to be address. I did not yell, I did not make a "Funny bunny" of him, I did not gain a attitude. I informed him.

We communicate by typing on this forum. Giving the impression that you do not want to improve your typing skill is going to annoy people. So will making a big deal about this. It just does.

I got the impression that you were yelling, but that just might have been part of the problem with communicating via text. You have to assign your own emotional cues to the words.

Autism does not cause poor spelling and grammar. Learning disability does. :wallbash:





No he doesn't have a mental mind. You expect us all to cater you just because you have a mental mind of a child? That is using it as an excuse if that is what you expect.

People can use their disabilities as an excuse and not even know it.

I wouldn't say "cater" so much as I'd say: He expects to be more lenient than we appear to be.

Please use proper Words. Your And you.

And just so you know I'd edit out the name calling before someone less nice them me decides to negative rep you for it. Also it helps not to be a hypocrite.


Thank you.

I agree with the first part, but not the part about the neg rep.

:twocents:

He did think about why, in fact it's one of his most thought out posts in my view. People have got on his back about producing one lined "no thought" comments, which you just did.

Agreed. It was one of Val's more thought out posts. I just got the wrong emotional impression out of it, I suppose.

its seemed like a dig to me, right im off to bed anyway



Big fucking deal.... oooooo bad rep, piss off

Come on. You're just playing into exactly what should be avoided! Keep some level of neutrality. Don't get aggressive or defensive. That's why the word assertive exists. Be assertive, not aggressive.
 
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This is my input on what was posted:

I don't see why some of you guys have to be mean to the poor fellow. He is obviously trying pretty darn hard to make his messages as clear as possible.

I don't think just because of the way the guy posts, he should be excluded from this community, we are a support forum after all.
 

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I don't think just because of the way the guy posts, he should be excluded from this community, we are a support forum after all.

He hasn't been at all. In fact I think he said he was leaving a few months ago after being called a liar or something on a matter unrelated to not using proper spelling/grammar. No one has tried to force him out or anything like that at all. If he left it would be due his own accord, not ours.
 

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if I make A post see all say something spell can't read it I try best fix but only can do much what software give me . I sorry not try or blame disability but is cause why write and type so hard for me.

like said before say last time got learning disability and forum autism plus for got to put I also got sort term memory lose but that I don't think effect on less forget what go type.

on till can find magic software with spelling make sentence all have read thread over 1 or 2 time to get say sorry .

I only got read and write level 1 or 2 grader so English vocable is bad and spell.
when was school most teacher read thing me or help me write or spell them because could not.
 

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This is my input on what was posted:

I don't see why some of you guys have to be mean to the poor fellow. He is obviously trying pretty darn hard to make his messages as clear as possible.

I don't think just because of the way the guy posts, he should be excluded from this community, we are a support forum after all.


That's the general impression I have of all of this as well.


Look, I know that grammar, spelling, good writing skills/techniques...all of these things are important. I also agree that we shouldn't get complacent with things like poor grammar and spelling either.

But, I honestly don't see how picking apart every bit is going to help someone improve it. I think it's fine to offer suggestions in order to help somebody improve it and make their message clearer. I also think this should be done in a respectful and courteous manner so that intent of helping someone is clear.


Like James said, our focus here should be supporting each other in this *B/Dl lifestyle. I personally don't think it's right to exclude someone based solely on their grammar skills. And while I don't want to encourage people to continue in poor grammar habits, I also do my best not to judge people based solely on them...there is a lot more to a person than how he/she writes. You never know someone's true intentions or how much effort they put into trying to make things sound better.

Just my two cents...being a grammar nazi is ok as long as you don't lose sight of the big picture of our site as a whole (like my use of the homonym? ;) ).
 
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Whatever the case, he has both autism AND a learning disability. Like he said, he isn't a doctor and doesn't know which causes his problem. He made this thread so people would understand that he can't help his mistakes, and that people should stop tearing him a new one for them. He isn't hiding behind his disability.
 

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Hope make this thread that it would you all understand why my grammer and spelling is so bad . Now hope see not try hid behind disalilty so got impression being of this thread

thank for all comments and hope clear and explain aliitle why typeing forum bad try makit better if can.
 

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You can go to Word and write that which you want to say. It has a spell checker and a grammar checker. Then you can copy from Word and paste to adisc. Just toggle back and forth. I hope that will help you. My wife teaches learning disabled math, and so I can appreciate the frustration. I wish you the best.
 

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thank did google search for word and write do got liink for if could post please thank and yeah does get frustration alot for when try make under stand what typeing .

maybe this magic software looking for all my life.
 

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Whatever the case, he has both autism AND a learning disability. Like he said, he isn't a doctor and doesn't know which causes his problem. He made this thread so people would understand that he can't help his mistakes, and that people should stop tearing him a new one for them. He isn't hiding behind his disability.



When did he say that?

Okay so that explains why he thought his poor spelling and grammar was caused by his autism because he doesn't know what his problems are caused by what. People usually know a lot about their own conditions so they know what problems are caused by it and what problems aren't caused by it and poor spelling and grammar isn't caused by autism. I guess the OP never read about autism to understand it better or else he would have known his spelling and grammatical errors wasn't caused by it?

It would have been better if he said he just has difficulty with spelling and grammar and it isn't his strongest point.

I used to not know anything about my own condition either when I was first diagnosed because I never read anything about it until I was almost 15. .
 

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yeah come medical mommy and daddy know more about that than me same mental mind and learning disability . There one talk dr not me becuase can't understand much adult stuff try tell me.
 

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When did he say that?

Okay so that explains why he thought his poor spelling and grammar was caused by his autism because he doesn't know what his problems are caused by what. People usually know a lot about their own conditions so they know what problems are caused by it and what problems aren't caused by it and poor spelling and grammar isn't caused by autism. I guess the OP never read about autism to understand it better or else he would have known his spelling and grammatical errors wasn't caused by it?

It would have been better if he said he just has difficulty with spelling and grammar and it isn't his strongest point.

I used to not know anything about my own condition either when I was first diagnosed because I never read anything about it until I was almost 15. .

Can you (and everyone else whining about this) just pull the stick out of your ass already? Cut the guy some slack. There's no need to jump on him and get on his case about this so much.

I'm sure there have been some hurtful comments made toward him already, so he felt he needed a more plausible excuse ("I have autism and learning disorders.") for his grammar issues than "spelling isn't my strong point."

Sure, it might've been better if he had said that he has difficulty with spelling and grammar, instead of saying it was a result of autism. However, he can't take back what he's said already.

The doctor didn't tell him exactly what was the cause of his poor spelling/grammar; instead, he gave him a list of the disorders he has: autism, learning disorder, brain damage as a result of seizures and a coma as a small child.

Also, Calico, this isn't intended to be exclusively directed at you; rather, it's directed at you and everyone else who's made similar posts.
 

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Really I've been looking. He had very few posts antagonizing him or attacking him because of spelling. (People pointed stuff out in a mature manner)
Just look besides this thread.
http://www.adisc.org/forum/adult-baby/10838-would-you-take-your-child-ab-dl-gathering.html


Thats it.

And this is the worst that has been said to him and this is because of the picture he posted.
I am really sorry, I never do this and I hope that I will never have to ever again.

You are 22 years old. I know that you know (that I know that you know) proper grammar because you specifically used 'I'll' knowing to put an apostrophe before the two 'L's.' My question is, how do you know when to use apostrophes and you seem to not know how to write properly in any other sense?



Could have been said better if you used the word "I" as in "where I am not afraid to post stuff like this"

You do this in every single one of your posts. If you are trying to be cute, that is not how it works around here. If not, I am not sure what problem you have since you are 22 and live in the USA.

I am not trying to be mean, but you will have to learn how to navigate your way through this forum. We do not connect ourselves fully with the fetish we incorporate in our lives. We will not talk to you as though we are idiots or use 'toddler talk' or whatever you want to call it.

Grow up a little and learn to adjust to your environment, or at the least, an internet forum. Understand that we have young kids around here and I, personally, would not like you to subject them with pictures of nude people. Also note that we do have older members here who will not treat you like a 3 year old just because you have a fetish that revolves around that strive.


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And he apologized for some parts later.
 

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:bunny: Thanks to all of you for compassionate posts, We're all leery of text type abbreviations and intentional baby talk on this site. But I think babylife247 is truly attempting to communicate and connect with this community to the best of his ability.

ADISC is the only place on the internet I go for anything related to AB/DL matters. I do not have an interest in anything beyond what I have experienced thus far in this community. I feel at times disregarded because I am much older than other ADISC members but, hey, this was originally a teen baby site?.

As a retired Special Educator and Child Development Specialist, I believe I a possess a thorough knowledge of specific disabling conditions. The understanding of Autism, like the understanding of schizophrenia, has just started to unfold in the last 10 years. When Babylfe24/7 says he has "forum autism" I believe he is trying to say a form of autism. Autism has an entire range or cascade of degrees of functioning.

Obviously, Babylfe24/7 can type/write at some level of proficiency. Technologically, he may have exceeded my level of competence; he has an avatar and can delete posts and interact within this computer/internet form better than I can. (It took me 2 months and lots of help from Lil Snap and H3g31 to get an avatar and to know how to use the quote feature. Thanks, guys!).

I think Babylfe24/7 deserves the support and sanctuary of this ADISC community, as much as a 55 year old adult baby, as much as a trans-gendered teen, as much as a 27 year old DL in the US Navy stationed over seas, as much as an ADISC Administrator Dr. Peachy in Germany. If we are truly to be a support community, we need to extend our openness. Never to Perverts or Pedophiles, but open not to just the educated or highly capable, but to all within this wide community of people.

If I were in person in the same room with every one who has posted on this thread, whom I now know only through this ADISC site, I might attempt to look into each eye and try to garner tolerance, acceptance, compassion and empathy for this new member. I might take Babylife 24/7 aside and suggest that he limit his internet connection with things related to AB/TB/DL activities to only ADISC and the safety and sanctuary associated with it.
 
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I might take Babylife 24/7 aside and suggest that he limit his internet connection with things related to AB/TB/DL activities to only ADISC and the safety and sanctuary associated with it.

Diaper Rabbit if wrong tell but say stay from other AB site with sexual stuff and so on because there bad . If understand say ADISC is safer to be and in future I'll keep my post with out naked picture just last post as show tribe make point it want wrong sorry again.

like said last on ab take kid to events I don't under sexual stuff like most you I'm not in to sex at all thiink gross.

I think like child not and adult so don't see picture alway sexual why just picture tribe to me.
 

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babylife247-

Thanks for starting this thread--it's really generated some interesting conversation, and on topics I've been thinking about since April 1st. (After Christmas, I think April Fool's Day is one of my least favorite days...why have a day when deception is socially acceptable?)

Discussions like this one are probably a good exercise for this forum. Stick around, and keep participating in further discussions. I'm sure folks can get a feel for your way of communicating. It's something we all have to do, whether we think about it or not. How many people out there can make themselves perfectly understood the first time?
 
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