To Tell, or Not?

SappyOak

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Earlier this week I felt I could not continue maintaining a personal secret (always hiding my diapers and super careful with the laundry of my cloth diapers). So I contemplated speaking with my mum while I was at work. By 17:00 I made up my mind and as I was leaving work I rang her and told her that I wanted to speak with her about a 'personal issue'. She asked me if it was about my job, I said it was not about my job, it was a personal matter.

I drove home and sat down for dinner. We engaged in some pleasant chatter over the meal, about half way though I looked at her with a straight face and said "Tomorrow I want to let you know that I'm hanging my laundered diapers on the second clothes line". Mum looked at me and said "Wha?".

I explained to her that I would prefer the use of my cloth diapers for the occasional bedwetting (she was aware of that). She said if there were any medical issues from my doctor, I said I was not aware of any. We continues our chat and at the end she took it really well. Mum told me that she was glad that it wasn't a serious medical issue like cancer or something similar, since that was what she automatically thought of when I said I wanted to speak to her about a personal thing. She also commented that sooner or later, we're all going to end up in diapers in old age anyway - so next time it'll probably be her turn!

Albeit, I didn't go into the whole ABDL kink side of things, at this stage I just want to avoid sneaking around the house having to hide my diapers and be stressed everytime I wash my cloth diapers, inserts and plastic pants.

It's been almost a week now and everything is still normal, I'm super glad that mum now knows and is totally OK with it. She told me that she was aware of the rare incident of bedwetting but thought that it was due to me being extremely tired, she never found out about my stash of disposables or that I had wet diapers in the outdoor bin (and even one incident where I forgotten to take out the trash bag of wet diapers). She never even suspected I wore diapers to bed all this time.

The day after I told her, I did the laundry routine in the early morning and hung out the diapers, inserts and onesie outside, had breakfast and went to work. I got back from work and mum told me that she picked up the laundry and put it in my room. I saw a neat pile including my printed baby blue block onesie (from OnesiesDownUnder) next to my cloth diapers.


She never said anything to me about the prints. Knowing her, she probably found it exceedingly cute.

So from my experience, I'm glad I got a good outcome. Yes it was risky, I had an alternate plan if things went south as I have my own home (currently being rented out) if it became untenable. But also I felt rather than letting her finding out by accident, I had the opportunity to choose the time, place to initiate the discussion.
 
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Littleboy10

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I have told both wife . But they didn't understand or care too and that part the reason why I'm single now.I would not tell know one alls. Because every if they could understand. They be worried that they would be thought of for being with me.
 

BabySkye75

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I have been very tight lipped about whom I speak to about this... for the obvious my roommates know, they were told as a precautionary measure should they see me in a diapey and or my little clothes which I might add I dawn most days.. more so they understood that what they see here stays here, they were cool with it my eldest roommate whom I look after and keep safe thought it was pretty cute. My daughter is fully aware and pretty much said I’m weird but suspected it to begin with.. then again she has been there for me in all aspects even when I finally came out as transgender, my youngest sister also knows and was like ok it is what it is... for anyone else I just have accidents and they are aware of it and don’t judge
 

Matt09

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Not sure i'd ever openly tell because the fallout from it might be like a genie you can't put back in the bottle. The easier way is to allow it to be discovered... and that would only be with someone you knew in your heart would be at the very least neutral over it, and at the best fully supportive.

By doing it this way it shifts the focus from your own proactive promotion of it, and instead transfers that focus to the recipient - to either accept it or not. They can then approach you, or the subject in general, in their time and on their terms, or not at all. It's like a built in pressure valve for the psyche.
 
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Sidewinder

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The decision whether to tell or not can be a difficult one to make and thus presents it's own host of dilemmas.

Now, I can't speak for any one person here, but I CAN offer some general advice.

The first thing to consider when deciding whether or not to tell someone is how judgmental that person might be.

If that person is one of a very judgmental nature, then you're probably better off not telling them anything, however, the drawback to not telling, is the risk of arousing suspicion.
 
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