Thoughts on age gap relationships (DDLG etc)

[Magicalgirl101]

Hi everyone!
I just wanted to vent about this for awhile since i dont have friends to vent to; anyways i always wanted to hear opinions about age gap relationships. Personally, im NOT attracted to guys in their 20s-30s for reasons. I've dated a guy who was in his 50s in the past and discovered that older men treat me better/ appreciate me more.

 

[Edgewater]

Much of it is generational.

 

[todderhr]

depends on the power balance… but you’re both adults, so it shouldn’t be anyone elses business.

I’ve always been attracted to older guys.

 

[Magicalgirl101]

Much of it is generational.

What do you mean?

 

[Magicalgirl101]

depends on the power balance… but you’re both adults, so it shouldn’t be anyone elses business.

I agree

 

[Lyric]

I met my wife when I was 59 and she was 32. We both had been married before and she had a daughter. We've been together since. I told her about my long time desire to wear diapers and rubber pants and use them. She's been wonderful and so supportive about it once she understood how important it was to me and how my interests developed. I don't know how our age difference factored into our relationship but I do know she wanted to have a more dominate role in our relationship than she had in her prior marriage and I wanted to be more submissive or at least less dominate than I had been before. I wanted to feel free to express this diaper wetting side of me with a partner and she was quite happy to do so.

 

[Anemone]

Should the attraction be mutual I can see no issues. There is a risk I suppose that people have different expectations which do not stand the test of time.
If the age gap is important the trouble is that people of different ages get older at different rates.

 

[Edgewater]

What do you mean?

There are differences between generations.
A generation is measured in time periods of 15 to 20 years. As a member of the Baby Boomer generation (old guy) and my son and grandson, there have been clear differences taught each generation and as a result how each generation interacts is different.
Sadly, as a result of changes over the last fifty plus years, younger men have continued to have less regard of the differences between biological females and biological males. The process has lead to less concern regarding each other and a high level of disrespect.
There has always been bad actors, but it seems to only become worst.
Lots of reasons, but the results are what you are seeing.
I am not recommending old adults as the transition of aging leaves the younger person, alone as the older person dies of old age and leaves the young alone in the twilight part of life.

 

[Zeke]

Hi everyone!
I just wanted to vent about this for awhile since i dont have friends to vent to; anyways i always wanted to hear opinions about age gap relationships. Personally, im NOT attracted to guys in their 20s-30s for reasons. I've dated a guy who was in his 50s in the past and discovered that older men treat me better/ appreciate me more.

It often comes to men with age to treat women as they deserve. I certainly wish that I could have a do over of my marriage, knowing what I know today, as I believe that I could’ve made my wife a far happier woman than I did.

 

[dogboy]

I think it takes men a lot longer to mature than women. It certainly was in my case though my wife and I stayed happily married all through her and my life. She was actually a year and a half younger than me. Everyone is different so it really depends on the individual. We live in a somewhat more accepting world so I wouldn't worry about it.

 

[Diaperman95]

I think as long as both people are mature and consisting adults it is up to them. The older one is generally the more mature they are. Not always but you just tend to have a different perspective on life the more years you have been alive. Little things that use to seam so upsetting in our 20s are nothing anymore. Besides the fact that we grew up in a different time. The majority of younger people now days do not know or have a strong work ethic built in them or the manors or respect that was taught to the older generation. That is what edgewater meant when he said it is generational. It is a fact of life the world has lost respect for each other. When I was a kid I said yes sir and no sir and thank you. We said hello to each other asked a stranger how their day is going at the supermarket. You opened doors for the ladies and the elderly. Those days are gone unless you want to hang out with older folks.

 

[Magicalgirl101]

I think as long as both people are mature and consisting adults it is up to them. The older one is generally the more mature they are. Not always but you just tend to have a different perspective on life the more years you have been alive. Little things that use to seam so upsetting in our 20s are nothing anymore. Besides the fact that we grew up in a different time. The majority of younger people now days do not know or have a strong work ethic built in them or the manors or respect that was taught to the older generation. That is what edgewater meant when he said it is generational. It is a fact of life the world has lost respect for each other. When I was a kid I said yes sir and no sir and thank you. We said hello to each other asked a stranger how their day is going at the supermarket. You opened doors for the ladies and the elderly. Those days are gone unless you want to hang out with older folks.

I agree 100% with ur statment. I rarely see guys open doors for women (around my age) its usually older guys in the 30s etc.

 

[fleckothefennec]

As long as both partners are in love, legal age and are accepting of the possible short comings of large age gaps then I feel it's fine.

Personally i have always had female partners that are younger than me. The largest gap was 6 years. I'm not really attracted to older women, or women my age. That being said I feel it may be difficult to properly connect with a partner with too large an age gap as life experience would be so different.

 

[Halfdan]

I would like to find a relationship within my acceptable age group, as discussed - I have been in relationships ranging from 6 yrs older to 10 younger. Age has nothing to do with it, A relationship, be it with a GF/Wife or Mommy, has to be based on compatibility, communication and finding common ground. As well as a willingness to make it work. Life, love and commitment is all a matter of choice
My problem is: that since I have been exploring options for a Real Life LTR, be it as GF or mommy, most of the responses I have received are from women 30-48 who are trolling for Dollars, or are not serious about anything more than themselves.
I believed or understood, being a mommy to a little of any age, is to satisfy the maternal instant, the bond created through mutual love and affection, be it online chat, or in real life.

 

[Subtlerustle]

Hi everyone!
I just wanted to vent about this for awhile since i dont have friends to vent to; anyways i always wanted to hear opinions about age gap relationships. Personally, im NOT attracted to guys in their 20s-30s for reasons. I've dated a guy who was in his 50s in the past and discovered that older men treat me better/ appreciate me more.

Kudos to you for your introspection. Not everyone fits into a box. If I’m any indication being north of the 50 line now, I can categorically say I’m more attentive to my wife than ever. Call it maturity, experience or wisdom. The truth is guys our age have generally made the dumb mistakes already and have learned from them. So dynamic aside, maybe there is some benefit you can gain from that as long as all the other needs and wants are met for you.

 

[DLtrucker85]

Who cares what people think. As long as both parties is of consenting age, just be happy. Once us guys hit a certain age, we quit making alot of dumb mistakes, and have already established ourselves. Know what we want or need in life, not what the next Friday or Saturday night will bring us.