- Diaper Lover
I can definitely see where you're coming from with this, Daria -- however, in the interest of keeping within the current debate (while maybe striking a little on the outside), I personally disagree.And although I recognize that rape is not consensual sex, it's still sex, so if you've been raped, you've had sex, and therefore you aren't a virgin.
Sex and intercourse, to me, needs to be accepted and agreed upon by both parties for it to be considered sexual activity. If a man forces himself upon a woman (or vice-versa) without her consent, then what he is engaging in is a travesty for which the victimized party should not need to socially suffer after the molestation itself. To say that a woman was raped, and is thus not a virgin, completely tears away her ability to feel "pure", although it is my belief that a person who has suffered in this manner can and should be allowed to strive past all the ways the intercouse being forced upon her made her feel.
Just because someone else has tried to break and innocent person's world does not mean that the victim need be distracted from their ability to be innocent. To me, sex is a lot more than just the physical interaction -- and if the emotional connection and the mental connection is not there, the physical act means nothing.
(I always do love a good debate or back-and-forth discussion, so you'll have to excuse me in advance for jumping on that part of your post. ^ ^)