The anticipation of meeting a fellow DL in person

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Hi All,
Would like to hear about your first meet up with another DL. If you have done this before that is?
Where did you meet?
What did you talk about?
Did you meet up a second time and if so, Did you change each other?
I ask this as I am considering trying to meet a DL in Brisbane who wants to meet or just chat.
 
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I’ve never ever met anyone that shares this similar comfort that I at least realise. I’m being a bit daring and going to Kangacon 🙀 I’m super excited to meet new people and learn more about myself even.
 
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I've met two people from this forum in person. We just talked, one I gave some diapers to. I at least felt it was pretty cool to meet some one in person. But don't drive too far to go meet someone unless there is a concrete plan to meet. Both times I met people was because I was in the area and there was low risk.
I'd like to meet more ABDL's if I could.
 
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Link66 said:
Hi All,
Would like to hear about your first meet up with another DL. If you have done this before that is?
Where did you meet?
What did you talk about?
Did you meet up a second time and if so, Did you change each other?
I ask this as I am considering trying to meet a DL in Brisbane who wants to meet or just chat.
Yes, I did that several years ago. I met this guy on Yahoo diaper chat who was more into the AB side of things and I have always been on the DL side. Anyway, we agreed to meet at a Taco Cabana in San Antonio to meet. Turned out he brought a couple other ABs and we all had a nice chat. Later We got together at the other 2 guys places for diaper activity etc. It was cool being able to actually meet face to face with others to share about diapers.
 

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Link66 said:
Hi All,
Would like to hear about your first meet up with another DL. If you have done this before that is?
Where did you meet?
What did you talk about?
Did you meet up a second time and if so, Did you change each other?
I ask this as I am considering trying to meet a DL in Brisbane who wants to meet or just chat.
Met just once
was an absolute disaster to put it nicely and G rated
and ill never do it again for the rest of my life.
 
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The first time I met up with other ABDLs was at a munch at a park. There were like 10 of us there - I was fighting anxiety gremlins the whole drive over but when I got there everyone was really chill. Played games, chatted, ate, it was a great time.
I'd definitely meet first at a munch or something like that. Other ABDLs are pretty good about helping weed out weirdos with bad intentions, and the kind of people you'd want to avoid don't really want to be part of the community and go to munches - they want to isolate one person from the group for their selfish plans.
 
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I was a little bit silly the first time I met another ABDL.
Warning, long side story ahead...

We had met on fetlife as I was hoping to get to en event held here in the UK and he was also planning to go, I have met plenty of (vanilla) people from online before and feel quite comfortable doing so was he. I had written in a post on that events group page that I would love to attend but would find it difficult without transport (I don't drive), he replied offering a lift as he was fairly local, if we could meet beforehand so he knows who I am.

Well we chatted for a bit online and as I said I'm quite happy to go and meet others and I felt comfortable with the arrangements to meet this guy who lived not far outside my city (close enough to be same postal code but far enough to be a separate town for those in the UK he's in Wells I'm in Bristol).

As for the actual meeting, everything went well. He met me at the train station, we went to a nearby bar, had a few drinks a good chat and a laugh both padded, then went back to his place to get changed (this is the point he showed me his garage with a literal mountin of packs of nappies and the frst time I had ever seen printed adult nappies, Crinklz original) he let me take my pick of nappies he had there to change into (I went for the crinklz) and have another drink before he dropped me at the station and I went home. In all it was a great day and a fun experience.

The silly part (and where you may want to skip,) comes as this was about the same time I was exploring an interest in spanking and had recently learned about Capsaicin creams/oils. I had already tried some 0.9 mg strength cream and ...enjoyed? ...been ok with, and it only lasted about 3-4 hours. But I had also ordered some Fiery Jaxx oils at 0.7, 0.9 and 1.25mg strength as I had read that the sensation from oils lasts longer then cream as it sits on the skin longer before being fully absorbed.

Now capsaicin cream can be bought over the counter in pharmacies in 0.025 upto 0.1mg strength to be used in small amounts as a pain relief for various conditions, however a larger (pea sized amount) applied to the butt cheeks creates a strong, burning (to the point of being painful) sensation. it doesn't cause any actual damage it just triggers the pain receptor nerves in the body. It's like eating a very hot chilli pepper (capsaicin is a chilli extract) but when applied to the bottom feels like you've just spent an hour over daddies knee without the actual impacts or bruising/welts.

Well my oils arrived the morning I was due to meet and I was a little impatient to test them so I sprayed my backside right away (about 10:00 AM). Not a problem for a while as they are hydrophobic and work best as a spanking alternative when wet and under pressure so I thought they weren't working, so when I put my nappy on to go get the train to meet him I was fine, it was a little warm but not that bad. By the time we were at the bar (12:00 ish) I was a little wet and it was starting to heat up back there, once I had wet a little more it was getting quite sore and hard to sit still. I explained this to him and we had a good laugh.

Back at his place I really felt like i'd been wooped hard that morning but it calmed down a bit after I got changed (maybe 3:00) *phew*. when he dropped me at the station (about 4:30) I was still dry, but not for long... all that beer by the time I got off the train was now in the nappy and my backside burned again and I still had an hour of bus journey to get home. Suffice to say it was not a comfortable trip.

To end this story, I took the nappy off shortly after getting home and my bum was fine, I put a nappy on at bedtime and kept it dry, when I woke at 8:00 the next day I wet it and began to feel my backside warm up once again but not by as much this time.

Moral of the story... Capsaicin oils definitely last longer than cream and you should not apply them liberally before going to meet somebody wearing a nappy unless you really need to feel like you've had your bottom wooped a treat.
 
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SparkyDog said:
Met just once
was an absolute disaster to put it nicely and G rated
and ill never do it again for the rest of my life.
I would be curious for you to share some details.
Regardless, this is my major fear about meeting another ABDL in real life.
 

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My first time of meeting other Littles was a munch called Littles Big Land.

I was really nervous and excited at the same time.

I had see other Littles online before but seeing a group of us all dressed in diapers and snap crotch onesie in persion was new to me as well as being able to play with toys.

After that I meet one that lived in the next town to me.

We meet in town and for lunch a just chatted.

Now I li e with a fellow Littles and am part of a community of us, its so nice as we support each other.

It is thanks to Adisc.org as this is the place where it all started for me.

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iluvdps2 said:
I would be curious for you to share some details.
Regardless, this is my major fear about meeting another ABDL in real life.
in a nut shell and without details
Every meeting would turn sexual in one way or an other. I didn't want that. I even stated that before meeting. Which is why im done with IRL meetups
 
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I've met a few people in person. The ABDL I've ever met was from this site, and we are still good friends today (hey dude!). As with all friendships, it has waxed and wanted, but we still at least keep in contact. In fact we met up last week to hang out! It helps we have more than just diapers in common. He is a pretty cool dude :)

Would love to meet more folks, but my partner is having a little trouble understanding that diapers are more often than not, non-sexual.
 
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Well met a local ABDL in a coffee shop after chatting for ages on this site. I also met up with a DL from Florida (I'm in Minnesota) he and I talked on the phone numerous times and we decided to meet up for a long weekend. He flew up here to MN (thankfully in the spring cause right now its super cold). We have been best of friends ever since (since 2011). Love my ABDL Friends that I have made over the years and can never wait to see them!
 
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I am not afraid to meet another brother! It would be great if we could talk, however, I know a lot of people here so I don't think I'd feel comfortable on a website like this. This isn't a dating site.
 
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SparkyDog said:
in a nut shell and without details
Every meeting would turn sexual in one way or an other. I didn't want that. I even stated that before meeting. Which is why im done with IRL meetups
Have you tried munches? How are you finding them?

In my experience, it helps to have become friends online before meeting them. Then, its like two online friends meeting each other for the first time and there are no sexual expectations.
 

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I did meet another ab through a club I was in. we met at a services on the m4. we had some food there and sat and talked for about an hour. he wanted us to go back to his place. but I wasn't keen. he nice enough in himself, but he was a little over weight, a bit sweaty, and he smelt of pee and maybe other stuff. if he had been someone who takes more pride in themselves, and also been a bit fitter, then maybe. but as it was I made my excuses and left.
 

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I once met someone I was having conversations with on an ABDL web site; AB Kingdom. The suggestion to meet came from him.

We met in a restaurant close to my work, for drinks. It was very casual. I was just excited to meet another ABDL, and decided to go diapered. He wasn’t, but that was ok. I made sure he would see my diaper slightly coming out of my jeans😃🙃

We had nice opened conversations about ourselves, life in general but also about our ABDL side. Can’t say we had a great connection, but that was interesting being with another ABDL

Suddenly my phone rang, it was my wife!!! She rarely calls me at work, while that time I was not working late, I was in a restaurant with another ABDL.

— Allo!
— Allo! What are you doing? She asked, like if she had seen me or worst looking at me now!!!

Turns out she was going out for diner with her friend soon and wanted to know if I wanted to join them🤪🙏😥

My ABDL meeting ended right there, got in my car, took off my diaper and went to the restaurant where they were both waiting for me, drinks in hand🙃😉🥂

I had and still have other meet ups, but with nanny's, escortes or dominatrix, always to explore and experience ABDL scenarios of mine; Dom / Sub.

But I would certainly consider meeting other ABDL again…
 
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The first meet I had was with a member off here and I was very nervous but he was really good at making me know I wasn't alone and had a genuinely nice day. We were both padded but that was it, we chatted about being abdl and other things too and it was a very good meet.

The first time I was little followed about a week later with someone else. We'd messaged extensively online and we started with just a get-to-know you walk in the park. We later found a seculeded area away from everyone and he asked if I'd like to sit on his lap, and I did, and he gently rocked and soothed me (I was very nervous)! We went and had a little picknic and he changed my nappy in the back of the car, before we went for a pint and came back to being adult.

I was just supposed to have a meet this morning but it was a complete disaster. The person I was meeting claimed he'd been little with a daddy before, so said he was fine to meet another little and we'd discussed beforehand what we were going to do and laid down that neither of us wanted anything sexual. But he ended up being too nervous and overwhelmed with panic so I left. Then he called me back 10-20 minutes later, we awkwardly changed each other and that was it. Unconfortable and unpleasant for all involved.

Good meets can happen and I've had several good meets and made some very good abdl friends from it. But the key it that there needs to be more than just nappies that can talk about. Simply being abdl is not enough to make a meet go well, ideally you need to be able to chat about other things and have different things that you like together.
 

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Arkady said:
Have you tried munches? How are you finding them?

In my experience, it helps to have become friends online before meeting them. Then, its like two online friends meeting each other for the first time and there are no sexual expectations.
I did
were online friends and chatted for months. As I said aweful experience and wasn't the first time.
 

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My first meet up was weird. I was very young. The guy was married. I wasn't very attracted to him, and it seemed all he really wanted was sex. He only ever contacted me when he wanted to "meet up". I'd usually decline because I just wasn't wanting sex. I guess both of us were desperate to meet people like us, but for very different reasons. He was more DL and I was AB.

It'd be a few years later I'd meet another DL guy, but sort of the same. I'd decided to take a break from ABDL because of all the toxicity (this was late 90s into early 00s), so he wasn't interested in me or being friends. We only met once or twice. He never contacted me again after he couldn't find any diapers in my apartment.

Actually, I forgot there was one more DL/daddy I met. He w asnt near as bad as the other two but by this point I was so uncomfortable with meeting DL guys that I was incredibly shy and barely spoke, so I probably ruined the experience for him.

I wish I could say my past experiences were more positive, but I'm older now and back again still hoping to meet some real friends one day.
 
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SparkyDog said:
Met just once
was an absolute disaster to put it nicely and G rated
and ill never do it again for the rest of my life.
What's G rated mean ?
Sounds unpleasant experience.
Were they creepy 😳 😬 👀 😐?
 
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