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diaperedteenager

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Well i have been thinking about this for sometime now, but i just can't make up my mind. I was thinking of telling my best friend about my diaper fetish. First off, she is a girl and we have been friends for about 14 years now. We tell eachother everything and well i feel dirty keeping this from her. What do you guys think i should do? I am starting to think that it would be a bad idea, but i'm not sure. Can you guys list some Pro's aand Con's about this decision of mabey telling her?
 

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Well does she seem like an understanding person? What would you gain from telling her? I told a friend of mine that's a girl...She is fine with it...And she drived me to the store to get some even...But that doesn't mean it will happen for you
 

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As long as she is open minded... I don't see a problem confiding in someone you've known for that long... though others may tell you not to.
 

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I think i'll gain more trust in her and she will do like wise.
Why would confessing that you have a diaper fetish gain you trust? I can see it would be beneficial if you were in a long-term relationship with her but as friends? Do you expect all your friends to tell you about there intimate fetishes? Unless it's harming you in some way & you desperately need someone close to confine in to feel acceptance I don't see the point, but this is just my opinion!
 

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Well when I told my one friend, we have become better friends since then
 

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My advice:
Think about this for a month. A whole month.

If after a month of thought you are very sure that it's a good idea, then maybe go for it? I mean telling someone out of the great urge that some people get (including myself...) is always a bad idea, because it tends to be a short lived irrational thing!
But if after a month you want to tell her, and you can give yourself some good rational reasons for telling her, then it might be worth doing.
The settings are good: she's a girl (which helps) and you have a long term friendship.
I think you should test the water first, find out how she reacts to certain ideas... mention fetishes to her etc...

Good luck if you do it, whatever if you don't!
 

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My advice is similar the Charlie's in that it's a way of making sure you're not being irrational.

Justify to yourself exactly why you want to tell her. If you can explain your reasoning for telling her in a coherent and logical way, there's probably a rational thought behind it. If not, you just have an irrational desire to get your secret out.

But you should probably Combine this with Charlie's idea and wait for a month as well. That way, you can be really sure.

And make sure you know how she feels about fetishes and things just generally different from what's "normal". If she seems to have quite conservative views, you might not what to tell her.
 

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so what you're all saying is that i should do some recon on this first. This has pondered me for about 2 mabey 3 weeks now. I have mentioned fetishes once or twice to her, she said that everyone has their own thing and shouldn't be judge on who they are by that, that definatly gave me some re-assurence on the subject. I asked her if she had any and she responded with i, like most humman beings have atleast one and just smiled at me. This confused me ALOT, IDK if that smile means she knows about mine or what.
 

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A way you could decide on whether or not to tell her is to see how she reacts to diaper being mentioned in casual conversation. If her reaction is positive, than you might want to think about telling her. If not, don't.
 
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Well idk If that will work. Talking about a diaper for a regular person is a lot different than talking about it for an ab/dl. She is most likely not one so someone saying the word diaper around her would be the same as another word that she makes no mental association with. It would be just as helpful to see how she reacts to the word trash can in normal conversation.
I feel like mentioned before, you should give it a month and if your sure you want to tell her then do some research and find the nicest and most informational way to tell her. This isn't something you just want to just wing it could cost you a valued friendship. Relax think about it and if it needs to be done do it the correct way.
 

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If I was you I'd want to go further into the what her fetish is that she states that she has. I mean if its so desperate that it has to come out about yours then how come hers hasn't come out yet? I had a best friend for about 10 years and found when I started trying to talk to her about sexual topics she started getting uncomfortable and moving away from me so I'd tread very carefully. See if she wants to open up about what hers are and then reveal yours. If it doesn't bother her to talk about this kind of thing then she shouldn't feel uncomfortable sharing EVERYTHING with you either.
 

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Well i have been thinking about this for sometime now, but i just can't make up my mind. I was thinking of telling my best friend about my diaper fetish. First off, she is a girl and we have been friends for about 14 years now. We tell eachother everything and well i feel dirty keeping this from her. What do you guys think i should do? I am starting to think that it would be a bad idea, but i'm not sure. Can you guys list some Pro's aand Con's about this decision of mabey telling her?
From my personal experience, I don't think she will have a problem with it.To me it seems like girls seem to be more accepting and understanding then males. I told a friend of mine thats a girl and she told me not to worry about it and don't feel out of place. The majorette of people have "wired" kinks or fetishes.
 

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From my personal experience, I don't think she will have a problem with it.To me it seems like girls seem to be more accepting and understanding then males. I told a friend of mine thats a girl and she told me not to worry about it and don't feel out of place. The majorette of people have "wired" kinks or fetishes.
Not true at all. Girls are just as accepting as guys. Actually, if a girl didn't accept it I think it'd be a whole lot worse than a guy not accepting it.

Guy Scenario.
You: I like diapers.
Guy: Dude, your sick, get away from me.

Girl scenario.
You: I like diapers.
Girl: *spreads vicious rumors about you*

End of story.
 

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if you've been her friend for so long, how could she just walk away over something like this? I think it would be fine to tell her, as long as you ask her not to tell anyone else.
 

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Not true at all. Girls are just as accepting as guys. Actually, if a girl didn't accept it I think it'd be a whole lot worse than a guy not accepting it.

Guy Scenario.
You: I like diapers.
Guy: Dude, your sick, get away from me.

Girl scenario.
You: I like diapers.
Girl: *spreads vicious rumors about you*

End of story.
You do indeed have a point. I know most girls like to spread rumors, but that is not the case with all girl, and there are some men that like to spread rumors.

If you do tell a girl, make sure they are mature, and not childish. Of course I know the female I told is mature for she is 29 years old.
 

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You do indeed have a point. I know most girls like to spread rumors, but that is not the case with all girl, and there are some men that like to spread rumors.

If you do tell a girl, make sure they are mature, and not childish. Of course I know the female I told is mature for she is 29 years old.

Well being being older doesn't automatically make them mature...
 

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I can't add much, the advice is already pretty good as usual...

First off, you shouldn't feel dirty for not telling her about this. Everyone has secrets that they don't want others to know about, and I'm sure she is no different.

Second, based on what you said that she said, it sounds to me like she herself might have a fetish. I doubt she suspects what your fetish is, but I bet you that she suspects something due to you questioning her about fetishes.. Girls are smart like that.. I'd say to sleep on it for a while, and determine whether or not it is beneficial to tell her. How does she feel about babies? That may be something to find out somehow..

But I must say that this could blow up on you. You need to figure out whether this is really worth it. As her friend, it may be better to just let this one remain a secret. But if you must tell her, make sure she's cool with babies, and stranger fetishes, but tread lightly. Don't just blurt it out, in other words..

This is the type of thing that can make, or break a relationship. I'd hate to see you lose a good friend over this..
 
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