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so I finally worked up the courage to talk to my therapist about it, I started by saying I had something that I've been wanting to talk about but i was kind of embarrassed about it. She asked what it was so i asked her if shes ever heard of a adult baby, she looked kind of confused so i told her i like to regress to a younger age to about 2 or 3 and she asked what i meant by regress? I told her i like to do things a 2 or 3 year old would do and that i have stuffed animals, blanket, a pacifier and that i have a room set aside for this with toys like blocks, coloring books and all.
I told her i like to do it because it comforts me and lets me escape the stress of things temporarily and that i enjoy doing it. I made sure i told her i don't want to get rid of it i just thought it was something that might be of importance in some way. i didn't get into the diapers part yet because i thought i already brought up a lot of stuff for her to take in at once.

I apologized for bringing up so much at once but she assured me that it was ok she was really nice about it, she asked about my childhood when i was around 2 or 3 and i told her i was left alone at the babysitters most of the time and i spent the night a lot, i was the only kid there. I spent a lot of days/nights crying because i was confused and didn't know the reason why i was always there.
She thinks this is what might of caused it and iv always thought the same thing.

She said she wants to do some research into it so she can better understand it, she said she wants to try to find a way to work it into therapy.
I told her about the understanding infantilism web site, she also wants me to try to remember what thoughts are going through my head when im regressing so i can tell her.

I feel so much better now that i got the hard part over with. :)
 

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Congrats!! That will be way good for you. I'm glad you were able to work up the courage to do it. It is kinda funny because there are still a lot of therapists who don't know what it is. I have heard of it getting mentioned in psychology classes, but it really only gets mentioned. It is good that your therapist wants to do some research on it, if a therapist says that they get the gist of it and tries to start treating you on what they assume, then they are an idiot, I had one of them, and he was a total tool. Well I suspect that your therapy sessions will be way more productive than they already may have been.
 

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Good thing she appears to be so open minded about it. :smile:


What do you think about her incorporating it into the therapy (has you play with some toys, and regress, or something)? Do you think you'd be okay with it?
 
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I would bet incorporating it into therapy would include some simple things in the therapy such as bringing a stuffed animal or two, and maybe some type of art expression or something, only some slight regression. I would think that the real regression time for therapy would be discussed through updates, such as:
"have you been giving yourself enough time to regress lately?"
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"what kind of things did you do to regress and how did they make you feel, what did you think during then?"
 

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Congrats, Wyatt. I talked to my therapist a few times about being an AB, and actually found it really helpful. I was lucky to find a therapist who knew about ABDL, and whilst like you, I don't want to be 'cured' of my tendencies (if that's even possible, which I rather doubt), I thought it would be interesting to see how ABDL might be intertwined with my OCD.

I think every therapist deals with incorporation differently (especially as the mental health concerns people have differ) but in the sessions I had, we focused on my AB routine, and discovered some interesting links between the 'intrusive thoughts' I get as part of my OCD, and the way in which I try to escape adult headspace and switch that area of my mind off.

I think it can be extremely helpful to discuss ABDL with a therapist. I'm always extremely wary about the threads here asking 'How do I tell my Mom/Dad/Boyfriend/Guy who delivers my Amazon Parcels that I'm ABDL', because family aren't always the most understanding about these issues, but I think talking to therapists about it is a great idea.

The worst outcome is that a therapist would be confused about AB tendencies, there might be a few minutes of awkward chat, and then you'll move onto another topic. That's worth it for the fact you might well find someone who is medically and intellectually informed and impartial enough to give you an added insight, and maybe even some peace of mind, in relation to your AB tendencies.
 
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Good for you dude!! Not easy was it? It'll make you a better stronger person. If nothing else at least hopefully you'll be at peace with yourself.
 

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I had to tell my therapist when I was in college, because that was one of the reasons my mom sent me, against my will. He said I'd outgrow it and of course, he was wrong, but this was a long time ago.

I re-posted one of my past stories, "Coffee Shop" and it's about a young man who has to tell all to his psychiatrist. You might find it interesting. My bad experience had some influence on the story though not much.
 

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Congrats!! That will be way good for you. I'm glad you were able to work up the courage to do it. It is kinda funny because there are still a lot of therapists who don't know what it is. I have heard of it getting mentioned in psychology classes, but it really only gets mentioned. It is good that your therapist wants to do some research on it, if a therapist says that they get the gist of it and tries to start treating you on what they assume, then they are an idiot, I had one of them, and he was a total tool. Well I suspect that your therapy sessions will be way more productive than they already may have been.


Thank you. She didn't seem to know what I was talking about until I explained it a little more. I am glad she wanted to do some research about it, it made me feel like she really cared.

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Good thing she appears to be so open minded about it. :smile:


What do you think about her incorporating it into the therapy (has you play with some toys, and regress, or something)? Do you think you'd be okay with it?

I think incorporating it into therapy would help me a lot, kind of like using it as a tool so I could open up a little more. Like Tyger mentioned slight regression would be ok with me by bringing one of my stuffed animals or by drawing so I would be more comfortable. For me its a lot easier for me to open up and be able to talk about painful or bad memory's when I am in "little" mind set because I feel safe.

Its nice that whenever we talk about something bad that's happened during childhood she trys to view it how I saw it when I was that age. I think she deals with children a lot because her office is full of children's toys, its extremely hard not to try and play with some lol.

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Are you trying to get cured? Why do you need therapy for it?

No not at all, I told her I didn't want to try and get rid of it because I enjoy it and it helps me a lot when I get depressed. She said that she sees nothing wrong with it because its not hurting anyone, hopefully she can help me be more accepting of myself because my wife would sometimes make me feel like I was a bad person because of my little side and it crushed what little self confidence I had.
 

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I have a friend who's seeing a therapist due to gender issues (all of my close friends know that I'm a little and they're all cool with it), and she's told me her therapist actually recommended to her that age regression is a great way to relieve stress.
 

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Hello,

I have been seeing a therapist since I was 10 years old. Came with being in a special education school. Well, mine anyway. Anyway, I didn't tell any of my therapists about it until I was about 20. I was so afraid if I told my child therapist I was a TB they would tell my mom. I had already had a bad reaction from both my parents finding just diapers. My dad gave me "I am not raising another F***ing baby" before throwing the diaper in the trash. Though I am not sure how me wearing a diaper made him think he had to raise another baby. And then my mom threatened "if I EVER find another diaper I am going to throw them all on the from lawn and tell everyone they are yours". I lived in a apartment building at the time, so was lots of people to "tell". So I decided to keep it secret from her, as best I could anyway.

So, when I was 20 and came out to my parents keeping it secret was over. So I saw no issue with sharing it with therapists from then on. I got mostly the result of "I don't see a issue with it as long as it's not hurting you or anyone else, and isn't keeping you from having a normal adult relationships". Basically, from me holding a job and making adult friendships. Since it wasn't, the therapists never had a issue with it. But a few did. One actually REALLY freaked over it and had me admitted to the psych ward saying I was in psychosis.

I had to explain to this psychiatrist why I did what I did. And that I wasn't living 24/7 was a toddler, just a hour or so in the evenings after work to relax. A few days later. One of the issues in the hospital was my diapers though. The doc wanted to keep me from getting any saying it wasn't age appropriate. Till I explained I didn't just wear diapers as part of the role playing, but for a valid and checked out bladder control issue. So I got to keep them. In the end, the therapist had just gotten out of collage and was in a "if in doubt, admit and ask questions later" kind of mindset. Safe to say we didn't work out.

But yea, most therapists are fine with it as long as it isn't harming you and isn't keeping you from having a adult life and caring for your physical needs such as cleaning and feeding yourself, keeping a roof over your head and such things. And yea, most therapists will have questions and good ones will tell you they will do some research.

To date, only one therapist knew what AB was without having to explain it. I know some will ask why even bother bringing it up. But in my case it intertwins in a lot of issues of my past that it's easier to just come out about it so I don't have to dance around the subject. So being out about it makes it easier to just share the detail and move on. Anyway, that's my two cents on the subject.

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I thought it would be interesting to see how ABDL might be intertwined with my OCD.

What'd you find? I have OCD, too, and diapers do wonders for my anxiety. I've just finished getting off antidepressants; when the withdrawal symptoms were at their worst I got diapered, and within a couple days the symptoms were more-or-less gone. Since then I haven't stopped wearing and found that I'm a lot less anxious than normal. I think it's the first time I've ever used to diapers not just to reduce anxiety, but to preempt it.
 

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Well her looking Into it didn't help much, she asked about whether I wore diapers and whether being a ab was sexual for me or not. I told her I wore diapers and that it wasn't sexual then she just dropped the subject and moved on, it took alot for me to bring that up and I explained how it was a important part of me. I guess I was hopeing she could help me with self acceptance of it because I feel horrible about myself, my wife's been telling me that she's always hated that part of me , that I'm a freak, and I'll never find anyone who accepts me. Shes making me feel like I don't deserve to even be alive.
 

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Well her looking Into it didn't help much, she asked about whether I wore diapers and whether being a ab was sexual for me or not. I told her I wore diapers and that it wasn't sexual then she just dropped the subject and moved on, it took alot for me to bring that up and I explained how it was a important part of me. I guess I was hopeing she could help me with self acceptance of it because I feel horrible about myself, my wife's been telling me that she's always hated that part of me , that I'm a freak, and I'll never find anyone who accepts me. Shes making me feel like I don't deserve to even be alive.

Aww man, I'm sorry. Maybe the therapist will come back to it later, but that is kinda weird that they didn't want to get any more info about it. It is strange to think that a therapist would bend from pressure of any uncomfortable discussion, its basically their job to talk about uncomfortable stuff. Who knows though, maybe this latest session she just wasn't ready to talk more about it and still wanted to do more research.
Your wife is totally wrong. Your not a freak. We all are fairly unique in our liking, but lots of average people have spent some amount of time contemplating how nice it would be to be a child again. We are just a little more extremists when it comes to contemplating that thought, that's all. The fact that people can find other people who are accepting of their differences at all is evidence that you could find people who accept you.
 
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Well her looking Into it didn't help much, she asked about whether I wore diapers and whether being a ab was sexual for me or not. I told her I wore diapers and that it wasn't sexual then she just dropped the subject and moved on, it took alot for me to bring that up and I explained how it was a important part of me. I guess I was hopeing she could help me with self acceptance of it because I feel horrible about myself, my wife's been telling me that she's always hated that part of me , that I'm a freak, and I'll never find anyone who accepts me. Shes making me feel like I don't deserve to even be alive.

From the therapist's perspective, that probably means she didn't see the ABDL stuff as much of an issue. Did you tell your therapist the stuff you posted here about your wife attacking you over it and how it makes you feel so awful? Because that's really important and probably does need working through, and if you don't bring it up, your therapist won't know that it's such an important issue.

Also, your wife's wrong. There are a lot of people in the world who will accept you, some of them right here.
 
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