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Taking it 'too far?'

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Rheeer

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I think we all know (or are discovering) that the nature of fetishes is progressive. This means that with time, we get desensitized to certain acts that used to give us that tingly feeling, so we have to do something a little more extreme, then a bit more, and so on.

I don't know if I'm the only one that worries about taking things too far, but I definitely have this fear that one day I'll be having to parade around in a dress and a diaper struggling to hold in five suppositories in downtown Chicago to get that tingly feeling. I know I'm something of a sex addict, so that's a real fear for me. I don't want my fetish to get old, but I don't want to have to do such extreme things to keep it new.

I wonder if that's what causes the 'binge and purge' thing for some people? Maybe fear of desensitization leads to a self-imposed temporary deprivation that makes the act of merely putting on a diaper exciting?

So, two questions in one: do you fear going too far at all? If so, what acts can you envision that would be crossing the line for you?
 

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Well I enjoy many many fetishes, An i do agree with you, after a while 1 will get broing so i move onto the next, This AB/DL was a fetishes, kind of at first, well no. I have always wanted to wear daipers and such for more than jsut a fetishes, but I did hit a streak where it was my fetishes, I have moved pasted that, But still wear for enjoyment, and to relax while sleeping.

But no i dont think it will take it to far, I am aware that 1 day i might. I hope only when that happens I know right away an able to correct it.
 

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I find that this too is a very real fear for me. Not necessarily with AB related topics (what with me not being one) but with so-called 'kinky' sex.

I find it very hard to get off without some 'rough and tumble', or doing things that most certainly wouldn't consider part of their sex repertoire.

I think that sometimes, a self imposed deprivation can be a help, but for others it will only make the desire so strong that they jump straight in at the deep end again, if you get what I'm saying?
 

Rheeer

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That is very true...after self-imposed droughts, I come back with a scary vengeance. lol

I'd never really given it much thought before now. Good point.
 

Prussic_aux

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I don't really think that you'll go that far if you really don't want to. The nature of Binge/Purge cycles is that once you've got bored of the fetish is that you will pretty much ignore it for the purge part of the cycle. Then, after a period of time, you will suddenly want to get back into the fetish again. At that point, then putting on a diaper will be a thrill again.

But if you are seriously worried about taking it too far, then I suggest that you talk to someone about it.
 

Rheeer

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I don't really think that you'll go that far if you really don't want to. The nature of Binge/Purge cycles is that once you've got bored of the fetish is that you will pretty much ignore it for the purge part of the cycle. Then, after a period of time, you will suddenly want to get back into the fetish again. At that point, then putting on a diaper will be a thrill again.

But if you are seriously worried about taking it too far, then I suggest that you talk to someone about it.
Mmm...that's the thing. I don't really purge. I don't deny myself anything. I have no guilt issues about what I currently do, but some things about my personality make me worry about the future.

I don't honestly foresee it being a problem; maybe I'm just going through a dry spell at the moment, and feeling the need to try something new and more weird. lol
 

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There are some folk who feel that wearing 24/7 is "going too far"... but it just feels right to me.

It's like... I belong in diapers.
 
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I don't connect with this at all.

Just putting in for my side.
 
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There are some folk who feel that wearing 24/7 is "going too far"... but it just feels right to me.

It's like... I belong in diapers.
<- YUS... That's how it goes! Well it's not necessarily a "fetish" for me. Well, to be honest, when I was first starting out back in... 6th grade, maybe it was a little bit of sexual pleasure for me :/ just a little bit. But it never exploded into full-blown diaper-fetishism. I more or less started wearing cause it makes me feel good in a way other than sexually... It's almost indescribable.

And I'll be forward with you guys, I wore at the rave at a-kon (dallas texassss yo) and was perfectly fine n.n (had some people there who knew it too so they got a good laugh when i was sexy-dancing with this other guy XD)... But wetness is as far as it goes for me in public situations. I've been to conventions with groups of cubs layin around >.> it was truly gross.
 

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I don't really think that you'll go that far if you really don't want to. The nature of Binge/Purge cycles is that once you've got bored of the fetish is that you will pretty much ignore it for the purge part of the cycle. Then, after a period of time, you will suddenly want to get back into the fetish again. At that point, then putting on a diaper will be a thrill again.

But if you are seriously worried about taking it too far, then I suggest that you talk to someone about it.
Boredom generally isn't a big part of the binge/purge cycle. You're just talking about peaks of activity.

Purging is almost always guilt driven. A person for whom boredom was the motivation, if they knew it was a cycle, wouldn't actually purge. They'd just stop for awhile.

I'm not sure I'm worried about it going to far... I've definitely gotten more into the whole AB thing as time has gone on... Or rather I've accumulated more items.

Not to say I'm not already too far for some people as it is. :) I don't have a crib or anything, but I wouldn't say no to one. I've got plenty of clothes... pacis... bottles... plushies... blankies... Since I wouldn't say no to having a room in my house decorated as a nursery/kids room, I'd say I'm already there. I just don't happen to own those things.

So, no, I don't fear it. As far as some point that I wouldn't cross... I can't say. I haven't really seen this as a linear progression. It's more that there are a group of things I like, and I've gradually been filling them in over time as I'm able. I'm filling a defined (pretty much static) space as opposed to moving across a gradient between two extremes, so the idea of there being some point I'm afraid to cross doesn't really fit in with how I approach ABness.

The only thing similar to this "line you don't want to cross" is... this all being easily hidden. If it's just diapers, you can stash them somewhere out of sight. With what I have, that'd be a lot of work, and impossible at a moment's notice. That was admittedly a line I was quite wary of crossing, since all of a sudden you're in a position of not letting people come over at random times without having to "come out" to them (which I don't see myself doing). I did however cross it years ago, so it's kind of a moot point now.
 

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I have worn my AB clothes under my regular clothes a couple times. I have used my pacifier in a car and bottle too. I have gotten so dependant on diapers, I would feel depressed if I didn't wear one. Luckily I got over that. I have a diaper rash now so I am able to not wear one without feeling depressed. I am letting my bottom air out and waiting till the rash is gone.
 

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Boredom generally isn't a big part of the binge/purge cycle. You're just talking about peaks of activity.

Purging is almost always guilt driven. A person for whom boredom was the motivation, if they knew it was a cycle, wouldn't actually purge. They'd just stop for awhile.
That's a good point; I've never understood the whole "purge" thing. I've never felt guilty about what I do.

Though...when my wife left me in version 1.0 of our relationship (we're back together), I threw everything away because it reminded me of her. And for a little while I felt ashamed of the stuff I did because I didn't have a partner in crime. But I quickly got over that.

And now here she is again, diapered and happy. *grin*

So I've purged once, and it was mainly to avoid those unhappy associations.
 

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I know the feeling it seems I have to do different things to get the same thrill I used to. I don't think I will ever take things too far as I would like to think I have enough self control but I find mysely buying diapers just for the thrill then returning them so I can but them again LOL
 

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My taking it too far would be telling someone about my habits. I feel that fetishes is an individuals business and no one should know. I would most likely break that belief and tell someone so I could have a "partner" to share habits with. I have considered it before.

Solution- Take a break from it awhile, let you urge grow to do something alone then do it.
 

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Like darkfinn mentioned earlier, i feel an emotional connection to my diapers, but i always keep it confined to my home or on the very rare occasion that i meet with another *B/DL. The farthest i've taken it is only within the confines of my apartment but i think my roommates suspect something. I'm not too worried about it because im leaving back for home in NJ in 2 months so.

My bounders end between work and school for now, but i have been tempted to wear to both on a regular basis. I wouldn't worry about taking it too far unless you really are tempted to do what you mentioned earlier. If so, take a break from it for a while.
 

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you only going to far if the fantasy part of the fetish becomes a reality and the things in your reality become to much to handle because of your fantasy. (F that makes any sense)

Also, if you WANT To become incontinent on purpose

and you expose children to this
 

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you only going to far if the fantasy part of the fetish becomes a reality and the things in your reality become to much to handle because of your fantasy. (F that makes any sense)

Also, if you WANT To become incontinent on purpose

and you expose children to this
Well yeah, I've never wanted to do anything illegal, per se, and have very firm beliefs on purposeful incontinence and children (Uh, no?). So that's never going to be a worry.

It's just strange to look at how far the fetish has come since the beginning, finding yourself doing something you wouldn't've considered doing when you first started. That's not always unpleasant; it can feel empowering to notice you've gained confidence in your *b/dl self.

But given that I'm into humiliation, sometimes...well, you're done playing, and you're cleaning up after yourself going "What the hell?" lol

I'm taking a break right now, though my girl and I have something planned for Friday. So we'll see how it works out. Should be fun.
 

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I have to disagree on this one
Also, if you WANT To become incontinent on purpose
because it may be too far for some people, but not for others. It may be an emotional need to do so, and in adapting that lifestyle, may possibly (not purposely for sexual pleasure) lead to
and you expose children to this
That, of course, doesn't apply if you go around in a onesie or baby clothes or whatever.
Quick story, I was at a store picking up some stuff (not diapers or anything like that) and a dad with his kid behind me who must have been an astute observer commented to the dad loudly 'he's wearing a diaper'. I wasn't exposing any part of it, but at eye-level the kid must have noticed my butt. It was very embarassing, yes, but these things do happen. I didn't say anything and went on with my life. If it happened to someone else who needed diapers and hated them instead, this would have been devistating.
 
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I think the idea that people go further and further to extremes doesn't hold for everyone. I know other middle aged people who find a happy medium and stick with it. Many people are perfectly happy with the missionary position or their usual beer, all their life. And there are people who "back off" - who go from serial partners down to one, or who drop the dope and stick to alcohol, who slow down with age.

Sometimes our urges are kept in check by counter-urges. I like many kinds of fetishism; some things became appealing in my late 20's, others pre-puberty. But I have not got "harder" in terms of rl BDSM, I am leery about inflicting pain for instance; I have not progressed to snuff films or torture. In fantasy the limits are further but there are still limits. I mean people who are into a threesome do not necessarily start thinking about foursomes or seventeensomes; they just get more creative within the threesome framework.
 

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I have kinda given up a lot of the AB thing in the past few years, but lately, I've started to go back to it, with some small things like wearing diapers again for the first time in three years.

The reason I gave up a lot of it is was cause I got hurt bad when I was a baby. I'd get attached to some mommies, then they'd disappear or tell me they found a baby they want. I couldn't deal with all that. So I kinda shut up my baby side. But I have let it come back here and there.

It's a little hard for me to trust online mommies because some of them are two-faced and not always honest with me.

I gather I'm one of those at a crossroads who wants to be a part of it, but not take it too far.

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