so I've been noticing im slowly starting to wet more and more does this mean I'm loosing control over my bladder
Do you feel like you can't control it? If so, that's something to talk with a doctor about.
I've been wearing diapers for about 40-50 hours a week for the last couple of years, basically during my workday. (I work from home while the family's out, so it's been embarrassingly easy.) I don't feel as though I've lost any control, but I've gotten used to wetting as soon as I feel the slightest fullness, so I definitely wet a lot more frequently. That's fine when I'm in diapers but annoying when I'm not. Where I'd previously hold my pee without even thinking about it, now it's quite distracting when I can't just let it out in a diaper.
Recently I've had a few ... "moments"... when I almost said "screw it" and peed my pants anyway. That feels like a slippery slope though. The better answer is probably to practice wetting less frequently when I'm in diapers so that I re-accustom myself to holding my pee when I'm in undies. That's not ideal, but it seems clear I can't have things both ways.