Someone should make a form.....

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Is there a form that test to see exactly why you like diapers... cause im not quite sure... oh by the way im knoche i just switch over to centende :)
 

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a test would be the best thing for *B's and dl's alike since disposables replaced cloth in the mainstream
 
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Why people like diapers is such a vast array of possibilities that it'd be impossible to quantify it in the form of a test.

From what I've seen, liking diapers stems from one's own experiences in life. I doubt any two people would share all the same reasons for liking diapers. They may have similar reasons, but they wouldn't be exactly the same.
 
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There is no cookie cutter explanation, it all deals with your experiences, for me, it was/is probably constant verbal abuse at school for the past 8 or so years.
 

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I think a forum containing your speculations on why you think you became a *B/DL could prove to be highly constructive, as, like both Fallen and Lukie said, everyone has had different experiences. So, while a test would be quite difficult, perhaps a large "think-tank" might be useful.
 
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Like everyone said there is no definitive test to see what the cause is. Although we have several threads discussing this in the mature thread, you can check those out. EDIT: Earlier I said you had to be 16 to view the mature forums, apparently I am wrong because people under 16 have been viewing it from what I have heard. I just assumed it was this way because that is the way the adul ab/dl forum used to be on the old site (TBDL). I apologize if I mislead anyone.
 
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From what I've seen, liking diapers stems from one's own experiences in life.
that notion is misleading. there is a good chance, since our interests are so parallel with diapers, that there is a single constant that none of us have as of yet realized. in terms of actually testing it, it's entirely speculation.

everyone has different experiences, but there has to be something specific that leads to an interest in diapers.
 
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everyone has different experiences, but there has to be something specific that leads to an interest in diapers.
I agree, we just do not know what yet. We know that sexual abuse causes homosexuality with most sexual abused people, so there has got to be something specific about us.
 

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that notion is misleading. there is a good chance, since our interests are so parallel with diapers, that there is a single constant that none of us have as of yet realized. in terms of actually testing it, it's entirely speculation.

everyone has different experiences, but there has to be something specific that leads to an interest in diapers.

No two people, not even identical twins, have exactly the same experiences in life. So I doubt there is 'one thing' that leads to an interest in things *BDL.

Besides, my 'interest' wasn't something that was with me from early childhood/teen years. In fact, until I was introduced to infantilism in 2001, I would never have even considered the idea (especially considering my children were well out of diapers by that time...I'd pretty much had my fill of diapers and diaper changes....enough to last a lifetime...or so I'd thought!)!

I came from a large family (4 brothers and 2 sisters)...I'm not the oldest, the youngest, or even really a 'middle child' (it's difficult to explain really). My mother was a 'stay at home mom' and my father worked 9-5 Mon - Fri.

I guess I had a very stereotypically upper-middle-class upbringing (aside from the numerous siblings). I went to school, was in the band, took piano lessons, sang in the school choir, went to all the school and band functions (dances, etc), had a number of good friends all through school (okay, being good friends with the maid's daughter and dating another friend's family's social worker may not be quite stereotypical, but I don't think they led to my interest in infantilism).

I went to university, joined the military, got married, had kids. The usual stuff.

I doubt anyone here has a life 'exactly' like mine, in fact, I doubt that 'everyone here' has 'one specific thing' in common with me, especially when one considers the vast age differences on this site (some as young as 12-13 others over 50...I'm somewhere in there myself :D)

I agree, we just do not know what yet. We know that sexual abuse causes homosexuality with most sexual abused people, so there has got to be something specific about us.
Please please pleeeeeeeeeeeease tell me you were just joking!
 
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that notion is misleading. there is a good chance, since our interests are so parallel with diapers, that there is a single constant that none of us have as of yet realized. in terms of actually testing it, it's entirely speculation.

everyone has different experiences, but there has to be something specific that leads to an interest in diapers.
Oh, like how there is a gay gene?

Sure I won't denounce the possibility that there could be something that connects us all. But if you look at the community as a whole (not this community, I'm talking about every single ABDL out there), you'll see that we extend into all regions. This fetish doesn't discriminate between the rich and the poor, the intelligent and the stupid, the socially inept to the outgoing, community stature or lack thereof, etc... Just personally, it's hard to imagine that there is one thing that we all share in common that has led us here.

I agree, we just do not know what yet. We know that sexual abuse causes homosexuality with most sexual abused people, so there has got to be something specific about us.
Fact is, not everyone here has been sexually abused, verbally abused or physically abused. And the poll results in this thread reflect that.

Like I said, there is no "one thing" that connects us all, beyond the fact that we - through our own personal experiences - have been wired up to like diapers. We all had the same destination, however, we all got there via different routes.
 

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ok.. since thats pretty much all we could bring up about that.... (but thanks so much for the insight!!)

another idea... do you ppls know what runescape is? if you dont its just this really big massive multipalyer role playing game... well if we could translate that into the ab/tb/dl world wouldent that be....awsome!
 
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Please please pleeeeeeeeeeeease tell me you were just joking!
No I am not, ask any psychologist, specially sexual psychologist majority of them would agree with them. They have not run any tests or anything that I know of but they base it off records of past patients. That majority of the homosexuals, a very high number of them were abused in the past in some way, and close to just as much were sexually abused.
I used to listen to this radio show, still do but not hardly as much, called Loveline. The hosts were Adam Carolla and Doctor Drew Pinsky(sp?). This doctor is a Board Certified Physician, plus an Addiction Medical Specialis Degree(dealing with all addictions not just drugs). So anyways I got that knowledge from things he said and past expeirances of being to several different psychologist, like 6 or 7 of them within about 3 years time when I was younger for some depression.
Anyways so point is actual statistics in real life show this to be true MOST of the time not ALL the time for homosexuals.
So I was saying if thats true maybe theres something, maybe abuse maybe not, or something else, that is like this with being an infantilist.

Fact is, not everyone here has been sexually abused, verbally abused or physically abused. And the poll results in this thread reflect that.

Like I said, there is no "one thing" that connects us all, beyond the fact that we - through our own personal experiences - have been wired up to like diapers. We all had the same destination, however, we all got there via different routes.
Of course I agree mostly, there is defiantly not one thing that causes this exactly, it is diffenet a series as events. So obviously there is a cause of infantilism, because there is cause and effect with everything in life. That does not mean it was "one" thing. So overall, I am saying that there is causes that can be defined and classified into some kind of pattern that could cause a person to be vulernable to the idea of wearing diapers.
Plus that poll does not really mean much of anything its such a small number. Now if we had all 500 active members vote on that, then we would be on the road to making a conclusion with that poll.
 

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Honestly, I think it infantillism comes from an event that happened in our life, but at an age so young we can't remember. I always knew that I was attracted to diapers in a way that was different than everyone else ever since preschool. By my thinking, something had to happen when I was a baby, a series of events that could draw parallel to Pavlov's dogs, but with diapers instead of food.
 

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Honestly, I think it infantillism comes from an event that happened in our life, but at an age so young we can't remember. I always knew that I was attracted to diapers in a way that was different than everyone else ever since preschool. By my thinking, something had to happen when I was a baby, a series of events that could draw parallel to Pavlov's dogs, but with diapers instead of food.
You might have something there...Pavlov's dogs would salivate whenever they heard the bell because initially when they heard the bell they were fed...likewise, as humans when we were initially changed from a wet/messy diaper into a nice, soft, warm, and clean diaper we also received cuddles and snuggles from the one doing the changing (be it a nurse in hospital, a mother, a father, an older sibling, or other caregiver). So in our infantile minds, perhaps, a nice clean diaper equalled snuggles & cuddles (warmth, caring, comfort, love) or as I like to call it "that warm fuzzy feeling inside".

That seems to be somewhat how a lot of ABs and DLs feel toward their diapers, and it certainly would explain much.

However, there are others, like myself, who never had any interest in diapers after we were out of them (and I don't remember wearing diapers having been potty-trained by age 2). I only became interested in infantilism through a friend's introduction to the fetish/lifestyle. Initially, the idea was for me to become his 'mommy' but things changed somewhat when he encouraged (ok, so he dared me!) to try wearing a diaper. :-D Perhaps the feelings were always there, but I certainly never felt them.

So although the Pavlov's Dogs analogy would work with a great number of ABs and DLs it doesn't explain it for those who have not had the interest "all their lives".

It does propose an interesting theory tho'.
 

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YAY! I'm not the only one!!!

See, people! We were not all 'born this way'!!
Which leads me to thinking, is everyone TB/DL is some way? In my conversations with friends some had admitted pure curiosity with trying diapers and seeing what it likes. Its certainly not the weirdest thing to try on the planet.

Maybe some people have a really short Pavlov phase.
 
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Which leads me to thinking, is everyone TB/DL is some way? In my conversations with friends some had admitted pure curiosity with trying diapers and seeing what it likes. Its certainly not the weirdest thing to try on the planet.

Maybe some people have a really short Pavlov phase.
Good to know some people were paying attention in psychology class :)

Anyway, I also believe this to be true. I feel as though everyone has a certain trigger to do things, and and we taped into this trigger for diapers. Not to say that everyone is like "Oh look a baby, wonder what thats like?" but more to say that if a certain situation came came up, it could possibly spark a, lets not say curiosity since it is used too often, lets use 'confusion.' And with that, I believe that some ignore this 'confusion' and some embrace it, like this site. Let it be noted though that this is only my opinion and I have not done any research, just my solemn belief.

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Plus that poll does not really mean much of anything its such a small number. Now if we had all 500 active members vote on that, then we would be on the road to making a conclusion with that poll.
Ahh, but there are 30 people who have voted the "Never" option. Regardless of being a small number or not, it is greater than zero. My comment about how abuse isn't the sole cause for infantilism stands.
 
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