I am talking with a little atm and we're discussing pet names, she doesn't know what she'd use for me.
BenNevis said:This is something I’ve navigated with my caregivers and it’s something which took a bit of time to work out. For starters, I didn’t launch straight into calling him “Daddy” as that’s a title which is quite powerful. It reinforces who’s big and who’s little, but the little needs to be able to trust their big and that’s something which needs to be earned. Conversely, the big needs to feel comfortable being called by a title like that, since it reflects the expectations and feelings of the little.
Sometimes it was worked through with a conversation as a big and a little. Sometimes it was through role playing that it got to a point when my big suggested I call him “Daddy.” Once I tried it, it just felt right for both of us and we rolled with it.
LadyOfTintagel said:I like "Daddy" personally, possibly because that wasn't really a term I used with my real dad growing up, lol? Other words like "Papa" or something are cool too.
That being said, any future caregiver I have doesn't *necessarily* need to be romantic, and for whatever reason the terms in my head changes when that happens. I become a bit more formal, a little bit more respectful. Like referring to them as "Sir" or "Ma'am" or "Miss". Although I could enjoy using those in any situation come to think of it. Like a chided schoolgirl.
claire123 said:I call my care giver mummy, it just feels right to us both