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Are there any people here (without children) who often feel uncomfortable around kids because you are ABDL?

I find that kids of all ages adore me and babies tend to look at me more than anyone else in the room, even WHILE getting attention from other people. I know it's probably just me and those who are my friends and family with kids who knows about my "baby" side, think nothing of it, as I really shouldn't ether. I'm not a "pedo" (God I wish people who do that would just die off) and I have NO kind of attraction to minors whatsoever, but I still feel like being around kids (in adult mode of course) is some kind of taboo.

Being a big baby myself, I would have thought it would make me feel at ease around kids, but I find it to be, not so much.

Anyone else go through this?
 

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Edit: I'm removing this post for overshare. I never know when to stop talking. :eek:
 
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i do not feel unconformable around kids. i even baby sit some here and there and the only hard part is making sure they don't get to crazy and expose my diaper well they are pouncing on me. to me diapers are just another form or under where and there is nothing wrong with that. i know that kids well not be involved in any fantasy i have so that issue of feeling like a pedo never comes up. as for babies. well that is creepy, they no mater what babies all of them just look at me and look and look, it is like they know i am one of them.
 

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I totally understand what you mean. I helped to raise my baby brother and have babysitted during my "pre" adult baby days and thought nothing of it and always did it from a playful and youthful point of view. Today, I baby sit for my nephew and it isn't a big deal because my sister-in-law doesn't know my baby side, whereas I was just at a birthday party and my friend's five year old daughter wanted me to give her a piggy back ride. Innocent enough right? Plus this friend FULLY knows of my baby side and was 100% OK with it and yet I hesitated for several minutes before coming close to hurting the little girl's feelings :(
 

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As I sometimes dress as a big kid, I know I draw the attention of real kids when they are near. My job brings me into contact with families all the time. I don't feel awkward, I smile and wave at them. Most of the time a kid just wants to be acknowledged so I humor them. I always smile after that too, I'm inspired by them, and I wish I could once again see the world through those eyes.
 

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Are there any people here (without children) who often feel uncomfortable around kids because you are ABDL?

I find that kids of all ages adore me and babies tend to look at me more than anyone else in the room, even WHILE getting attention from other people. I know it's probably just me and those who are my friends and family with kids who knows about my "baby" side, think nothing of it, as I really shouldn't ether. I'm not a "pedo" (God I wish people who do that would just die off) and I have NO kind of attraction to minors whatsoever, but I still feel like being around kids (in adult mode of course) is some kind of taboo.

Being a big baby myself, I would have thought it would make me feel at ease around kids, but I find it to be, not so much.

Anyone else go through this?

The same myself. As a street artist I receive lot of atention of kids, but not only when I'm working.

And there's something more - about 90% of dogs come to me say "Hello..."

Can't find any reason, may be feromons ? Not sure...
 

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I have this exact same problem too. I don't get it, kids and animals alike just really like me, and i don't know how to react because i'm always trying to conceal my little side the best that i can in most public or family interactions.
 

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Great question. I also have always felt that children in general can look into my soul and see that I am also little. Not speaking about diapers in that case more just the sense that I am not a normal boring adult. I babysat all through my life and was also the oldest amongst two siblings so I watched them a bunch. I am not uncomfortable around children I do believe that I would have been an excellent dad.

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By the way I also feel that animals like me more because they can see I have a gentle soul.
 
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The same myself. As a street artist I receive lot of atention of kids, but not only when I'm working.

And there's something more - about 90% of dogs come to me say "Hello..."

Can't find any reason, may be feromons ? Not sure...

I find that dogs (animals in general), kids, and even developmentally challenged people... will pick up on one's energy. Being 'off' of center from illness, injury, being preoccupied with difficult stress, to potentially nefarious intentions...etc, etc...

...can all be reflected-back, or otherwise responded to by pretty much any sensing creature that cannot, or does not heavily rely on verbal exchange.

It's not reliable to determine whether a 'good' person or a 'bad' person...but, it seems pretty reliable in determining a significant imbalance of energy, emotions, intentions, etc... which can be indicative of harmful tendencies of an individual...

I do use my own dog, to help determine where people's 'scales' may be at...

Are there any people here (without children) who often feel uncomfortable around kids because you are ABDL?

I find that kids of all ages adore me and babies tend to look at me more than anyone else in the room, even WHILE getting attention from other people. I know it's probably just me and those who are my friends and family with kids who knows about my "baby" side, think nothing of it, as I really shouldn't ether. I'm not a "pedo" (God I wish people who do that would just die off) and I have NO kind of attraction to minors whatsoever, but I still feel like being around kids (in adult mode of course) is some kind of taboo.

Being a big baby myself, I would have thought it would make me feel at ease around kids, but I find it to be, not so much.

Anyone else go through this?

Being of the Littles, AB, and other interests and intentions of seeking to express and realize a simpler, and perhaps innocent place in mind and body...there are likely a number of non-verbal cues, and expressions...that the non-verbal, or simple verbal types may find comfort (or lack of threat) and familiarity in...

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being able to attain this state for ourselves, and communicate on that level too... Where I could imagine it getting a bit awkward though, would be for those that have a sexual component in their expression...however simple, and however innocent...and minimal...

Where so many people seem to equate sex, with love...and love seemingly an inevitable path to sex...I think is what complicates this issue... Technically speaking...all life forms are sexual beings...

Clearly, one must not act-out any inappropriate expressions...and perhaps refrain from total immersion in the otherwise harmless expression, and relation... everything in moderation...

Assuming the generally accepted argument, that ignorance begets fear...I'd say...educate your self on what you don't understand of this...that may simply amount to a bit more 'soul' searching on your part...

I think that there is a healthy advantage to be had for the children, and I would assume for our 'special' adult types here too; when the exchange is done with care and consideration, and moderation...

To quote a line from the movie "Billy Elliot"...

Billy: It's just, I feel like a right sissy.

Mrs. Wilkinson: Well don't act like one....

So...if you feel like a 'right pedophile'...don't act like one...

If you really believe that you are in fact one...get some help, so you don't turn into a 'ticking-time-bomb'...

Short of the Psychopath or related seemingly intractable dangerous sort...much of what I have read to try to 'suss' out the roots to pedophilia et-all...seems to correlate with something analogous to a pressure-cooker without a properly working safety-relief valve...

Some people it would seem...are wired improperly, including missing critical connections...others it would seem...more or less need a simple software update...

Sort it out, and get some resolve...

Best wishes,
-Marka
 
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As a 18 - 19yr old i would go to the local pool just to screw around and well just enjoy the water. When doing this my inner child some times runs free (AB Side) and I have learned that it some times attracts kids. I am really open to it and have no real issue with it as long as the parents were ok with it. let me explain further that these kids were ages probably 7 - 12. So having these kids come around and we were able to just play in the water and have fun. So in the end it was ok. It was really weird is it really touch toward my ab side none of the dl side it self. the thing is was i wasn't dressed as a baby. I look back now and think i was really weird and most people would be against that and probably think bad things of it but there was no intention to be had at all at that point.

When I was there I was just relaxed enjoying it. Now I do not think I would do it again. At the time I just saw us as playing not being a AB. (i can be immature at time ha ha)

Hopefully this makes you understand you are not alone in this


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Pedophiles usually do not attract kids they push them away. That is unless they purposely are trying to get you ha ha. Well that is the way i look at it any ways i am probably completely wrong haha
 

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Marka, I don't see it as a problem, something to think or something which harms me. It's how it is.
 
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Marka, I don't see it as a problem, something to think or something which harms me. It's how it is.
Sorry, CrazySmoker...I was quoting you about the animal (dog) correlation...and kept going with my thoughts on the broader subject...I didn't intend to point my entire post at you! :hug: -Marka

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I've since changed the quote tags on my previous post... -Marka
 

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Nothing hapens, sometimes I thought about "why," but clearly I thing now the kids and the dogs always know better who's bad person or not. Better than adult people lot of times. But always they aply their criteriums, for example as I don't like dogs of pocket size, so these are barking to me or (sometimes) try to atack. I have to say something more related - mostly people who own some of these pocket dogs is kind of people which I prefere out of my personal circuits (exeptions exist.) Years ago I owned one dog too, one German Pastor... Killed by my oponent in love. Later that asshole had his car in fire. My dog hated this person, me too, but he hasn't any right to kill my dog with his car. He only wanted my GF, but he wasn't enough man to fight with me, so he killed my dog. So what can I think about nazi skinheads ???

Something similar I can say as a father - my daughter always cryed or tryed to escape because ugly people.
 
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Yeah, I seem to have the same problem. I seem to be a child magnet, and do ok with kids, even though I don't always feel comfortable around them. I had a few come up to me at GLFC and ask to get their picture when I was in my Fursuit. I'm also a cat magnet. My cat zelda absolutely adores me and it takes less than 60 seconds for her to find my lap no matter where I sit down in my house. Even when I go to other peoples houses who have a cat, they usually warm up to me in no time flat.
 

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Yes, i definetley feel strange around kids, and especilly diaperd ones.
And it has been more and more after that i been AB more than usaual.

I love kids, now question about it, but it feel strange, if i can i go away or use the sandbox thats empty of any kids :)
 

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Sometimes I still get this way but it was much worse before...
Never did I want to be around kids because when I was a child I never even liked being one. I always wanted to be older, especially after I turned four.
I could tell I was supposed to be a teacher but kept running from it because I was too afraid. Then I said okay well just middle or elementary school... Yet my first teaching job after college (not before) was for a special Ed preschool... Kids ages 3-9 but functioning about a few months old to 4 years... Lot of potty training and diaper changing... I was so wary at first but my ABDL side was a big disadvantage because I was never grossed out by bodily fluids and my feelings and inner age have me insight to good cuddles, fun games, and such... Kept thinking somebody better would be for the job than me, I taught high school the following year and while I like it I have gone back to doing preschool ever since.
Even with all this being said sometimes I still turn down babysitting for the same reasons as always... What if I regress? Or feel odd?
Sometimes it's why I'm afraid to have kids... My husband struggles with some of my ABDL aspects but when I see him with little kids now... The little side of me gets jealous
Most of this is just in our head though. We must realize it... Neither can these kids or other adults hear our thoughts and most would never even dream such a lifestyle exists and I try to keep this in mind :)
In shirt I'm not afraid to be around kids anymore but sometimes my subconscious voice gets the better of me
 

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This last Christmas, we had a family get together. My great niece and nephew were part of the gathering. It being Arizona and the weather being nice, a few of us were outside in the yard. My great niece, who is five, runs up to me and says, 'tag, your it' and then starts running. I paused for what seemed like a lifetime, trying to decide if it was right for me to respond. I finally did, chasing after her and tagging her back. We played like this for most of the remainder of the afternoon, both outside and in the house. Of course, it was all innocent fun and both of us had a good time. All above board and with the rest of the family watching.

My littleness is a way of coping with stress. Since my little side is not a fetish and it is not sexual in any way, I don't think there is any issue with playing with the great nieces and nephews. I remained an adult when I was playing and I feel it was appropriate.
 

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This last Christmas, we had a family get together. My great niece and nephew were part of the gathering. It being Arizona and the weather being nice, a few of us were outside in the yard. My great niece, who is five, runs up to me and says, 'tag, your it' and then starts running. I paused for what seemed like a lifetime, trying to decide if it was right for me to respond. I finally did, chasing after her and tagging her back. We played like this for most of the remainder of the afternoon, both outside and in the house. Of course, it was all innocent fun and both of us had a good time. All above board and with the rest of the family watching.

My littleness is a way of coping with stress. Since my little side is not a fetish and it is not sexual in any way, I don't think there is any issue with playing with the great nieces and nephews. I remained an adult when I was playing and I feel it was appropriate.

you know what after reading a few stories here. I think we are to self conscious. Now hear me out. "Normal" Adults play with there kids and have no issues. Now they may not take it to the extent us little's will but they will still play with there children. Now with that said I think we over think this stuff. If our younger siblings or cousins or any other child in your family comes up to and wants to play i personally see nothing wrong with it as long as you keep a adult aspect. You can also do this in public but need to make sure the kid is the one driving the fun not you (and make sure the parents are alright with it (suggested that this is a friend not some random parent (i think we grow out of the stage where we can play with other kids in public at a certian again this is my thought))).

As adult babies we try to hide this side of us and any one around us that knows you try to ensure not to look like you are showing this side around kids because you do not want this to come off as you being a "pedophile". I say as long as you are doing it to have fun with the kid and not for self pleasure i see nothing wrong with this. I do how ever see it wrong if you take that experiance and the turn it into one of your fantasy of with you well you know


THIS IS ALL MY PERSONAL THOUGHTS DO WITH IT WHAT YOU WANT

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I MEAN TO OFFEND NO ONE WITH THIS I AM SORRY IF I DID
 

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I've been thinking about this a LOT lately. I'm playing "Baby-Daddy" to a couple lesbian friends- basically they have the legal rights and responsibilities/liabilities- are the legal "parents". But the plan is for me to be very much involved, and be the male father-figure in this kid's life. I stress about what they might think if they found out about my AB/DL side. The moms are very green-no doubt this will be a cloth-diapered baby-- so how do I explain my advanced mastery of the art of diaper-pinning, especially since I've never changed a baby's diaper!?!

I think people like us over-think it because we are very defensive about people mistaking AB/DL for Pedo-related nastiness. People like us want to return to feeling like we did when we were infants, either emotionally (ABs), or sensually (DLs). We aren't interested in doing anything wrong with an infant in diapers- we just want to feel like an infant ourselves. So, we over-think our innocent interactions with children, afraid of what others might think.

If you have sexual feelings around kids, you need to stay the hell away from kids, period.

If kids enjoy interacting with you (maybe because you can identify with where they're coming from), you shouldn't fear that. Keep your kinks to yourself, as you should. In other words, act like any adult should around children. Just don't be afraid to contribute positively to some kid's childhood experiences because you happen to have some kinks that relate to childhood.

In regards to the whole animal connection, I too am a bit of a dog/cat magnet/whisperer. Maybe there is something here- why do we (AB/DLs) end to connect better with animals and kids rather than with other adults?
 

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I feel exactly the same, when there are kids around and they are not family, I just feel awkward and the thing I want to do the most then is get the hell out of there. Kids should be able to play out and have a wonderful time growing up, but that doesn't seem to be possible any more, so they need to be supervised by an adult and if the adult is not related to the kid, they have no business around them, myself included.
 
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