Self Parenting

[Eclectic]

Even for those who have a caregiver, mommy or daddy, self parenting can be important. For those who don't have a partner or a partner that is engaged, it's even more important. For us littles, babies or toddlers, this can mean a lot of things.

1. Eating and drinking healthy.
2. Getting enough exercise.
3. Cleaning yourself up.
4. Changing your diaper before you leak or get rashes.
5. Being kind to yourself.
6. Being kind to others.
7. Giving yourself time to be in little space.

These are just some of them, but I am sure you can think of others.

 

[blaincorrous]

I’m going to repeat a mantra I’m workshopping that’s important for us in the ABDL space.

Feed your needs, not your shame.

It’s a useful thought about the time we spend in diapers or littlespace or doing anything that nourishes our very special souls. It’s a thing that a good caregiver can do for a little with some concerted effort. But for those of us who have to treat ourselves nicely and build ourselves up, it’s wasteful to give your special nourishment over to be gobbled up thanklessly by the shame monster. That love and acceptance has to come from within, and you do that by joyfully and shamelessly using your time to fulfill your needs.

And if you are lucky enough to get that nourishment externally, treat it with the same care and don’t waste your caregiver’s/partner’s/playmate’s gift by letting the shame monster rip it to shreds. Get your maximum joy, hold it in your heart, hug it, and roll around with it like a silly baby.

 

[BenNevis]

Really good thread!

Feed your needs, not your shame.

@blaincorrous, this is such an important point. I know certainly earlier on in my ABDL journey, I would be feeding my shame and it was terrible. But with time, I've learned that as you say, that acceptance comes from within and it's ultimately part of ourselves, just like any other part of our personality. As part of being you, there are needs it brings and learning to respond to them and give yourself what you need, when you need it, is really important.

I think it's a mark of maturity that you're able to know yourself and 'self-parent' to advocate and give yourself what you need- even if that means being snuggled with a teddy wearing a cute oneise and thick nappy.