Me! I got into it this time because of my partner.
To clarify more, I had semi-regular bedwetting throughout childhood, and infrequent bedwetting even into my early 20s. I also have had intermittent times with frequent urges and made the decision to wear a pad or protection of some sort as a result. So my story is not that of someone who never wore a diaper or protection from potty-training to adulthood until suddenly their partner asked them to or wanted to try it out. However, those were always utilitarian, not "for fun", didn't really "get anything out of it" aside from not having a full bladder or wet pants. (I've written more about this on my profile recently, for anyone who's interested.)
So the most recent time I intended to do that, a few years back, I gave my husband a heads-up. Well, to be more truthful, I agonized over it for a few days and was really stressed out about telling him, because I did not expect his approval. At one point he'd told me about having a bit of a diaper kink, but I'd forgotten, and that had been that. I'd known he was embarrassed about it anyway and didn't seem to want it brought back. I told him my intent, he told me that if I was going to do that there'd be basically no way that his kink wasn't going to come back raging...
That said, I've generally been the kinkier one in our marriage and he's not really wanted to try a lot. I'm open minded and don't really have very many limits as long as it stays in private and isn't a lifestyle thing. He asked me if I'd be willing to let him have a caregiver role if I chose to wear. I won't say I wasn't incredibly nervous, but I thought about it a bit and agreed. We bought drugstore diapers; I let him also buy some of his choice online, and we tested them out. At first, yeah, it felt pretty awkward. I really only ever intended them for wearing "just in case" so I could leak a little as needed, pee for convenience if necessary, but didn't plan to just have full wettings by choice. And especially not stay wet for longer periods of time and end up soaking wet and squishy. Well, my husband had other ideas. Goes without saying he won out, but we did have some trial and error, some communicating about likes and dislikes, setting boundaries (pretty much all of which eventually got relaxed but I would not advise going into it with that expectation) and so on.
Once the initial awkwardness ended, I came to discover I really enjoyed some elements of the CGL dynamic. Not full time, not as a lifestyle, not with any actual ageplaying or age regression involved. More just for me to get really relaxed, not think about deep or stressful things, have him make decisions for me like snacks and when to go to bed, watch movies or play games together where it's perfectly normal for me to just be curled up under a cozy blanket. He might do things like rub my back or feet, brush my hair, etc. He checks and changes my diapers (or if I'm not wearing that evening might help me go pee, pull my pants down, help me wipe up, get me dressed again). Might also carry me around, pick me up and take me to bed when it's time, etc. Over time, I became more confident in a lot of this and have initiated more things myself.
Even so, I don't identify as an "ABDL" myself. I'm kinky, definitely into CGL, some bondage play, sub/dom, "boss" and "brat" type stuff, etc. I'm a sucker for attention, touch, etc. so a lot of this just fits naturally. Also, I've always been very open about pee and not really in a sexual way at all, just a very matter-of-fact "everyone does it" sort of way. Though sometimes have tried to do long holds because I enjoy the feeling, and have occasionally introduced desperation play too. My husband would consider himself to be a "DL" but would rather I wear than he wear. I would also personally prefer he not wear either, so it's a good fit for us. (I mean, if he really wanted to, we'd find a way, but it would not be a turn-on for me while it definitely is for him when I wear.)
I think the one thing that has bothered me some is that while he did tell me before we got engaged that he was interested, it was kind of in passing (I know he was embarrassed and not sure how I'd take it) and then he just tried to suppress that side of himself for years, not saying a word about it, trying to make thoughts and desires go away if they came up, and sometimes went through phases of just acting really repressed in general. I wish we'd talked about it more, and he'd been more open with me earlier, so that we didn't have to wait several years to be able to explore things like this together.
