The only one that knows is my wife, and even at that I keep it mostly hidden from her. I told her out of respect because we share everything, but I said it was my thing and I dont expect her to understand, but if she happens upon a diaper in the house somewhere to not get worried.
Your soul mate is the only person you should tell.
I did get busted a few times in my life from parents, and in the military.... but I would never volunteer the information to anyone. Dont ask, Dont tell. Its not illegal and its none of anybodies business.
People who aren't AB or DL absolutely will not understand and I dont expect them to. Nothing good will come out of telling a person who is not AB/DL, so people please dont kid yourself into thinking it will be fun to tell people. Once told you can NEVER take it back. I see younger people on here fantasizing about telling there friends. Don't do it. Again, once told you can never take it back. They will never look at you the same again.