Second diapered day

[charliee]

Hi everyone! Longtime Ab/dl here, now slowly turning into a full time wearer out of need.
Today is actually my second diapered day. I guess the frequency I was going to the toilet had simply become too much. I actually make it to the toilet, but going every hour or hour and a half was getting way too inconvenient.
At the moment I'm also getting everything checked in order to rule out any major issue, but according to my GP and my urologist our best guess is OAB. OAB dry for the moment, even if I probably wouldn't mind if it turned to wet OAB. I always feel uncomfortable when I get a notice from my bladder, because it always looks like it's urgent and then is always a small amount. Exams also ruled out cystitis.
Not really sure how I'm feeling about this all. It feels really weird that diapers are my best option at only 32, but hopefully I'll quickly adjust to my new reality.
I don't know whether to expect my control to diminish because of diaper wearing...
Thanks in advance for your support. 😘

 

[parcelboy2]

@charliee The same reasons I went 24/7 a year ago , but it did have a few very close calls and one accident
I’ve not looked back
Also I drive a truck in my job so doubly hard when you want to go all the time

 

[charliee]

@charliee The same reasons I went 24/7 a year ago , but it did have a few very close calls and one accident
I’ve not looked back
Also I drive a truck in my job so doubly hard when you want to go all the time

I can totally relate to that. It's getting super frustrating to go to the toilet so often and always realize it was only a small peepee, while your bladder made you believe it was 2 liters..

 

[Constantlydamp]

Charliee, this was me four years ago with OAB caused by an enlarged prostate and diabetes. I progressed from a guard to a pad to a pull up and finally two years ago to a pubic pressure urinal and an overnight nappy. It is strange wearing at first but the alternative of wet clothes and public accidents does not bear thinking about. I am not a Diaper Lover but use them as a tool to keep me dry and independent and able to live my life normally.

 

[tiron101]

I did the same thing. At a point wetting became the preferable option to trying to stay dry. It got to the point where I couldn't time it properly anymore, and the pandemic was the last straw with bathrooms closed and all of that. Initially it was just when I went out. But then I realized how much more relaxed I was and how big of an improvement it made to my life, so I started wearing them most of the time. It probably helped that I wet the bed already, so when my daytime problems got worse, I was already acclimated to protection at night.

 

[charliee]

I did the same thing. At a point wetting became the preferable option to trying to stay dry. It got to the point where I couldn't time it properly anymore, and the pandemic was the last straw with bathrooms closed and all of that. Initially it was just when I went out. But then I realized how much more relaxed I was and how big of an improvement it made to my life, so I started wearing them most of the time. It probably helped that I wet the bed already, so when my daytime problems got worse, I was already acclimated to protection at night.

Yes, I guess the point is exactly how much more relaxed I am when I don't have to think about worrying about a toilet. It has happened that I released some drops of pee after a small fart, and I once had a half accident just before opening my home door. So yes, I prefer to have protection and when my bladder acts up I can just go in my diaper.

 

[hbic60]

Not really sure how I'm feeling about this all. It feels really weird that diapers are my best option at only 32, but hopefully I'll quickly adjust to my new reality.
I don't know whether to expect my control to diminish because of diaper wearing...
Thanks in advance for your support. 😘

Maybe it's the right time to add "Incontinent" to your profile ! I've never been AB or DL, but I can imagine that it's not easy to switch from "I wear diapers (sometimes) because I like them" to "I wear diapers because I need them in order to keep my pants dry" - a complete different perspective. Good thing is that it is nothing totally new for you to wear protection, bad is that it's not for pleasure but for a need, especially in your young age. Keep your head up, the first important step was seeing a doctor and getting everything checked and, hopefully, getting no bad diagnosis. Even in case your IC can't be fixed, don't feel too bad about that - be ensured that life is still very valid even if you have to wear diapers, you are still able to live you normal and social life nearly in the same way as before without big limitations.
All the other, more practical issues (I think protection for IC is a completely different challenge than ABDL purpose ...) can be discussed or found already here in this Incontinence section. I wish you all the best that it's nothing permanent! Of course also feel free to come up with anything concerning fear, embarrassment, doubts, shame or whatever else might be in your mind - be sure that in this forum there will always be more than one who also have gone through such issues and questions and will support you!

 

[charliee]

Maybe it's the right time to add "Incontinent" to your profile ! I've never been AB or DL, but I can imagine that it's not easy to switch from "I wear diapers (sometimes) because I like them" to "I wear diapers because I need them in order to keep my pants dry" - a complete different perspective. Good thing is that it is nothing totally new for you to wear protection, bad is that it's not for pleasure but for a need, especially in your young age. Keep your head up, the first important step was seeing a doctor and getting everything checked and, hopefully, getting no bad diagnosis. Even in case your IC can't be fixed, don't feel too bad about that - be ensured that life is still very valid even if you have to wear diapers, you are still able to live you normal and social life nearly in the same way as before without big limitations.
All the other, more practical issues (I think protection for IC is a completely different challenge than ABDL purpose ...) can be discussed or found already here in this Incontinence section. I wish you all the best that it's nothing permanent! Of course also feel free to come up with anything concerning fear, embarrassment, doubts, shame or whatever else might be in your mind - be sure that in this forum there will always be more than one who also have gone through such issues and questions and will support you!

Hi, thank you for your super kind message. I took a few days to think about what's going on with my body and for the moment diapers keep looking like my best options.
Also thank you for showing me your support, that's great! ☺️ I know that life will have many other wonderful things for me, regardless of ic, and I'm also super lucky to already have some very good friends.

Last night I fell asleep on the couch, after a long struggle with Morpheus and a good movie. I had taken off my diaper before bed wanting to air out some, and when I fell asleep i didn't have it on. When I woke up in the middle of the night, completely forgetful of not wearing a diapee (and probably still half asleep) I let out a good spurt of pee.. went immediately to clean up and put on a fresh diapee. It felt definitely super awkward especially because i was at my parents house...

 

[PNW509Little]

Right there with you on the frequency. Ironically I found my DL side about 3 years ago and the IC issues started about a year ago, so I went the route backwards and was already prepared but not any less frustrating, so I get it. Like others on here, I am split from wearing just because it helps with my anxiety/adhd and makes me feel more comfortable and then at other times, I wear to prevent wet pants/wet sheets.

I will agree that there is nothing more frustrating than you bladder going into sudden urgency mode and then when you do, it leaves you going "is that it?". I don't think I have solid advice in your situation other than to say that if they have ruled out all the major concerns, don't worry about you wearing increasing frequency, instead look at it as a blessing that you are already comfortable being DL so its less of a road for you than someone that has to adapt to it all at once.

I say that if you are comfortable in diapers, until the MD's say it's something else of concern, its just your life telling you to explore more types of new/fun diapers and that it's time to stock up!

 

[DinoFran]

Hi everyone! Longtime Ab/dl here, now slowly turning into a full time wearer out of need.
Today is actually my second diapered day. I guess the frequency I was going to the toilet had simply become too much. I actually make it to the toilet, but going every hour or hour and a half was getting way too inconvenient.
At the moment I'm also getting everything checked in order to rule out any major issue, but according to my GP and my urologist our best guess is OAB. OAB dry for the moment, even if I probably wouldn't mind if it turned to wet OAB. I always feel uncomfortable when I get a notice from my bladder, because it always looks like it's urgent and then is always a small amount. Exams also ruled out cystitis.
Not really sure how I'm feeling about this all. It feels really weird that diapers are my best option at only 32, but hopefully I'll quickly adjust to my new reality.
I don't know whether to expect my control to diminish because of diaper wearing...
Thanks in advance for your support. 😘

Hello! I guess it´s always distressing when our bodies start doing stuff on their own without being us in control of what they do; I remember I felt just like you when I started wetting my bed a few years ago, also in my early thirties, but in the end I came to embrace it and even like it as part of who I am.

It´s good that you´re seeing a specialist for this as it´s not something to overlook; hopefully everything´s ok and it´s just a temporary readjustment of your body, but in the meantime you should keep yourself protected with diapers as they also seem to help you with overall stress. Diapers are a wonderful help for cases like yours.

Oh, and don´t worry about your remaining control; it won´t leave you overnight. The important thing for you right now is that you keep your peace of mind and not stress over false urges while the doctors figure out what´s going on. Sooooooo feel free to use your diapers as much as you want and need!

 

[Neroforte]

Well same here had choice of bursting hell and fighting to go to toilet or wearing 247 and became DL the right way that tool but no point of not feeling confident and comfortable on it

 

[Constantlydamp]

Hi, thank you for your super kind message. I took a few days to think about what's going on with my body and for the moment diapers keep looking like my best options.
Also thank you for showing me your support, that's great! ☺️ I know that life will have many other wonderful things for me, regardless of ic, and I'm also super lucky to already have some very good friends.

Last night I fell asleep on the couch, after a long struggle with Morpheus and a good movie. I had taken off my diaper before bed wanting to air out some, and when I fell asleep i didn't have it on. When I woke up in the middle of the night, completely forgetful of not wearing a diapee (and probably still half asleep) I let out a good spurt of pee.. went immediately to clean up and put on a fresh diapee. It felt definitely super awkward especially because i was at my parents house...

Charliee, I know most people here will favour diapers but you may want to consider a condom catheter and leg bag or a body worn urinal. Super discrete and can be really useful when you are wetting with no opportunity to change as the bag will accommodate a good two pees and can be emptied into a toilet. If the condom catheter is unsuitable then a pubic pressure urinal (I wear this style) is ideal for guys who may be smaller than average and it can be worn during the day without the need of disposing of used diapers. Wishing you all the best in what can be a really stressful time in your life.

 

[mechanicX]

I doute it'll get further diminished , just use the nappies as a protection. I guess 🤷

Unless you would prefer to be more diminished?

 

[michaelmc]

Im incontinent but i turn my negative into a positive like when your in a long que or on a long trip or in the middle of doing something you can't leave you just let it flow and enjoy