Relationships can be tough whether you’re abdl or not & communication is certainly key. I’ve been married over 15 years & hid my DL side from my wife for the first 5 years of our marriage. It has not been easy for me because her feelings on diapers is wildly inconsistent. She goes from full on participation including wearing & wetting, to outright resentment & I never know which person I’m going to get when my desire to wear comes on.
I only like plastic backed diapers & from experiencing the industry wide change from plastic backed to cloth backed baby diapers, it made me fear that adult diapers would all eventually switch over. That has caused me to be a bit of a diaper hoarder & my collection has become very large. This at times has become a point of contention in my marriage. Right now things are definitely down in our relationship & I’ve avoided wearing despite wanting to. It’s gotten to the point where we no longer share a bed & I find myself wishing that I could be with someone who shared & understood what I go through.
Sometimes I just wish that I could be “normal” whatever the hell that means, but it’s important that you be open & honest with your partner about how you feel.
If I could go back & do one thing differently, I would have never waited 5 years to tell her. I wish I had told her before we were married & allowed her to decide if she wanted to continue the relationship or not. I’d like to think that she would have chosen to stay in the relationship but realistically, she probably would have run for the hills. Either way, it would have been her choice & at least I would have known for sure if she loved me for me. I understand that she’s free to go at any time but we have kids & sometime I can’t help but wonder if she just stays for them.