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I dunno if this should be here in Off topic or in Mature. If it needs to be moved im sorry.
Ok here is my question/problem/confusion.
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Me and my ex unofficially dated from 2005 - December 2006
We told our friends and expressed ourselves more, making our relationship official near the end of December in 2006.
In March of 2007 She broke up with me and used the "I love you like a brother line" (Locate heart, inject pain, cry)
After that I couldnt stand to be extreamly close to her anymore as it would cause me to start crying. I started spending lunch in woodshop.
She said we could still be friends and could hang out. But when ever i was free she wasnt. After we both graduated from HS in June of 2007 we lost contact.
Then randomly back in like sept of 2008 she randomly contacts me outa the blue and asks me to hang out with her. Since then we have spent time at her house, gone to movies, watched movies at her house, spent valentines day and my birthday with eachother and just had fun.
Now backtracking a bit. Everytime I would leave her house we would hug. well after a while i decided to take a chance and i also kissed her on the cheek. she kissed be back. and every once in a while now when we hug good bye she will give me a kiss on the cheek and i will then give her one back.
Now to the present. I was at her house about a week ago and we played some RE 5 and then we watched National Treasure 2 on DVD.
Normally we watch on her couch/bed thing and Im laying at one end and shes laying on the other with our feet meeting in the middle.
Well this time she put a pillow in my lap and rested her head in my lap as we watched the movie. A while through I got dareing enough to start stroking her hair and rubbing her back like i used to do when we were together and she didnt tell me to stop or move away. We continued to do this for maybe 30-40 min after the movie ended.
So now im very confused and my heart dosent know what to think.
My heart wants to believe that this is the start of us getting back together and its bounceing off the walls.
My mind on the other hand is trying to get through to my heart that it shouldnt read too much into it or it might get hurt just like last time. That this is just my ex being nice.
And im too afrade to ask her outright because im afrade if im wrong that i will lose all that we have gained back.
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So im looking for advice from girls mostly. But I will accept advice from guys too.
But girls what is your take on this? Is something maybe starting for form a foundation again or could she just be being nice?
Any help or advice or suggestions is appreated and I thank everyone in advance for at least listing and offering suggestions. I really could use others opinions on the matter, maybe someone else has had a situation like this.
Ok here is my question/problem/confusion.
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Me and my ex unofficially dated from 2005 - December 2006
We told our friends and expressed ourselves more, making our relationship official near the end of December in 2006.
In March of 2007 She broke up with me and used the "I love you like a brother line" (Locate heart, inject pain, cry)
After that I couldnt stand to be extreamly close to her anymore as it would cause me to start crying. I started spending lunch in woodshop.
She said we could still be friends and could hang out. But when ever i was free she wasnt. After we both graduated from HS in June of 2007 we lost contact.
Then randomly back in like sept of 2008 she randomly contacts me outa the blue and asks me to hang out with her. Since then we have spent time at her house, gone to movies, watched movies at her house, spent valentines day and my birthday with eachother and just had fun.
Now backtracking a bit. Everytime I would leave her house we would hug. well after a while i decided to take a chance and i also kissed her on the cheek. she kissed be back. and every once in a while now when we hug good bye she will give me a kiss on the cheek and i will then give her one back.
Now to the present. I was at her house about a week ago and we played some RE 5 and then we watched National Treasure 2 on DVD.
Normally we watch on her couch/bed thing and Im laying at one end and shes laying on the other with our feet meeting in the middle.
Well this time she put a pillow in my lap and rested her head in my lap as we watched the movie. A while through I got dareing enough to start stroking her hair and rubbing her back like i used to do when we were together and she didnt tell me to stop or move away. We continued to do this for maybe 30-40 min after the movie ended.
So now im very confused and my heart dosent know what to think.
My heart wants to believe that this is the start of us getting back together and its bounceing off the walls.
My mind on the other hand is trying to get through to my heart that it shouldnt read too much into it or it might get hurt just like last time. That this is just my ex being nice.
And im too afrade to ask her outright because im afrade if im wrong that i will lose all that we have gained back.
============
So im looking for advice from girls mostly. But I will accept advice from guys too.
But girls what is your take on this? Is something maybe starting for form a foundation again or could she just be being nice?
Any help or advice or suggestions is appreated and I thank everyone in advance for at least listing and offering suggestions. I really could use others opinions on the matter, maybe someone else has had a situation like this.