I remember potty training at about age 4, and being able to go myself at that time. At the time I liked being able to go so that I could just play all the time and not have to worry about diaper changes.
As a parent of two potty-trained kids, I'll say that while I believe it's important for a child to want to potty-train, I also believe that it's completely possible to make them want to, and without it seeming forced. You have to set aside your privacy for a little while and let them see you use the potty. Children are compulsive copycats, and what they see you doing, they'll want to do. I think part of the reason kids seem to be training later these days is that everybody has gotten overly-private with this stuff, even with their own kids. If a child has never (or very seldom) seen an older sibling or a parent using the potty, they're going to be apprehensive about it.
You've just brought back memories of my younger siblings' potty training, my parents made my brother (who is 3 years my junior) watch me go every time I went for about 3-4 months (maybe more but I don't now) as he was being potty trained. I basically would tell him to come to the bathroom with me anytime I had to go and he'd come to the bathroom (but I got to close the door) and just watch, he was trained fairly quickly as I remember it.
My own personal potty training happened around 3 years old, but I wet the bed well past 10, I only really stopped wetting it regularly in 7th grade and haven't had a real accident (unintentional bed-wetting) since 9th grade.
You've just brought back memories of my younger siblings' potty training, my parents made my brother (who is 3 years my junior) watch me go every time I went for about 3-4 months (maybe more but I don't now) as he was being potty trained.
Considering your age, I'm curious to know what it was like being IC growing up back then, if you don't mind sharing. I assume there were no disposables...
You're right that I wore cloth diapers as a child. There was nothing special about them, just ordinary pin-on cloth diapers. As a small child, I wore rubber pants that I remember came in a cardboard tube. I can still remember what they smelled like when they were new and fresh out of the tube - kind of like baby powder, but not exactly. However, before my bedwetting stopped, plastic pants came out, and I started wearing them.
I became incontinent as the result of a medical mishap when I was 14. I wore cloth diapers and plastic pants for that until disposables came out and became reliable enough to count on keeping my pants dry on the outside, about 25 years ago.
Well, if I had a little boy (which I hope to God I never do, since that would require me to become *gasp* pregnant), he wouldn't even know the word "potty," let alone how to use one, until well past age 3, and possibly 4 or 5 if homeschooled. I am of the mind that, because males and females should be as different as the east is from the west, girls should begin potty-training around 18 months, since I myself started at 15 months, and be introduced to potty stories but never "forced" or "spanked." Boys, on the other hand, should have at least three birthdays, and possibly more, in tab diapers and never go through the "potty chair stage" at all! It's like, what's the point of training a little bitty boy that early when you know he's too young to enter the men's room without his dad and will just take-up another of our precious ladies' room toilets by going with his mom? I'm in favor of boys wearing diapers unless and until they're old enough to enter and use the men's room by themselves (yes, even if that means 6 or 7 years old).
I wish they would phase-out boys' potty chairs with reflectors, in addition to Size 2-3 PullUps and cloth briefs, because they shouldn't even be thinking about the potty, let alone using it, when they're too small for Size 4 and the real toilet! I don't care how intelligent a boy is or how much he hates wet/messy diapers, he should wear them for at least 3 years to keep him from training sooner than "girls" like me. I was 33 months when I got out of diapers, the delay mostly due to bowel training issues, so I like the thought of keeping all XY boys with P-words, no matter how "ready" they may be, in diapers for at least 3 years. But like I said, I hope I never have to face that decision because the thought of getting pregnant is more frightening to me than that of being abducted by aliens!!! In fact, I think I'd rather die, because I'm like Patrick Henry, and pregnancy would be anything but "liberty" for me, lol!:laugh:
Then there's always the option of homeschooling, as do many Christian families, or delaying enrollment until the child is potty-trained, thus beginning their school years with whatever grade they're chronologically supposed to be in (grade=age-5, according to how old they were on August 31st). I, for one, didn't enter kindergarten until I was well over 6 due, in part, to my need to be wiped after a BM, as well as what was then diagnosed as Attention Deficit Disorder. Why does everyone assume they "have to" send their kids to school? Whatever happened to old-fashioned, stay-at-home moms like my own with more than enough intelligence to teach elementary school?