1. Yes, I am a much happier person. But more importantly, although my wife and I had a solid marriage before my reveal; this revelation brought out something in both of us that bound us more closely together. I really do know she likes having this more gentle side of me, she has told me that on more than one occasion. I did hide this so well, that I wish that I could have a do over on some parts of my life with her... but that will never happen and I have to do the best I can for her moving forward.
2. Yes, my brothers and sister that know absolutely nothing about this have commented on more than one occasion that I am a much happier person now.
I know I have mentioned my niece, a family counselor, on more than one occasion. For a few years, up to my reveal to my wife she and I had many long discussions about things, about life, about happiness... but never about this side of me. After I told my wife and things turned around, my niece noted a "sea change" for the better in my demeanor, in fact she began referring to me as "Uncle X 2.0". Although she did not know what the catalyst was for my metamorphosis. It took another year of conversations, of her badgering me about what had changed in my life to change my perspective, my outlook. Through many conversations I would tell her without really telling her, I would beat around the bush.
Finally, I knew that she could better talk with me if I came clean. So I began to ask her about the most unusual things that she had ever had to deal with as a counselor. She did tell me that she did have an AB couple but she had to refer them out as she had no experience with this. So, I knew she was at least familiar. Finally, I told her, but the thing was from all that I had beat around the bush, she had already figured it out and she told me, "that of all the things that I could have done in my life to deal with the stresses: drugs, alcohol, sex... that this was nothing"
Obviously because of me she is much more familiar with AB/DL now, and has done her share of research. Like my wife she was totally accepting of it all. She told me it is unfortunate, that my family and friends will never know the "true me" that I still mostly have to keep hidden. I am just happier for the most part while I do it.