So back in the day I'd enjoy wear/wetting a diaper here and there, but it wasn't a huge thing to me. I didn't plan on telling my then girlfriend-now-wife, as it wasn't a huge part of my life, and I felt weird about it. I've been incontinent for about a year now, have to wear 24/7, excluding a few breaks I've gotten where my bladder decides to cooperate for a little while, and my wife has been totally supportive of me with me wearing to manage it, which is great. To be honest, I'd prefer to not have to wear 24/7, but that being said...
In an effort to make lemonade when life gives you lemons, I'd like to see if I can introduce her to the DL "darkside". She's rather open to such things, but there is a catch. Now, I've read all the advice on how to do it slowly and easily, but I have a much different scenario. Before I met her, she used to DJ some clubs that had fetish rooms in the back, and she saw a little bit of everything. Unfortunately included in that was some parts of the ABDL crowd that weren't necessarily the best ambassadors, we'll say. She's mentioned it to me unprovoked, early on in our relationship, seemingly as a benchmark for just how weird the stuff she saw DJing got.
Fast forward to when I became incontinent, she had no problem with me wearing diapers (medical only, I've never tried the well-regarded AB ones), and actually when I've asked if I should wear or not on certain occasions, she always says I should. Now, she doesn't want me to wear forever, and does suggest I go back to the doctors to try to get another solution, but I'm not a fan of the side effects of the medication. I think it's more that she doesn't want to roll over at night into a wet spot ;D
To further confuse this, there has been a few occasions where I mention I ordered the wrong size diapers, or something didn't fit me well, she's said "well maybe I'll wear them or something", in a dismissing-my-concerns sort of way. This, along with along with a few other instances of comments like that (including her wanting to watch me change when we were tipsy at a friend's party), led me to ask her if she'd want to wear one (for practical purposes/situations at first). She brushed that off, and responded "ewww I'd have to poop in it too?!", of which I told her she didn't have to at all, and that I never do (too much hassle to clean up). We laughed it off.
Much later than that occurrence, (at an opportune time) I came right out with it and asked if she'd like to add some spice to our intimate life, and said that she'd mentioned it before, if she'd like to wear a diaper too. She thanked me for thinking about new things, and how she liked that it was on my mind, but that she wasn't interested in that specifically. In retrospect, I should've phrased it more about me, and what I'd like, than asking her if she'd like it. She seemed a bit uneased by it, but we moved on from that discussion and had a good time together the rest of the day.
From here, I'm not quite sure where to go. I had considered bringing it up, that after trawling the internet for incontinence info, I came across "diaper lovers" and found it actually appealed to me (a little white lie). I'm not sure though. Any thoughts?
In an effort to make lemonade when life gives you lemons, I'd like to see if I can introduce her to the DL "darkside". She's rather open to such things, but there is a catch. Now, I've read all the advice on how to do it slowly and easily, but I have a much different scenario. Before I met her, she used to DJ some clubs that had fetish rooms in the back, and she saw a little bit of everything. Unfortunately included in that was some parts of the ABDL crowd that weren't necessarily the best ambassadors, we'll say. She's mentioned it to me unprovoked, early on in our relationship, seemingly as a benchmark for just how weird the stuff she saw DJing got.
Fast forward to when I became incontinent, she had no problem with me wearing diapers (medical only, I've never tried the well-regarded AB ones), and actually when I've asked if I should wear or not on certain occasions, she always says I should. Now, she doesn't want me to wear forever, and does suggest I go back to the doctors to try to get another solution, but I'm not a fan of the side effects of the medication. I think it's more that she doesn't want to roll over at night into a wet spot ;D
To further confuse this, there has been a few occasions where I mention I ordered the wrong size diapers, or something didn't fit me well, she's said "well maybe I'll wear them or something", in a dismissing-my-concerns sort of way. This, along with along with a few other instances of comments like that (including her wanting to watch me change when we were tipsy at a friend's party), led me to ask her if she'd want to wear one (for practical purposes/situations at first). She brushed that off, and responded "ewww I'd have to poop in it too?!", of which I told her she didn't have to at all, and that I never do (too much hassle to clean up). We laughed it off.
Much later than that occurrence, (at an opportune time) I came right out with it and asked if she'd like to add some spice to our intimate life, and said that she'd mentioned it before, if she'd like to wear a diaper too. She thanked me for thinking about new things, and how she liked that it was on my mind, but that she wasn't interested in that specifically. In retrospect, I should've phrased it more about me, and what I'd like, than asking her if she'd like it. She seemed a bit uneased by it, but we moved on from that discussion and had a good time together the rest of the day.
From here, I'm not quite sure where to go. I had considered bringing it up, that after trawling the internet for incontinence info, I came across "diaper lovers" and found it actually appealed to me (a little white lie). I'm not sure though. Any thoughts?