I feel most people who end up in the diaper talk forum are ab or dl, and I'm neither, so offering the perspective of someone who is incontinent. I know what I'm wearing is a diaper no matter what anyone else calls it. It was hard to accept that I needed them. At first I would have been ashamed and embarrassed if someone had called them diapers, every mention a reminder of my new reality. But, as time has passed I think not calling them what they are reinforces the stigma. If more people, especially those who deal with them most, refer to them as diapers then they show there there is nothing to hide, no reason for anyone to he embarrassed or ashamed by. When medical professionals and others who deal with incontinent patients don't call them diapers there is an implication that wearing a diaper is wrong, even if it is neccessary, otherwise there be no reason to dance around the subject.How would you feel if at the doctor's office, the nurse asked you to "remove your diaper"? Are you OK with others like this calling them "diapers" to your face and even behind your back? Or do you feel that they should be more "respectful" and call them "underwear" or "briefs" in public and only diaper wearers should call them "diapers". Health care providers strongly believe they should never say the word "diaper" to a patient out of respect and I'm wondering your thoughts on that. Thanks!