quartz200420012 said:
That being said, I would seek medical intervention first via a pediatric urologist. This is mainly to diagnose and check for any sort of serious medical issues that have been overlooked. Plenty of things can cause someone to have no control. If the doc says you kid is fine, then go from there.
Read post # 18 then look up on Austism and sensory issues.
It's not unusual for children with autism to be unaware of the signals to go, and there's no urologist that can "fix" it , they only thing that could be done depending on the level of how far he's in the spectrum is a routine training to try and make him aware, but this does not always work and if children with autism past 6 - 7 are still not trained, there's little guarantee it might work.
jimmy4444 said:
Hi Jessicamom
Why doesn’t he change himself? At 13, a young persons body is changing, and they would want things to be more private.
Again, autism as many shapes and forms, and I may be the wrong person to tell because I do not have it but many others here do and can clarify it far more and better, but from what I have learned from them is that self care can be difficult for some, please try to understand that some children with autism need more guidance and time before they are able to take care of themselves more and more, don't be like most parents that say "my child is 2 and can't walk yet
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If his mental development allows, he will eventually learn, but it requires a lot of patience, time and attention, however there is a chance it will never work.
And as already mentioned by
@Jessicamom she mentioned that his personal hygiene also needs work, which is again not uncommon for children with autism, regardless of age.
I personally would say, one thing at a time, and avoid stress for both parent and child.
The thing is a lot of people with autism learn to work with spoons as a mental energy counter and when they run out, they need to recharge those in order to function.
At this age it is indeed important to work on skills to be able to take care of yourself, but one thing at a time. And diapers are not the worst thing in life, being able to get food and cook it , wash yourself, dress yourself, etc is a bit more important (just to give an example)
But that's more for the parent to decide, thing is, if he needs them at night and sometimes at day, any stressful even will cause an unannounced accident, then you really wish he was wearing one.
Sensory awareness of the "I gotta go" signal is a primary requirement if you want to teach him to be potty trained, if that isn't there, and with autism this happens a lot depending on the level, there's no point in beginning.