So about 6 years ago I came out to my wife as a DL, and she was OK with it. Long story short, Well I kinda went alittle over board with using, OK I guess some would say alot lol. Needless to say she wasn't on board any longer. So I need help on how to bring it up to her. Thank you all in advance.
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Well how much is a lot?Tacoma83 said:
Consumed to the point of ignoring her needs? Can't go anywhere or do anything without wearing a diaper?
She's your wife and you should know her better than anyone. Ask her why the sudden 180, unless you already know why...which I'm guessing you do because I'm sure there were subtle hints along the way.
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Maybe you need to find some middle ground: times when you can wear and times when you don't. You probably do need to have a discussion over this. Always stay calm and respectful of your spouse. Conversation is probably key.
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Bring it up to her? Does she know? I am a tiny bit confused. But I'm sure she will work things out if you are level-headed and maybe find out what her fun ideas are; who knows? Romance has a potential forever possibility with creativity and spicing things up.
But I don't know the personality factors involved. We all know, outside of diaper wearing, what is cool to do with our other halves and what isn't. (I'm a whole, but I was there once).
What we can get away with, and what we can't. Maybe it's time for a gentle easy fun evening of something that helps make it easier to talk about. I personally would take them camping. Perfect excuse! "Boy, it's cold out there! I ain't runnin' out freezin' my..hey! I have the solution! And it will be fun and goofy to do! I'll be back in a second..Just wait..." lol. Then, "Here. Let's play! let's spice things up!" and make sure you have really good gourmet snacks hidden away, too. Other things she really likes, if needed. Make it fun.
But it depends on the personality factors.
But I don't know the personality factors involved. We all know, outside of diaper wearing, what is cool to do with our other halves and what isn't. (I'm a whole, but I was there once).
What we can get away with, and what we can't. Maybe it's time for a gentle easy fun evening of something that helps make it easier to talk about. I personally would take them camping. Perfect excuse! "Boy, it's cold out there! I ain't runnin' out freezin' my..hey! I have the solution! And it will be fun and goofy to do! I'll be back in a second..Just wait..." lol. Then, "Here. Let's play! let's spice things up!" and make sure you have really good gourmet snacks hidden away, too. Other things she really likes, if needed. Make it fun.
But it depends on the personality factors.
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OK so you have identified the issue, now it's up to you to make it right. You know the problem and you probably know the solution, you just have to be willing to compromise and put those solutions forth.Tacoma83 said:
Also diapers should never come before family, friends, work and especiallyyour wife. You gotta learn to balance it.
Looks like you're gonna be diaperless until this blows over, perfect time to patch things up and get back in her good graces again.
Good luck.
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Well it's better to talk about it in your home than in a lawyers office or a courtroom.Tacoma83 said:
Not saying separation or divorce are on the table, I'm just giving you scenario to think about.
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My wife and I had that discussion especially since I was her kidney dialysis partner, running the machine. I told her I would always be the man she married, especially when she needed that. It worked out well for us.
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Are you doing baby things while wearing diapers?Tacoma83 said:
Wearing diapers hardly makes one less of a man. There's gotta be some things you're doing to give her that perception.
Sit down and talk to her. It's your best bet. When you say you can't live without her she needs to understand that but you also need to help her understand that the "diaper thing" isn't going to go away, it will always be with you.
Have you showed her this site?