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My wife and i have been struggling with many issues over the years. We have been together for 24 years and married for almost 23 of them. We separated two months ago hoping to save the marriage. It appears to have worked. Tomorrow she is moving back home and we are working through several areas of conflict. On Saturday she asked me what acceptance of my diapers looks like. On the spot I did not (and could not) articulate it. It is not the reason for the separation (she knew within the first week we were dating), and I was not completely sure myself. I think I have come up with the answer, but wanted to run it by others that may have been/are in a similar situation. Throughout our dating and marriage, I have grown up and understood more about this side of me. In many ways, I have grown up and come to terms with most of it. Here is what I am planning on sharing with her based on a book we are studying together:
“What does acceptance look like? After rereading Chapter 2, the three critical components of comfort came to mind.
Touch: I do have a need to be touched, everywhere. Please don’t avoid my I midsection when I am wearing a diaper. I would love it if you felt free to playfully pat me on the behind, or gave me a squeeze from time to time. Touch has a way of reassuring me that we are ok and that I am acceptable to you.
listening: sometimes I need to talk about it. This is a topic that spends a lot of time in my head alone, which can distort things and give them greater meaning than they deserve. Say the word ‘diaper’. I’m not ashamed or embarrassed when you say it. Just the opposite most of the time.
Relief: I’m ok and you are ok with me the way that I am. I think I need to see and hear that from you from time to time.
Other: there are other things that I would love from you. I understand that these things may be very challenging for you and that’s why they are in a separate section.
I would love to be diapered by you. In the morning after a shower, at night after lovemaking, sometime when you want to show me love in a different way. I do not see this a sexual in nature, but rather an expression of love and caring.
I would love to be surprised by you wearing a diaper. I know that you know how sexy I think you look in one, and would I be (so many expressive words that I can’t pick one), on top of the world?”
Any advice before I share this with her?
“What does acceptance look like? After rereading Chapter 2, the three critical components of comfort came to mind.
Touch: I do have a need to be touched, everywhere. Please don’t avoid my I midsection when I am wearing a diaper. I would love it if you felt free to playfully pat me on the behind, or gave me a squeeze from time to time. Touch has a way of reassuring me that we are ok and that I am acceptable to you.
listening: sometimes I need to talk about it. This is a topic that spends a lot of time in my head alone, which can distort things and give them greater meaning than they deserve. Say the word ‘diaper’. I’m not ashamed or embarrassed when you say it. Just the opposite most of the time.
Relief: I’m ok and you are ok with me the way that I am. I think I need to see and hear that from you from time to time.
Other: there are other things that I would love from you. I understand that these things may be very challenging for you and that’s why they are in a separate section.
I would love to be diapered by you. In the morning after a shower, at night after lovemaking, sometime when you want to show me love in a different way. I do not see this a sexual in nature, but rather an expression of love and caring.
I would love to be surprised by you wearing a diaper. I know that you know how sexy I think you look in one, and would I be (so many expressive words that I can’t pick one), on top of the world?”
Any advice before I share this with her?