Need help : Dealing with diapers while living at parent's house...

[Moyinaoa]

Hello everyone,

I know that this topic has been discussed dozens and dozens of times, in all kinds of ways, but in the end even if the subject remains the same in form, in substance it is different, because everyone has a different context, and mine too, I'm going to give you as much information as possible, and I sincerely hope that someone will take the time to answer me with kindness.

First of all I know that when we live with our parents, and that we (want to) wear diapers, it's always delicate, we have to be careful about so many things to avoid getting caught, it's also a question of respect towards our parents, not imposing them this fetish that is intimate to us and that only concerns us, that risks to embarrass them as much as us if it was to be found.

Some will say that we should abstain and forget about diapers while we live with our parents, and that once we live alone we can wear our diapers.

I answer them that it's not wrong, but in my case it's particular, I don't know at all when I'll live alone NOR EVEN if it would happen one day (and that's another subject, but it's the reality, and it's useless to tell me "go live alone, there's no reason" because if I say it's not possible, then it's impossible) and moreover I don't know if it will be possible one day, and even less when it might be.

If I were to tell myself "I'm waiting to live alone to wear diapers, and for now as long as I'm at my parents' house, I'm totally forgetting about the idea of wearing diapers at their house" it's EXACTLY like telling myself:

"I'm waiting to win the lottery jackpot"
Because no one knows if they'll win the lottery one day, and even less when it might happen, so it's the same for the "when will I live alone" question.

And right now I'm living with my mom, and a few years ago I was screwed, she knew about the diapers, I managed to get out of it by making her (more or less lol) believe that they were not mine, and I'm sure she didn't believe it at all, and even before that, she knew that I was wearing diapers because someone I told had betrayed me and even sent her screenshots of the message in which I was telling that someone. I was caught in a trap.

But since then, she forgot about it, and we didn't talk about it anymore, and she thinks it was just a temporary thing, and that I'm over it now, when in fact I'm not, it's still there, even more than before.

And if she knew that I still like to wear them, and that I wear them from time to time, I'm sure she would be: angry and very disappointed, but when I say disappointed, it's a real disappointment where she would question her education and she would think that it's her fault, because for her it would be an anomaly. (she had already told me this before).

Today I live with her, I hide my diapers as best I can, and the only time I allow myself to wear them is when she is sleeping, so I wait until she is asleep, I go to my room, wear a diaper, sleep with it, and as soon as I wake up I take it off.

The problem is that I am constantly paranoid that she will find the hiding place, that during my sleep she (or someone else by the way) will come and wake me up by pulling the bed sheet and that by bad luck the diaper will be seen protruding from my pants, and that I will have to deal with an embarrassing situation with the diapers as soon as I wake up

I already had 2 times the reaction of my mother about the diapers, and both times it was anything but a pleasant moment for me, I clearly understood that she didn't agree at all with that, that it was really weird for her, that it's an anomaly, a deep and sad disappointment for her.

I wouldn't like to put her through it again, because it would make her sad and angry (almost), and I wouldn't like to be in this shameful situation of having to justify myself as best I can, or to sink into lies (it's a "friend's" or I'm supposed to be leaking etc...) because she knows that there is nothing like that and that I just like wearing diapers, since the person had already told my mother about it a long time ago

My father also knows about it, I told him directly, he didn't appreciate it either, but he was still quite understanding and told me that I could go on as long as I remained discreet and that nobody else knew about it. But now I live with my mother (my parents are divorced and I live with my mother).

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Let's get straight to the point and the problem:

I don't have the keys to my room, she refuses to give them to me, it's the house rules and I can't do anything about it, so this huge message to ask you :


- I am very afraid that during my sleep -with a diaper- someone comes to wake me up, pulls the sheet, and that my diaper is sticking out, is there a solution, a tip, an advice or what do I know in order to anticipate and prevent this scenario? A bodysuit ? Not a bodysuit ? Something else ?

- If it should happen despite all precautions, what can I do or say? Just say that it's ONLY my business, no one else's, and that I don't want to talk about it with anyone else? It wouldn't help the situation at all, but maybe it would at least save me the painful moment of having to explain myself...

- So how do I sleep in a diaper, in a room that can't be locked (no need to ask me to find a key or anything)? What is the most discreet way ? Put a onesie under my pajamas? What if the bodysuit itself shows? And in summer when it's super hot at night, how do I do it? Bodysuit or not bodysuit ?

Thank you very much to everyone who took the trouble to read this long message, I tried to make it pleasant to read, and I sincerely hope to have serious and benevolent answers, thank you very much.

 

[Kittyinpink]

Hey !
I understand completely.
I cannot advise on hiding them, as I got caught a few times !
But I do sleep with a onsie, and also wander about the house in one , sometimes with a diaper underneath. My onsie hides every thing perfectly ..

Downside .. I had it specially made by s company that has now gone bust .. it's amazing quality and fit , and I have no idea where you might find one like that..

But if you can , that should reduce your fears .onsies are fashionable enough nowadays..

 

[SuperMaidRavi]

I get the situation your are in, as I had experienced something similar not that long ago

Sadly, for the "privacy" part, there is not really much you can do apart from getting a lock and a key. I doubt you can actually anticipate someone just barging into your room to do their business with you (apart from setting a motion sensor and a loud alarm system 🤭).The best "precaution" you can do is get something versatile and sneaky, like a bike chain and just lock the door from the inside this way, maybe not everytime, but in the summer when it's hot and you don't want to wear anything over your diaper

All I can recommend you for your issue is wearing an onesie and shorts. Onesie will make sure your waistband doesn't peek from the top, aswell as just compress your padding a little bit, making it tiny bit less visible. Yes, if it's hot in your room you might sweat a little, but that's up to you, if it's worth being sneaky and wearing your diaper .Don't be afraid of getting an onesie, they are really comfy to wear 🤭

If you get caught and want to explain yourself, you can always go with the "it's my thing, I don't press it on anyone around me and it doesn't hurt me or anyone else" type of explanation... there really isn't a more universal answer than that.

 

[Moyinaoa]

Hey !
I understand completely.
I cannot advise on hiding them, as I got caught a few times !
But I do sleep with a onsie, and also wander about the house in one , sometimes with a diaper underneath. My onsie hides every thing perfectly ..

Downside .. I had it specially made by s company that has now gone bust .. it's amazing quality and fit , and I have no idea where you might find one like that..

But if you can , that should reduce your fears .onsies are fashionable enough nowadays..

Hey ! Thanks for your reply.

we have something in common haha, I got caught a couple of times.

Do you walk around your house (with your parents?) with only the bodysuit and the diaper underneath, no pants?

Actually, I'm afraid that while I'm sleeping, someone will pull the sheet (to wake me up, to laugh or whatever) and that you'll see either the diaper or the bodysuit, let me explain:

maybe we'll see the t-shirt (which is the bodysuit) going into the pants, and people will understand because it's not at all my habit to wear a t-shirt that goes into the pants, you know?

However, I didn't understand your very last sentence, about fashion?

 

[Kittyinpink]

Ok , my onesie is big and fluffy and cute . It completely hides a diaper , no problem. So you might want to look at getting yourself a onsie , as a pyjama suit , it's norma these days for adults to wear onsies as they became fashionable for adults to wear onsies , so no one would suspect any ulterior motive , also they are lovely and snuggly! Not a body suit , that's different.

 

[Kittyinpink]

 

[messydiaper]

My advice is consider not keeping any diapers in the house at all. It's unlikely that someone is going to rip off the covers and demand to see your underwear (At least I hope?), but you might be asked to get up and go to another part of the house, in which case the tell-tale crinkle is going to make it sound like you're wearing a diaper.

In your situation, I think I would store the diapers either in an off-site locker or in the open in the woods somewhere in a plastic bag. I would go to my remote diaper location, get one diaper at a time, and put it on in a restroom somewhere away from home. Then I would plan to go home when no one else is there, stash the diaper under my mattress. Then if I was feeling secure enough, I might slip it on before I go to sleep, then slip it back off under the covers before I get up in the morning.

I would wait until the house is clear again, put on the diaper, leave the home, and then dispose of the diaper in a public restroom.

What you don't want is to have diapers stored in your house while you're not there, because the whole house is fair game for your mom to look at. If the diaper is never present when you are gone from the house, it simply can't be found.

You can probably get by with pajamas with feet in them, but a t-shirt onesie is a dead giveaway too. You don't want that in your house. Also footed pajamas are a trap if you're wearing at night. You'd have to remove the pajamas to remove the diaper. If you sleep in just the diaper, that can be slid down and kicked off under the covers. Then you can always request privacy to "get decent."

My thoughts are a little jumbled, but I will add, that the entire time of me sneaking diapers from seventh grade through college, I was never caught. That was back in the middle 80's to early 90's. I covertly wore everything from Pampers/Huggies to Attends/Depends living in my family home.

 

[Lyric]

I'm not sure from what you have posted why you can't discuss this with your mother like you did with your father. He seemed to have mature attitude about your desire to wear diapers. From other posts it doesn't seem like you want to wear diapers all the time, just once in a while and privately. I should think your mom could understand. She obviously loves you. Don't make a big deal out of it with her, but wearing diapers once in a while for comfort seems pretty trivial.

 

[Moyinaoa]

Ok , my onesie is big and fluffy and cute . It completely hides a diaper , no problem. So you might want to look at getting yourself a onsie , as a pyjama suit , it's norma these days for adults to wear onsies as they became fashionable for adults to wear onsies , so no one would suspect any ulterior motive , also they are lovely and snuggly! Not a body suit , that's different.

Nice onesie !

So you were talking about onesies, ok ! I also got one ! I already wore it around my parents, and it's pretty much fine, they say it's a cute onesie.

So definitely onesie COULD be a kind of good solution, but really not for summer, since my summer is only suitable for cold seasons, i cannot wear it in summer...

Can a bodysuit be a good idea for summer, sleeping with it diaper + bodysuit ?

By the way, i'm talking about a "simple design" bodysuit, just a simple color, no ABDL patterns.

 

[Moyinaoa]

My advice is consider not keeping any diapers in the house at all. It's unlikely that someone is going to rip off the covers and demand to see your underwear (At least I hope?), but you might be asked to get up and go to another part of the house, in which case the tell-tale crinkle is going to make it sound like you're wearing a diaper.

In your situation, I think I would store the diapers either in an off-site locker or in the open in the woods somewhere in a plastic bag. I would go to my remote diaper location, get one diaper at a time, and put it on in a restroom somewhere away from home. Then I would plan to go home when no one else is there, stash the diaper under my mattress. Then if I was feeling secure enough, I might slip it on before I go to sleep, then slip it back off under the covers before I get up in the morning.

I would wait until the house is clear again, put on the diaper, leave the home, and then dispose of the diaper in a public restroom.

What you don't want is to have diapers stored in your house while you're not there, because the whole house is fair game for your mom to look at. If the diaper is never present when you are gone from the house, it simply can't be found.

You can probably get by with pajamas with feet in them, but a t-shirt onesie is a dead giveaway too. You don't want that in your house. Also footed pajamas are a trap if you're wearing at night. You'd have to remove the pajamas to remove the diaper. If you sleep in just the diaper, that can be slid down and kicked off under the covers. Then you can always request privacy to "get decent."

My thoughts are a little jumbled, but I will add, that the entire time of me sneaking diapers from seventh grade through college, I was never caught. That was back in the middle 80's to early 90's. I covertly wore everything from Pampers/Huggies to Attends/Depends living in my family home.

Hi, thank you very much for your extremely helpful answer, I'm going to give you an answer that I hope will be up to yours, and I'm going to take the liberty of asking you also 2 or 3 questions through my answer, which will always be related to the main topic.

I will answer in the same order as the points you mentioned.

You mentioned a clever point, when you say that maybe while in my room, wearing a diaper (even with pants on top) maybe someone will ask me to come out of my room, and... it will be tricky because I'll have to get up with the diaper, the noise of the diaper (if it's a diaper with a plastic liner) and this situation is indeed more likely than someone coming to pull the sheets while I'm in them lol.

So... in that case, what would you advise me to do?

If this situation were to happen (having to leave my room unexpectedly while wearing a diaper) I would try to save time by saying something like :
"wait, I'm just changing my pants/t-shirt and I'll be there in 10 seconds"
OR : I would say I'll be right there, and I would quickly take off the diaper, hide it while I go see what I'm being called to do, and then come back to pick it up and throw it away.

AND if someone comes looking for me in my room, asking me to come out right away, I'd ask to leave me 30 seconds so that I can change,
OR : say that I'm expecting a phone call right away and that I want to be alone while talking on the phone,
OR : even apply a much more incisive strategy, which in my opinion could be effective: "I'll be right there, I'm in my underwear now, I'll put on some pants and I'll come out".
(which one's better according to you?)

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Regarding the hiding tips you gave me, they are relevant, and my current hiding place is close (in concept) to what you described!

My stash isn't in the house, and when I know I'm going to want to wear a diaper at night, I take 1 and put it in a backpack, and when I want to throw the diapers away, I put the diaper in the backpack, go outside, and throw the diaper in an appropriate place.
The problem is that whenever I want to go outside I get asked why, so when I go to get/discard a diaper I always have to make up an excuse... lol!

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Where I'd like to ask you for more clarification is when you say "a t-shirt onesie is a dead giveaway" why do you think that?

If I put on a bodysuit, WITHOUT ABDL PATTERNS, and I put on the diaper + "normal" pajama pants, is it still risky or is it totally safe? Can you please explain ? (still in the case of sleeping)
I think I have to find an answer to this question, because until now I take the risk to sleep with the diaper and a normal pants, thinking that at any time someone could come in while I'm sleeping, and that by lack of luck the sheet would not cover me at that moment, and that one could see the diaper that goes beyond the pants... too bad !

So I thought of putting a bodysuit when I sleep, just a classic bodysuit with a plain color, with a round neck. Nothing ABDL.

But... what if the bodysuit itself gets burned lol?! (for example, if someone comes in, and sees that the t-shirt (the bodysuit) fits in my pants... a woman could easily guess that it would be a bodysuit, right? because they are used to wear them. And I'm not used to put my t-shirt in my pants....)

What do you think about it ?

Thank you again for your time !

 

[messydiaper]

"I'll have to get up with the diaper, the noise of the diaper (if it's a diaper with a plastic liner) and this situation is indeed more likely than someone coming to pull the sheets while I'm in them lol.

So... in that case, what would you advise me to do?"
My go-to move would have been to be sleeping in a diaper with shorts over the top. If someone summoned me from bed I would slide everything down, kick the diaper off under the covers and pull my shorts back up. Then I would be taking a chance that when I got out of bed no one is going to look under the covers while I'm out of bed.

"Where I'd like to ask you for more clarification is when you say "a t-shirt onesie is a dead giveaway" why do you think that?"

The ones I'm thinking of have snaps at the crotch. Someone seeing a t-shirt like that is going to wonder why an adult would have a t-shirt onesie that snaps at the crotch, regardless of whether or not it has ABDL prints.

If your ultimate concern is not being caught by anyone in your house, not wearing at all is the safest bet. If you choose to wear in the house you cannot eliminate all the risks and there's always going to be an outside chance of someone finding out.

 

[Hemix]

How old art thou? Art thou studying or working? If thy case is the second one, then, I would have a conversation with her and defend my side.

After all, thou hast a working life and there are good reasons to wear them, even if it's because of sweating down there or just for comfort and pleasure.