My First Time Post

[I12BLittle89]

First time post. As a male, I like wearing boys briefs. I have boughten a set of Target’s Cat & Jack briefs quite a few times. I get rid of them from time to time because I reject my little side often. This last time I bought their briefs. I got the next size down. So instead of the XL (14-16 I think?) I got the size L. I found that the XL fit loosely Adler a short time of wearing them. The leg holes would get loose and it felt really baggy. I realized that I stretched out the leg holes and they never came back to original size. So I thought maybe stepping it down a size would help. I expect some kind of stretching but even the larges were a little baggy. I noticed that both the L and XL fit quite well initially. Snug but not tight in all the right places with plenty of room to move. The prospect of going down to a M was appealing but I realized that the L naturally was shorter. If I went with a M. I would be risking not having enough rise in the front or back. I thought maybe a wash and set to high on the dryer would shrink things up a bit but it didn’t help. The sizing is generous to say the least. I love the soft waistband and can’t say no to the Dinosaur prints. It’s what got me to buy them in the first place. Never knew I was into dinosaurs so much. I don’t care for the shark stuff that’s so common. I figure if I lose a little weight. The M’s might be a thing. I tried the Walmart brand a few times. The XL was tight and that was before I gained all this weight. The waistband was scratchy. My man parts were squeezed. They kept their shape better. That was the only plus to them. I did try the Children’s place once while they were still open in town. I don’t remember it much. As I’ve mentioned, I purge this stuff often. I feel like I remember the experience being pleasant. I also tried Hanes boys boxer briefs with really cool camo print size 18-20. I was so daring to wear these in front of my wife who knows about my little side but does not approve. She would notice at times and comment on how small they looked. I would shrug it off as “I’ve had these for awhile. You’re just now noticing this?” She seems to forget often. So when she did laundry last (she doesn’t do it often), she called to me like I was in trouble for something. Demanded an explanation for the Hanes. She seemed to notice how much smaller they were to my normal adult size M boxer briefs and I replied with my usual “I’ve had these for awhile…” She seemed persistent. So I suggested giving them up for the goodwill. Afraid she was going to check the label and see “XL” written in them and then crack a can of worms open. These were snug btw. Squeezed my man bits but it was oddly comfortable and I loved the support. I ended up throwing the ones she didn’t see away. So now the two she knew about sit in the goodwill pile. She’s forgotten about them. I quickly defused the problem by suggesting that they go to the goodwill pile because the fertility clinic said my sperm count is “normal” but 1% are healthy and they want it to be above 4%. So my wife said no more briefs. I bounce back and forth between boxer briefs and boxers normally.

But I really got daring when I bought the Walmart brand pajamas that had my favorite dark green fleece pants that were tight fitting. They had dinosaurs all over them. The top has a huge glow in the dark T-Rex. I climbed into bed with them on and she asked if it was part of my little stuff. I lied and said no. She went with it but one night I couldn’t hold it in anymore and I got drunk so that I could confess this to her. She doesn’t know what to do with it, it seems. But because I let that out. I hid them for a time but ended up throwing them away. I also wear diapers on occasion but as I’m fighting with my conscience. She’s reconciling her differences with it. Only been married for a year and a half and I didn’t hide this when we were dating. She brings it up with the counselor a lot. Counselor hasn’t talked to me much about it. He’s never heard of it. I haven’t found any good clothes at JC Penny because the shop in town has like an area the size of my living room for kids clothes and it’s incomplete what they do have. I tried Old Navy and I wasn’t impressed with their brief designs.

As for other clothes. It’s hard because nearly all of the boys clothes are too close to adult clothes as stated before. They have stuff referencing gaming or sharks if they are childish. Dinosaurs are it for me it seems.

If anyone is wondering about my size. It’s hard to know really. My weight has been going up steadily since I came back from overseas. I got down to a 29-30” waist and 136 lbs at 5’9 in summer 2019. I’m now 170 last I knew. Some of it was muscle growth because the army changed fitness standards. So I had to start building muscle to keep up. A ton of it has been body fat due to stress. L/XL Goodnites fit perfectly for me since I started wearing them in 2007-08. Never could fit into S/M except for a short time after returning home in 2019 but they were snug. Now the new L Goodnites are snug and the XL fit right. At first they seemed to fit a little big. The L was snug but the XL was right. Has been ever since. I’ve never measured myself. I used to think 32” waist but I’ve found that varies between who makes the clothes. But it’s to the point now that a lot of my pants are fitting anymore. Most are 32” waist. I tried measuring my waist like the army does around my belly button and it was 36” but that doesn’t equal wear my pants lay. I tried measuring that once and I had something like 38" I think? That doesn’t seem to add up. So I don’t really know.

 

[I12BLittle89]

On the Walmart pajamas. They weren’t tight as in too small. They were not loose fitting but designed to be snug. I bought the 18-20 Husky on those. Forgot to mention that. They seemed to fit fine. I only had issues with the back creeping down when I bent over. So my butt crack was visible. It didn’t have a string tight so I couldn’t tie it up or anything. I determined there wasn’t a lot of room for the seat. I later noticed this with my other adult sized pants. I determined these would have fit fine if it wasn’t for the uncharacteristic weight gain I’ve been having.

Also the Cat & Jack briefs allowed for plenty of room in the crotch for male private parts. The Walmart brand briefs were cut more like female panties. Which attributed a lot to their tighter fit. The Cat & Jack seemed to retain its shape well in the crotch. It was only the leg holes that didn’t seem to have any elastic or ability to return to its original size after being stretched. I’ve had multiple pairs of the Cat & Jack briefs and have noticed the same basic fit each time. Very consistent in sizing. Hanes is a mixed bunch in the same package. All pairs labeled 18-20 but each pair fits slightly tighter or looser than the other.

 

[Cottontail]

Boy, I wish I could fit into any actual kids' clothing. No way. 36" waist, and 210-220 lbs. I do have some Pokemon clothing in adult sizes that manages to feel pretty darned kiddish though, and as I'm a professional geek I can wear it just about any time.

I hope your wife can be recruited at some point, or that she at least becomes more tolerant in time. My own wife accepts but doesn't play mommy to me or otherwise get involved. I kept her in the dark for many years and only "came out" (was dragged out) when she stumbled upon some of my diapers. Not exactly the best way to do things, but as the saying goes, "all's well that ends well." I'm going to guess that your wife doesn't know about the GoodNites? In any case you'll get no judgment from me, as I was hardly forthcoming with my own wife. I don't exactly recommend secrecy, but it's part of the balancing act many of us are forced to play.

 

[I12BLittle89]

When I feel the urge, I make a trip to the local store and buy a pack of Goodnites and hide them in the attic. She doesn’t go there. There’s nothing stored there and it’s cold and dark. There’s no artificial lights. There’s cobwebs and fiberglass insulation strung everywhere haphazardly. We bought the house in April and I’m still trying to go through everything. She hates confined spaces, cold and dark places. So much so that she doesn’t do laundry in the basement. It’s not even confined down there. So I hide stuff there. I purge a lot of times but this last time I had Goodnites, Cat & Jack briefs and some kind of adult diaper that was like a diaper but without the tapes. It just laid inside your underwear like a pad but was literally like someone cut the wings off a typical adult diaper and saved the pad. It worked ok. Can’t remember the brand. Medline maybe? I also found some disposable inserts by Medline I think? Both of the last two I found at thrift stores. Pad was more like a booster. It had one side that was adhesive. It had cuffs on either side but let’s not try to pretend they did much for leak protection if used in underwear as the instructions implied. I placed them inside my Goodnites and when I wet. The pad took the bulk of it early on and then as it continued to come out. The pad overflowed onto the Goodnite and started absorbing there. It sat nicely inside the leak guards . So this pad with he cuffs worked to not only absorb but also slow down the flood of urine. Allowing both the pad and the goodnite to absorb. The XL has been surprisingly working well by itself. I don’t know what they did but I rarely have leaks. The L/XL would always leak. Strangely when I could briefly fit into S/M I never leaked with those. But with this pad in the XL I was able to go with almost 100% certainty it wouldn’t leak. I had one time where my leg felt damp. It didn’t obviously leak but some moisture did make its way out but it was barely noticeable. I wear when she’s not around and dispose of discreetly. She never looks in the trash when throwing stuff away. She seems to have a hard time throwing things away in the first place. I’m the one tasked with taking the trash out. So I get a lot of freedom in that way.

I am eager to find out what changes Goodnites is working on now.

 

[Cottontail]

I am eager to find out what changes Goodnites is working on now.

Me too. If they make the crotch just a little wider, I'll probably be able to use them. As it is I can pull them on without difficulty, but using them is another matter. I end up with gaps through the crotch and I leak instantly.

She never looks in the trash when throwing stuff away. She seems to have a hard time throwing things away in the first place. I’m the one tasked with taking the trash out. So I get a lot of freedom in that way.

I'm glad you've got a system. And your attic hiding spot is very familiar. Wife and I lived in an apartment shortly after we were married, and it had attic access from a loft. Similarly my wife had no interest in going into the attic, so it was an obvious place for a secret diaper stash. These days I'm not concerned about hiding it from my wife, but I have kids on the prowl. My diapers now live in plastic tubs high on shelves in the garage. So far the kids have shown no interest in digging around in the garage, but I do keep an eye out for that.