My boyfriend's kinky fetish might doom our relationship.

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Advice on manners and morals (May 29, 2008). - - Slate Magazine

Sweet Jesus nooo! We're in another sex and relationship column and -


Wait! Did I read that right? This Prudence woman is actually supporting the fetish? And she actualy did real research into infantilism? No way!
Any writer who cites Wikipedia is not a professional writer at all. This publication is just something to blow your nose with on a Sunday morning.

All the writer did was turn the person's letter around.

As for the girlfriend, the bitch should have dumped him the moment she found herself intolerant, despite saying she couldn't imagine "living without him."

Why did the girlfriend try to get advice from a low-ball publication when she could have spoken to a psychologist or other health expert.

Call me crazy, but this letter response makes me think of some desperate and nervous boyfriend who is posing as the girlfriend.

Either the two get counseling and she accepts his lifestyle, or she leaves him so he can pursue someone who will accept him and his fantasies.
 

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She didn't cite Wikipedia so much as she provided a link to some helpfull information.

I agree that the girlfriend should probably have dumped him instead of treating him that way.
 

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She didn't cite Wikipedia so much as she provided a link to some helpfull information.

I agree that the girlfriend should probably have dumped him instead of treating him that way.
Very true. She has two options: Accept or dump. Option three is out of the question because she has no current tolerance for his behavior.
 

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Funny, it's like the one I posted (This JUNK makes me SICK!) but with a better outcome.
 
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I posted a thread on this back when the article came out and we had some good responses.

http://www.adisc.org/forum/adult-baby/2884-outsiders-perspectives.html

If you didn't see the discussion on the article, I think that was more revealing than Prudence's response as it shows how the average person might react to what we do.
Heh, and my words there still stand.

But just to add to that, one possible reason I think that people within this fetish wish to tell others about it is that we run it through our heads so many times, that we begin to justify it. That we convince ourselves that it's all okay and that if we can accept it, then so can other people. We should all probably remember that these people have probably never heard of it before, and therefore haven't had the time to sit and mull over it. So what is a perfectly okay thing to us (and it is) can easily be seen to come across as surprising to others. Without that knowledge that we have there for them, they assume the worse.
 

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I'm inpressed at the advice that she offered that lady. It was true and helpful. Good find!
 

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I'm inpressed at the advice that she offered that lady. It was true and helpful. Good find!
I must say the advice was actually positive yeah. It was very cliché: "a rash decision", "it'll be difficult to absorb the news", but all in all it was positive.

The news is all about sensation though, and the acceptance-level of most people falls far below the earth's surface. Sadly, the girlfriend or whoever it might be will most likely forget about the advice as it goes against her sense of "normal" and she'll probably dump the guy. But, wonders can happen, and not all people are evil :)
 

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That was so full of underhanded diaper puns that it wasn't even funny. The author is poking fun at us in a very vile away. I don't like it.
 

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she didn't research all the information regarding infatilism and D.L. lifestyle. True, she did offer her support to "Wiped" (LOL) but it bugs me that she had to use Wikipedia as her only source. Wikipedia isnt a source, only a large collection of wikis. My guess is that she will end up breaking up with the guy as she sound quite uncomfortable about the whole ordeal. This is a very good example of what could happen if you come out to the wrong "significant other." Be careful.
 
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she didn't research all the information regarding infatilism and D.L. lifestyle. True, she did offer her support to "Wiped" (LOL) but it bugs me that she had to use Wikipedia as her only source. Wikipedia isnt a source, only a large collection of wikis. My guess is that she will end up breaking up with the guy as she sound quite uncomfortable about the whole ordeal. This is a very good example of what could happen if you come out to the wrong "significant other." Be careful.
It's better to come out to the "wrong" significant other than to hide your fetish for the rest of your life, or until your SO finds out on their own and then dumps/divorces your ass.
 

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sorry to say
but in this day and age, wikipedia has a lot of information on the matter
unless it features in an encyclopedia then it's pretty hard to gather information in the way youd like her too, i mean
theres almost no positive reporting in the media on it.
 

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sorry to say
but in this day and age, wikipedia has a lot of information on the matter
unless it features in an encyclopedia then it's pretty hard to gather information in the way youd like her too, i mean
theres almost no positive reporting in the media on it.
I have to say something to this. The article about diaper lovers on wikipedia was partially taken from a book, as seen in the sources: (Thomas John Speaker, Psychosexual Infantilism in Adults: The Eroticization of Regression. Columbia Pacific University. pg 83. Available from: DPF, Sausalito, CA 94965.) Wikipedia writers try their very best to be as objective as any encyclopedia writer can be, without being paid for. The media does cover some objective information about ABDL. But, if you're looking for it, you should not expect to find it in newspapers, magazines, television, or any other medium that depends on statistics rather than objectivity.
 

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I have to say something to this. The article about diaper lovers on wikipedia was partially taken from a book, as seen in the sources: (Thomas John Speaker, Psychosexual Infantilism in Adults: The Eroticization of Regression. Columbia Pacific University. pg 83. Available from: DPF, Sausalito, CA 94965.)
Has anyone actually seen this book? What are the author's credentials?
 

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Has anyone actually seen this book? What are the author's credentials?
I looked it up for you, and it seems to be a very rare book, but it does exist. The following link contains a review of the book at a website called Sexuality dot org, which I consider to be a quite reliable website. ( Review of Psychosexual Infantilism in Adults: The Eroticization of Regression ) I have never seen the book myself, but I'll be sure to look for it some day. I doubt the wikipedia writers made up a book, and faked a review about it, that's too much for just making up references.
 

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Thanks Redtails!

I have no doubt that the book is real... I just want to know if the author is a doctor or psychaitrist or "sexual councilor" or just some douchebag who thought he knew infantilism.
 

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I have no doubt that the book is real... I just want to know if the author is a doctor or psychaitrist or "sexual councilor" or just some douchebag who thought he knew infantilism.
By looking at the quotes posted on that review page, I guess it's just a professional/psychiatrist who got interested in it and wrote a book about it.

Wikipedia is often cited to be unreliable by some, and academic papers must not be written with the help of wikipedia, but University students are never allowed to use any kind of encyclopaedia to begin with. I believe there's a lot on wikipedia that is just as reliable as any encyclopedia. Especially if it's written by people who've actually been through something. I mean certainly a diaper lover can write better experiences than someone who researched them.
 

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It's better to come out to the "wrong" significant other than to hide your fetish for the rest of your life, or until your SO finds out on their own and then dumps/divorces your ass.
Yea sorry i wasnt specific enough. What i meant was this is an example of what could happen if you come out. I fully support coming out and telling significant others about your fetish, but it's all luck of the draw if he/she is accepting enough to continue the relationship.
 
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Explain to me red tails, if they can't use encyclopedias, how do they get their information. Are they doing their own research or what?
 
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