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I am just above 18 years old and are living with my parents. I have since I was around 14 been wanting to wear diapers and suck on a pacifier again, But when I finally got to admit it to my mom ( that wasn't until I was 16 ) she said no. She then said that it was very weird and gross. I said that the internet said otherwise, but then she just said that all on the internet was fake and she wouldn't allow it in her house. It has gone 2 years by now and I don't know if I can handle it anymore....... I can't move yet cause of not enough money or a stable job yet and she still won't let me do as I want! WHAT SHOULD I DO???????
 

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I think there are some things going on that you are not talking about yet. It does sound like you are in need of being a baby for security.

It is not gross.

At my age I wear diapers for need, but I also like being a baby. I sleep with a paci and my teddy bear every night. It is security for me. Having my teddy and paci make me feel safe. There Emotional needs that are sometimes hard to explain to other people.

We seek comfort in things that make us happy . There is never any thing wrong or gross about it.
 

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I think there are some things going on that you are not talking about yet. It does sound like you are in need of being a baby for security.

It is not gross.

At my age I wear diapers for need, but I also like being a baby. I sleep with a paci and my teddy bear every night. It is security for me. Having my teddy and paci make me feel safe. There Emotional needs that are sometimes hard to explain to other people.

We seek comfort in things that make us happy . There is never any thing wrong or gross about it.
thanks for the post :D. but the problem is that my mom don't like me wearing diapers..... I would just need suggestions of what to say to make her change her mind ....
 

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thanks for the post :D. but the problem is that my mom don't like me wearing diapers..... I would just need suggestions of what to say to make her change her mind ....

You're 18. Why do you need your mum's permission to do what you like? Just keep it private and she never needs to know.

I mean... do you ask your mum if it would be okay to masturbate? Do you discuss what kind of pornography she might allow you to view in your house... ("Hey mum! I want to watch fat Asian girls getting fisted by clowns! Is that okay with you?!") Or is that something that both of you would rather avoid talking about? Maybe diapers are the same kind of taboo...
 

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thanks for the post :D. but the problem is that my mom don't like me wearing diapers..... I would just need suggestions of what to say to make her change her mind ....

You are only bring up Mom, No father in the House?

If they are divorced, then that may have had a big impact on you. Even the loss due to death. It does appear that you are seeking security from this.

Only you know your mom, it soes sound like you both need to sit down and have a long talk about a few things. I think you are wanting more love from your mom then what you are getting. You are seeking that love by doing the only thing you know how do that is being a baby. There is nothing wrong with that at all.
 

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thanks for the post :D. but the problem is that my mom don't like me wearing diapers..... I would just need suggestions of what to say to make her change her mind ....

You can't. I'm sorry.

I've been there. Even if your mother is usually pretty open-minded about sex and stuff, AB/DL stuff is notoriously one of the hardest things to accept for parents. Be prepared to face the fact that you may never change her mind. You are advised to either find a good hiding place and do it behind her back, or wait until you have the opportunity to move out.

I don't know your mother, so I'm not sure how strongly she feels about this. Is it 'only' that she finds it weird and gross and doesn't want you to do it, or would it be reason for her to kick you on the streets and remove you from her will? Most parents wouldn't do that, but some may be crazy enough, I don't know... In the former and more likely scenario, I'd say 'just go for it'. Don't inform anyone, though. If you're ever caught, prepare for a difficult and emotionally draining argument, but if your mother is anything like mine, you might end up with a somewhat awkward construction in which you're still not completely being accepted for who you are, but you're reluctantly being allowed to store diapers somewhere in the house as long as she doesn't notice.

I'm also not sure why you asked her permission in the first place. Do you ask her permission to have sex as well? (Edit: now that I've posted I see Tiny kinda made the same point =P)
 

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I'd also say hide it altogether and just get diapers and the pacifier by yourself. I've been doing this for some years now since I haven't told my parents. If you have a bit privacy like a own room and there are drugstores or big supermarkets near where you live, this is rather easy to manage. Goodnites for example are easy to get and altough they are not a "real" diaper they are pretty close :)
 

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You're 18. Why do you need your mum's permission to do what you like? Just keep it private and she never needs to know.

I mean... do you ask your mum if it would be okay to masturbate? Do you discuss what kind of pornography she might allow you to view in your house... ("Hey mum! I want to watch fat Asian girls getting fisted by clowns! Is that okay with you?!") Or is that something that both of you would rather avoid talking about? Maybe diapers are the same kind of taboo...
I didn't mean it like that. It is just the fact that she won't allow me to take diapers into the house. ( she is in her 50's right now aswell so she is in her mid-life deppression. )
 

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I didn't mean it like that. It is just the fact that she won't allow me to take diapers into the house. ( she is in her 50's right now aswell so she is in her mid-life deppression. )

Be covert. She shouldn't be snooping in your room at 18, or asking about what you're buying with your own money (if she does politely request she cut that out). Hide them well and it won't be a problem. There's no reason for her to be involved in this stuff in any capacity.
 

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You can't. I'm sorry.

I've been there. Even if your mother is usually pretty open-minded about sex and stuff, AB/DL stuff is notoriously one of the hardest things to accept for parents. Be prepared to face the fact that you may never change her mind. You are advised to either find a good hiding place and do it behind her back, or wait until you have the opportunity to move out.

I don't know your mother, so I'm not sure how strongly she feels about this. Is it 'only' that she finds it weird and gross and doesn't want you to do it, or would it be reason for her to kick you on the streets and remove you from her will? Most parents wouldn't do that, but some may be crazy enough, I don't know... In the former and more likely scenario, I'd say 'just go for it'. Don't inform anyone, though. If you're ever caught, prepare for a difficult and emotionally draining argument, but if your mother is anything like mine, you might end up with a somewhat awkward construction in which you're still not completely being accepted for who you are, but you're reluctantly being allowed to store diapers somewhere in the house as long as she doesn't notice.

I'm also not sure why you asked her permission in the first place. Do you ask her permission to have sex as well? (Edit: now that I've posted I see Tiny kinda made the same point =P)
I don't know if she is treating me diffrently or anything else. ( she is 50 years old and i think she is in her mid-life deppression , or whatever you call it in english) the major problem is that she is very old-style, and very proud and serious. I think she feels a little bit like she was a bad mother... At the same time is it as good as impossible for me to hide anything from my parents cause my room is right above theirs and they can hear nearly everything that happens my room.....

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It is just really hard to hide stuff from my parents...... they aren't the allow you to do whatever you want type if you understand what i mean

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The problem is that she isn't trusting me at al. I admit that I have done some bad-things ( stealing ( you know small stuff ) smoking behind their backs and such ) but I think it is mainly because they think I am a homosexual-pedophile. Cause when they found out that I had smoked, I got banned from using my PC and Iphone for a week. That meant that the only way I could get some diaper pics was to look in one of those baby-books ( you know, those books that are for mothers that are awaiting child ) they caought me in the act...... I am still going to a psykiatrist ( I think it is spelled like that )
 

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I didn't mean it like that. It is just the fact that she won't allow me to take diapers into the house. ( she is in her 50's right now aswell so she is in her mid-life deppression. )

There is also the rule-of-fist that it is seen as social and civilised to not do anything in your parents' house they would disapprove. In our house, there is a no-drugs rule, so I wouldn't use drugs at my parents place (not that I do at all, but it's an example anyway).

When you've got your own place, you can do what you very well please, but as long as you live with your parent(s), you'll have to live by their rules. That's how it works. Essentially, you're a guest in your parents' place.

Of course, one could try to be covert. I, for instance, order diapers for when my parents are gone for several days. This only happens once or twice a year, but that's currently enough for me. However, I never use diapers when my parents are at home. Additionally, I rarely wear my collar when they're in, since I know my parents feel a little awkward about that.

It's just that I respect them by behaving like they prefer. I live in their house and I pay them nothing, so the least I can do in return is behave as they ask.
 

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Dad is still around he is just more passive than mom.... that is all

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but it is the major problem that I want it so much.... I have been having harder to sleep at nights. I just want to, but being unable to it just gets so damn frustrating. ( this have been building up for 2 years... )
 

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This sounds exactly like my own situation. My mother is in her 50's and caught me a few times with diapers/plastic pants and yelled at me so bad, its a big emotional scar.
It's very tough for me to have the guts to have those items again, but Despite the terror of being discovered, I must have my wonderful underpants. I'm also well beyond 18 years of age, and they shouldn't dictate what I can do, but It's hard when your family doesn't support you.
Almost got caught a few days ago, I had a diaper under the bed, and she was up there changing my bed sheets without warning. I'm usually more careful, because I have good hiding places.
I also keep things in my trunk of car and wait till they are gone long enough for me to sneak things in. I'll also go grocery shopping and get paper bags instead and buy items that will cover the diaper package I put at the bottom.
For online things, I ship it to a UPS store, and pick it up there and keep it in trunk to wait to take it inside. If you don't have UPS stores, you could look around locally for some place that might accept a package for you.

Hope those ideas help
 

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The thing I wonder is... Would it have been diffrent if I would have been honest about my ''thoghts'' to my mom earlier? Would she have been more okay with it then? With that I mean before she became so grumpy.....
 
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The thing I wonder is... Would it have been diffrent if I would have been honest about my ''thoghts'' to my mom earlier? Would she have been more okay with it then? With that I mean before she became so grumpy.....

No. When you are taken out of diapers you are expected to grow up and fit into the social norm. The association with adults and diapers dictates that you are not worthy of the adult world, when that is not usually the case at all.

Truth be told, I don't really think anyone of us here can say what we are doing is right, however, if it's not hurting someone else and is giving you closure at the same time. Then is it really a wrong?

My advice: If you continue to pursue the AB/DL lifestyle / fetish, then educate your mum on why it is you are doing it in the first place.
Then, tell her what AB/DL is and that you are not the only one with this interest.
Then, introduce her to the world of AB/DL and show her enormous testimonies from others.

It is only when you and your mum and come to a consensus is when she will accept it.
 

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I am just above 18 years old and are living with my parents. I have since I was around 14 been wanting to wear diapers and suck on a pacifier again, But when I finally got to admit it to my mom ( that wasn't until I was 16 ) she said no. She then said that it was very weird and gross. I said that the internet said otherwise, but then she just said that all on the internet was fake and she wouldn't allow it in her house. It has gone 2 years by now and I don't know if I can handle it anymore....... I can't move yet cause of not enough money or a stable job yet and she still won't let me do as I want! WHAT SHOULD I DO???????

You can move out (if you really want) or you can lock your room/closet etc.

But the worst thing just you did before: Telling about with your mother. I can't understand why some people telling about sexual (or fetish) thems with their parents. Mostly is contraproductive.
 

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the problem with that is..... She dosen't trust the internet. I said that it wasn't that rare but she insisted that It was VERY RARE and that it is EXTREMELY FEW that does this and that they are worthless people. It didn't really help...

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and because she dosen't trust the internet she don't look it up or listen to any source I bring up

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It was because I could't get diapers at the age. I only had money on my bank account. I got allowense ( i think that is the right word ) you know when you get money regulary at young age from your parents. but they only wrote down what I had at the moment and then I was allowed to use that much money whenever I wanted. SO I had to ask her to buy diapers which she refused
 
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Sounds like you need a job then. I was working at the age of 15, so it cant be that hard.
 

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But to move requires alot. I need a completely stable job I need to have said job long enough to feel safe about it and earn enough to be able to take a loan to buy my self an appartment or my own house
 
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