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I lost my mom last year. Thanksgiving and Christmas was pretty rough. My mom also liked Easter.
I wasn't there when my grandfather and grandmother passed away and I wasn't there when my mom passed either. My grandmother passed in 1997 the same day Princess Diana was killed in that car wreck and my grandfather passed away in 2004. My mom's third husband had a massive brain aneurysm and didn't survive it. He passed away in 2006; and my mother passed last year 2020. The only one I was present for was my mom's third husband.Sorry for your loss, we all handle it differently and I’m not afraid to say I’m not going to handle it well if I have to see one of my parents pass. That’s a tough hit to take and I wish it on nobody
Sorry for your loss as well. They were for me too. My mom's birthday is two days before Easter this year so that'll be a double whammy for me. I'm really not looking forward to Mother's Day and going to church to get a white rose (which symbolizes that the person's mom has passed) instead of a red one (symbolizes the person's mom is still alive).I lost my mom last year. Thanksgiving and Christmas was pretty rough. My mom also liked Easter.
My mom's was April 2nd which is two days before Easter. My birthday is also in April (29th). April was my family's big birth month. Mom (2nd), Cousin Benjamin (5th), Grandfather (22nd), Cousin Tim (23rd), and mine (29th).My Mom who passed-away back in 2008 and I have the same Birthday, March 6th.
It is a tough loss for sure. I lost my grandmother in 1997, my grandfather in 2004, my favorite stepdad Lloyd in 2006, and my mom last year 2020. It hasn't been an easy road for me. But every time that I think about them; I just reassure myself that they are not suffering anymore and that helps me pull through. I would say that my mom's passing has probably been the hardest of all for me to handle. Sure, we had our struggles. But in the end; we ended up being very close to each other. I really wish that I could have spent more time with her but COVID brought an end to that where I couldn't visit her as often as I would have liked to. But what helps me most is I try to focus on the times that I did spend with her. Like on Tuesdays; I would go to the Dairy Queen not far from her nursing home and I would buy her a combo meal and take it to the nursing home and have lunch with her. Or even the time that she was making Christmas cards for people that she knew and she knew a lot of people there! After she passed; I found a Valentine's Day card that she had for me but didn't get to give it to me because of the pandemic. This choked me up; But nevertheless I was glad I found it. I still have pictures of her and Lloyd, one of me and her, and one with an Elvis impersonator named Travis who visited the nursing home quite frequently before the pandemic. I also have one of her and another resident. I was told that whenever the staff saw the other resident pushing my mom's wheelchair; they would often say "Here comes double trouble!". They only called them that because this resident and my mother shared the same name. I was looking through some of my mom's old scrapbooks that I found and I was hoping that I could find the one picture that I want to frame and put on my remembrance wall of her and that was the picture of her holding me after I was born. Sadly; I couldn't find that one. But you never know; I may get lucky sometime and come across it.Sorry for your loss, we all handle it differently and I’m not afraid to say I’m not going to handle it well if I have to see one of my parents pass. That’s a tough hit to take and I wish it on nobody
I have moments all the time where I think I'm handling it well and then something will come along that will remind me of my mom and just derail the way that I feel. I definitely understand where you're coming from. People really don't understand what we are feeling right now. They won't until it happens to them. But on the same token; some people are so rock steady in their emotional states that they can't have empathy or sympathy towards someone whom is going through something like this.My mom died in January of 2021 and wasn't a COVID victim. Yeah she was sick but it wasn't one of those things you really saw coming. It's only been 63 days. Three weeks ago I thought I was "handling it" well. I was totally kidding myself. Shit hurts. The more you love someone the more intense the pain.
A family member told me that they didn't understand why I was "depressed" even though they knew my mom died. I totally cut that person off.
It's like a roller coaster that you can never get off of.
Thanks!Losing someone you love is always difficult. The pain really does not ever go away completely.
Don't ever let anyone tell you that you should be over it by a certain period of time. Grieving has no time limit.
Also memories keep the ones we lost alive in our hearts.