Looking For Some Words of Wisdom From Those With Life Experience

[TSecret102]

Following on from the title - I am a male currently in my early to mid 20s and feeling a bit lost. I have come to the point in my life where I feel like I need to tunnel my focus on something specific in order to be successful. This has left me with the feeling that I must drop some activities that I enjoy immensely through fear of spreading myself too thin. As a serial over-thinker, I am struggling to find my own place in life, I can't help but feeling in some kind of limbo.

Just looking for some feedback from those who have felt this way in their own lives and how they personally overcame this hurdle.

Thank you.

 

[diddles]

Join the club that includes everyone on the planet at some specific or multiple times in their lives.

Please provide us with more specific details so we know what your concerns are.
For starters... in what way 'successful'...in a career, as a person, financially?
What do you think you might have to give up in order to focus on what?
Diapers, sports, sex, drugs, women, the Monarchy?

I would just say at the outset that you might like to try to control your over thinking because that can be very, very habit forming I think far too often

 

[dogboy]

Sometimes we do have to drop some activities in order to focus on other activities. I'm a musician so I'm devoted to getting in a certain amount of hours practicing to maintain some pieces and learn new ones. I've had to give up some things which really need to get done and that means the practicing will have to suffer.

Sometimes we get tired of who we are or what our job is and in order to move on, there is a lot of time and work involved learning a new skill. I think a lot of people go through this so you are not alone. My wife taught me to make lists. Making a list of your goal or goals and listing what you need to do to meet those goals can be very helpful. From there you can prioritize and do it one small step at a time so it isn't overwhelming.

 

[Kittyinpink]

Sometimes we do have to drop some activities in order to focus on other activities. I'm a musician so I'm devoted to getting in a certain amount of hours practicing to maintain some pieces and learn new ones. I've had to give up some things which really need to get done and that means the practicing will have to suffer.

Sometimes we get tired of who we are or what our job is and in order to move on, there is a lot of time and work involved learning a new skill. I think a lot of people go through this so you are not alone. My wife taught me to make lists. Making a list of your goal or goals and listing what you need to do to meet those goals can be very helpful. From there you can prioritize and do it one small step at a time so it isn't overwhelming.

That's very good advice. Thank you . 😊

 

[Kittyinpink]

I think it really depends on who you are as a person.
If you follow a career that doesn't suit who you are , you will be forever struggling.. possibly 'successful ' , but that's relative .
My biggest mistakes , were to go for money /security , rather than happiness.
I will happily trade 'success ' for erm.. happiness 😊.
You must be true to yourself, or you will be sad .. and you only have this one (always to short life.)
Be realistic, work out what you can do , that would honestly make you happy and stress free ..
I personally would hate being a banker , or having to manage a company etc..
I love simple things, and a complicated career, complicates my life .. I have found a way to make a living from my interests. I plod along happily now with zero stress and a gentle every day enjoyment of my life .
I am happy
I am fortunate.
I focus on two lines of work. Both of which I enjoy .
Over thinking is a sign of stress .. that's something you must address ASAP.. do you know what is really bothering you ? Don't try to live a false life to please others perceived perception of you .. seek only which makes you happy 😊

 

[Zeke]

I’d love to be able to help but according to my friends I’ve never been in danger of over thinking anything!

 

[Kittyinpink]

I’d love to be able to help but according to my friends I’ve never been in danger of over thinking anything!

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