- Babyfur, Sissy
Who here has/is expecting/wantd kids?
There are some kids I like but for the most part I hate kids. So no kids for me.
To a small extent I agree, but I know I would think differently if they were my children or grandchildren.I'm one of the few that absolutely cannot stand kids. :wallbash:
In my bedroom there's spongebob bed sheets, 4 different stuffed animals of different sizes, a pacifier, two sippy cups and around a bag and a half left of diapers.... But they are all mine.Who here has/is expecting/wantd kids?
Argh. I'm no stranger to scenarios like this, but I would not like to bury a child--any child, much less mine.I always wanted kids. After college I moved to this very poor neighborhood, where the parents had lots of children,children they couldn't afford. They treated them horribly. They needed someone to take care of them, to take them from them, so I did. I took dozens of them and locked them up in my basement. After they got over the horror and crying, things began to go better....haha...
Actually, I always did want kids, so after college I got married and my wife and I tried to start our family. We went to her doctor, and he told her she shouldn't have children because she is diabetic and it would be dangerous to her health. I was shocked and we both felt like nature had played a bad trick on us. We discussed it and my wife decided to risk it. Our first child was born premature, but now he is this strong adult who teaches high school and coaches football. My wife lost our second child while I was on tour with our church youth choir. It was a tremendously hard time in our lives. You can't imagine what it's like to bury a little tiny coffin. I remember that it was white. We tried again and had our daughter, the one who now has her doctorate and is a professor at Virginia Tech.
When we moved to Lynchburg, we adopted my wife's nephew when he was 12. He has always been a joy to us. He and our birth son are so very bonded that it's a beautiful thing to see. This Memorial Day weekend we had a big birthday get together for my wife. Being all together with the grand children is, for me, what life is about.
As many of you know, my wife is now on dialysis. We do it in our home. She also has a wound on her foot that won't heal. We have paid a price for those children, but life is short anyway. Does it make sense to go through life safely, but have nothing to show for it. We all will die anyway. It is better to be brave, live life to the fullest, and look back at it and say, I faced it like a warrior. I may be scarred and battered, but I have lived the good life and won.