Kicked out/kicking your kids out.

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FluffyFluffers

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What would it take for you to kick your children out of your house?
Would you hate them?
Have you ever been kicked out?
Would you do it if you were kicked out?
 
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I've never been kicked out. But my father was so abusive to me that I willingly got out just as soon as I could. I started working at age 14 just so that I would be away from my dad for long periods of time.

I do know two people who were kicked out by their parents. They were adopted by one of my friends and her husband. The two kids made the unforgivable sin of telling their parents that they were gay. Of course, since fundamentalist Christianity is such a loving religion, their parents threw the two kids out into the street (ages 14 and 15).

My friend was a member of the same church that the fundamentalist parents went to. Since she and her husband gave the two gay kids a home for the next five years, she and her husband were both banned from that church too.

So they're Episcopalian instead of Baptist now. The gay teens are Wiccan and want absolutely nothing to do with Christianity.
 
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I have a few friends that have been kicked out for selling drugs, and a few that have to lie to their parents about stuff so as not to be kicked out
 

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My mom's done the whole "Bla bla get out!" When I really piss her off, but she's never actually kicked me out.

However, to live in my home, considering I am an adult, I have to either be in school, or I have to have a job / pay rent.

Would I ever kick my children out? If it was in their best interest. I think letting your 20 something child sit at home doing nothing is worse than kicking them out. However if my kids are going to school, or if they have a job and are just saving up or something then they're most certainly welcome.

Also - as my mother has pointed out to me, and I will to my kids, age doesn't matter. If you're living at home, you're under my roof, and my rules apply.
 

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What would it take for you to kick your children out of your house?
Would you hate them?
Have you ever been kicked out?
Would you do it if you were kicked out?
1. They would have to be a disruptive, rebellious, and a danger to other members of the household.

2. I'd hate what they're doing but not them. They're still my offspring and I'd want to see their lives turn around. If they did they'd be welcomed back home.

3. No

4. If kicked out, I'd try to have a close relative take me in.

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I was kicked out when I was 14 years old. I was NOT welcome back. I lived on the street for more then 6 months, then I lived with this guy Erik, who is 12 years older then me and I lost my virginity to him. we lived together for a year or so (going between different houses, apartments, and homelessness), during which at some point my mom called him up and told him he could have me for all she cared. and then I was sent to live in this transitional housing program for homeless youth and he moved out to hawaii (wink wink). the trans housing program reunited me with my family, but even since then i've had countless roommates, lived with BFs, etc, because my mother kicks me out regularly, soemtimes for one night, sometimes for months.

now im moving to hawaii to live with erik, since we are togther again and to escape an inevitable permanent kick out.

Moral of the story, id never do that to my kid. its one thing to kick out an adult child who has the means to get on his or her own ground but i had nothing. and yes, i do believe that my mother hated me when she kicked me out. i have a really shaky history with her and my dad, a long history of abuse and foster care.

and i just wanna say, tis never as simple as it looks. "what would you do if you were kicked out" is a question that has no answer, cause u dont really know til it happens.
 

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What would it take for you to kick your children out of your house?
Would you hate them?
Have you ever been kicked out?
Would you do it if you were kicked out?
1. In order for me to kick my kids out, they'd either have to be 24 and doing nothing, or commit a serious crime. Other than that, I would never do anything like that.

2. No, I don't hate anyone. I believe you can dislike someone, but should never hate them. "Hating" someone for being tempted by Satan/ The Devil is wrong, because EVERYONE has sinned. (Sorry for integrating my religion into this, I don't care if you don't believe this, I won't be mad at you, or think anything less of you.)

3. No, I'm only 13. My parents would only kick me out if I were gay, which I'm not, or if I had insulted my parents badly past age 18.

4. If I were kicked out below 18, I would call the police. After that, I'd probably notify my sister, one of my brothers, or my extended family in Michigan and Wisconsin. Parents do not have the right to kick a minor out of their home, I don't care who you are or what you do for a living. That is wrong. But if I were over 18, I would get a job if I didn't already have one, and get my own place to stay at. Also, depending on the reason for my eviction, I would cut off communications with my parents.
 
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4. If I were kicked out below 18, I would call the police. After that, I'd probably notify my sister, one of my brothers, or my extended family in Michigan and Wisconsin. Parents do not have the right to kick a minor out of their home, I don't care who you are or what you do for a living. That is wrong. But if I were over 18, I would get a job if I didn't already have one, and get my own place to stay at. Also, depending on the reason for my eviction, I would cut off communications with my parents.
sometimes staying on the street is a better alternative then going home, regardless of whether its illegal or not, just saying.
 

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I would only kick out a kid if he/she was dangerous to other members in the household (Except for myself).

My mate kicked her son out of her house because he was into drugs but, more importantly, he was violent. Since then he has come back 14 times to try to sort himself out. 13 times he's gone violent again but this time he has been clean for 6 months and is a top bloke.

I think it's important that parents accept their kids back if they want to sort themselves out. Otherwise there really is little hope of them coming good. If a parent doesn't do something to help... who will?
 

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sometimes staying on the street is a better alternative then going home, regardless of whether its illegal or not, just saying.
Yeah, but you could get adopted if you do call authorities. And then, those parents could be a little bit better than your original parents. The only problem with adoption is teens tend not to get adopted as much as children, babies, and toddlers, and you are moved through foster families constantly.
 

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I had to kick my son out because he left a glass with ice in it on my beautiful wooden table, and it left a ring. I could never abide that, as should any parent..haha..Well, I just had to start with something stupid, but really Hypnotized, I'm so sorry that you have had such a rough life. In reality, I can't imagine ever kicking any of my kids out. The only situation I could imagine was if they were doing/selling drugs and they were bringing dealers into the house. I'm a very private person, and I don't share well, especially with people that I would detest, so that would probably push me to my limit. My kids are great young adults, are very responsible and accomplished, so it's just not in the cards.

In a way, I was kicked out of the house when I was 2 years old. I just wouldn't stop messing my diaper. Actually I was put up for adoption, and was adopted when I was 2 years old. I can't imagine why a parent would put their child out if they were gay. Would they put them out if they were bi-polar, borderline personality, or mentally ill? Would they put them out if they had MS, or cancer. When my mom discovered that I was sleeping with my male room mate, on drugs, and wearing diapers she took me to a shrink. She always loved me, though she couldn't understand me. Parental love should be unconditional. Mine is for my kids, and always, always will. I would die for them.
 
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Yeah, but you could get adopted if you do call authorities. And then, those parents could be a little bit better than your original parents. The only problem with adoption is teens tend not to get adopted as much as children, babies, and toddlers, and you are moved through foster families constantly.
I was in and out of foster care all of my life and was never even considered for adoption except for a few times when I was very little. In fact, it was when I was moved out of foster care on what was supposed to be a permanent thing, when my mom kicked me out
So I'm a little jaded. :)

Plus hard cold true fact #1: NOBODY wants to adopt teenagers.
 

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I was kicked out once. It was last summer. At the time I didn't have a job and didn't go to school. Basicaly my dad got fed up with me (me being the bane of existence, even though I have never done anything to him other than being born).

I stayed at gram's. Nice woman, but definately doesn't deserve an extra person draining her resources. I especially felt bad because I moved in with her directly after my cousin left. So she had piece of mind for a few weeks until -bam- I end up on her doorstep.
 

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I was in and out of foster care all of my life and was never even considered for adoption except for a few times when I was very little. In fact, it was when I was moved out of foster care on what was supposed to be a permanent thing, when my mom kicked me out
So I'm a little jaded. :)

Plus hard cold true fact #1: NOBODY wants to adopt teenagers.
I know, it's sad. They get completely forgotten almost. I'm sorry for the hard life you've had, Hypnotized.
 
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All there really is to do is to rise above you past, it should never truely be forgotten because your past influences who you are but it doesn't make you.
 

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I got kicked out when I was a kid.

parents sent me to school overseas and split up. fun times.
 

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Plus hard cold true fact #1: NOBODY wants to adopt teenagers.
I unofically adopeted two. Ann was 18 and Lynn 15 when I met them dancing in the club I was at. Ann is a guest at a state mental instution now and Lynn is 30, married with two kids living out of state. It was stressfull and rewarding trying to make a home with two girls that their parents messed up so much.
Before the wrong idea is raised I slept with both often but NEVER had sex with either. I lost the girl I was seeing over them and am starting over at 49.


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I unofically adopeted two. Ann was 18 and Lynn 15 when I met them dancing in the club I was at. Ann is a guest at a state mental instution now and Lynn is 30, married with two kids living out of state. It was stressfull and rewarding trying to make a home with two girls that their parents messed up so much.
Before the wrong idea is raised I slept with both often but NEVER had sex with either. I lost the girl I was seeing over them and am starting over at 49.


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honestly, erik did used to talk of adopting me (though we were sexual partners, my mother did basically say you can have full guardianship if you want, and he was in his late 20s). there were a few other men who offered too. i've also had a daddy or two within this community offer to adopt me so i can forget about my birth family

but honestly thats key. MEN. I dont know your situation but these were not nice men (aside from erik, because I love him dearly) who just wanted me to have a nice loving family. they offered because having me around titillated them even if they couldnt have sex. it was definitely sexual. and i know i am better then that.
 
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I can't imagine why a parent would put their child out if they were gay.
Hm, maybe you can have a nice long chat with my parents then. (Never been kicked out, but the threat was made clear to me; "If you ever choose to be gay, you'll have no place in this house or family")
 
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